He wants me to move in. What do you think?

first you do not state how old you are !if you are an older person then be carefull even if this is the man of your dreamsdo not give up your indepoendance easily do you own anything be sure to secure it in your own name save a little of your own money it is easy to get caught up in the moment but remember you also have a future dont give up all for anyone be secure in your own life cause things happen I would hate to see you one day out and with nothing why not sugest if you realy want this he move in with you and be sure at least for a few years to kepp ypur stuff your stuff IE in your own name ?sory to burst your bubble but as the old sayin ggoes S*** happens even with the best of intentions!

That sounds really fast to me. At three weeks you havn't really gotten to know eachother yet. I don't believe in living together before marriage, though I know a lot of people do, so I would suggest not living together until you are married. If you do chose to move in together though be sure that you have an "out". Keep your place, keep paying the rent on it or the mortgage - don't sell it. If it doesn't work out with him you'll need a home to go back to! Also i don't believe in the whole "he's the one" thing, you chose who your "one" is. You make that committment, it isn't something that is decided for you.

Well I think it's great that you've met someone who you think could be "the one", I remember what it feels like to realize this for the first time. As for moving in together so soon, I'm not sure what to say to that. I know that moving in with someone can be very stressful and isn't always the fairy tale that we want it to be. My boyfriend and I were together for 2 years before we moved in together and even after that period of time, it was hard and stressful. My suggestion would be to enjoy your "dating time" for a little bit longer before moving in together. For my boyfriend and I, it's the memories that keeps us going through the hard times and so it might be important for you and your boyfriend to create a few more nice ones. Good luck with your decision :)

You should give it way more time before you decide on moving in with him. Not putting your hopes down or anything but, most people put on a front in the beginning of a relationship and after months of being together the REAL them comes out. I hope he is as good as you say and is the ONE for you. Best wishes to you.

Whoa, this is going way to fast, what in the world can you know about a man you have only been going out with for 3 weeks It is called lust dear not love. Please think back to all the bad things you admit you have been through, is the same thing happening again you jump in with out looking to see what is in the water in front of you. If this is the one he will be happy to wait for you to get to know each other a lot better. There is no reason that you have stated to be in such a hurry, other than he has mentioned it, You really need to think about this, the old saying look before you leap is an old saying because it is right. We can not know what tomorrow will bring. we know very well what the past has learn from the past to be prepared for the future Regards Robin

Dont'; uproot your life for someone youve only known for 3 weeks. He very well may be the one, but you need to give it a few more weeks. I would say 3 months at least. What if you move out of your place and then in 3 months have to find another place to live?

I do understand how you feel. I really do and I think it's wonderful. I hope though you slow it down just a bit. You haven't even known the a man a month. There is so much you don't know about him and he doesn't know about you. I'd really hate to see you get hurt and you could. Not just emotionally, which can be bad, but also physically. I have seen things go wrong when people move to fast. I've seen it go very wrong actually and I'd hate for that to happen to you. If he is the one there is no reason to rush to move in together. He should be more then willing to wait till you know one another. I would suggest waiting 3 more months before even thinking about moving in with each other. That's only a 1/4 of a year. Not really a long time at all when you think about it. That will give you time to atleast know some basics about him before living with him.

This is just my own opinion, so take it with a grain of salt. But if you've only been dating for 3 weeks, it seems much too soon to be moving in with each other. I think it's wonderful you two have so much in common! But unless you've been spending every waking moment together for the last 3 weeks, do you REALLY know him? Do you know all his weird quirks? Do you know first hand how he treats his mom? etc.. all kinds of stuff to think about.

I think that although you have known each other for 3 weeks you should wait. It takes more then 3 weeks to get to know someone. If you both care for each other then take it slow.. Get to know him more..Don't rush into a situation that may be more then what it's worth..Even if u think he is the best man u have had in your life.

I have one phrase to say to you, look deep before you leap! make sure you know everything you need to know about this man before you move in together. see how long he has been at his job, make sure he pays his bills on time. see what kind of relationship he has with his family. can he cook, clean, wash clothes. is he a sports nut? does he have money in the bank? they may sound like silly thing but these are the things that end a relationship. you have to really get to know someone before you make that move. and being that you said you have been hurt before you need to let him know what kind of woman you are and ask if that is the kind of woman he wants to be with. don't jump girl, take baby steps. if he is the one, he will wait until you get there

I haven't been in that situation personally (no one wants to live with me!) but I had a friend that had just gotten out of a LTR (engaged), met a new man within 5 days of breaking up and swore to me "He's the ONE". He moved in within 5 weeks and they lived together about 2 years before he moved out. Now she's with "THE ONE" again. Only your heart can tell you if this is right, but it's definitely a good idea to wait a few more weeks (the 6 you mentioned instead of the 3). Good luck, I hope it works out for you!

Hi, I post this a kindly as I know how, DO NOT move in with him. If your love is genuine, saving co-habitation for marriage (if it comes to that) will be the best thing you've ever done. I know this is not popular today but those "bad things" you've been through will only repeat themselves if you don't turn to doing what's absolutely right. Intimacy is to be experienced in the marriage relationship. Obviously, the choice is yours but please consider this; if he really loves you, he'll wait. countdown21.com

I think that if you both love eachother and feel comfortable enough to take that step you should do it. Moving in with someone is a good way to find out more about them and it might lead you to marriage or it might even make you learns things about him that you didn't know before that might change your mind if he's the one or not. If you're still nervous about it in three weeks maybe you could start out slowly but spending a weekend there or even a full week as a trial basis. Good luck either way!

Yup, looks a bit too fast ... I've been with my husband for 8 and a half years before we got married 2 years ago. I tell you, when we moved in together, everyday is a learning day. You make adjustments left and right. There are habits that you two will see and will have to eventually accept. These are also habits that may cause disagreements. Think carefully about what you want to do. Remember, you've been going out for just 3 weeks. Do you REALLY know this person and his personality? What about his family? Have you even met them? Why dont you just enjoy each others company first before actually moving in?Goodluck.

I gather that you have only known this man for about 3 weeks. In one of your posts you said that he says he will call at a cretin time but he dosen't call. That dosen't sound very reliable to me. Three weeks isn't a long enough time to get to know some one. You might be jumping from the frying pan onto the fire. If you have been through so much are you sure you should be trusting your own judgement? Just some things to thnk about.

Ldynimaway, If I'm reading you correctly, you are saying that you'll be moving in with him within approx. 6 weeks of meeting him? Big, red flag!!! Please proceed with GREAT caution!!! Something doesn't sound right, here!!!

Three weeks is not enough to think he is a keeper, I am sorry. I would wait a little bit longer. I would not want someone move in with me after such a short period of time. I donot think you know him enough.

I think that this is very good for you. Moving in together will give you idea of how far this relationship may or may not go. I would recomend this before anything else. I say go for it and enjoy life with him. My husband now I have been with for 11 years and he proposed two weeks after we were going out. I agreed to move in with him and see where it went, well it is still going.

Personally, I would wait just a little bit longer. I moved in with my first wife after a month or so and it was a little too soon. That was my experience but if you feel strongly about it then go for it ... just have an exit plan in case the relationship goes wrong.

Moving in with someone after a few weeks is a major step to take. If you have your own place and give it up what happens if it does not work out, would you be homeless till you find a new house or flat and the furniture. Move some of your gear in and stay there a few nights a week but keep your own place on for a while.