What is your opinion about husbands who treat their wives as their slaves??

I wouldn't be married to a man who treated me like this. The most important person in a man's life should be his spouse. That can't be forced, but that is how it should be. He needs to realize that his role in life changed when he got married. Now his sister needs to come second and his wife first. Its a hard adjustment, but it needs to happen. A marriage should be a partnership, one of mutual love and respect. Respect being key. The partners are equals and should treat eachother as such.

Well, because I'm a married man, I would say my wife is more important than my sister. Why..??? because with my wife I can do anything that I want to make myself happy as an individual. With my sister I just only her brother, there is nothing that we can do about it. Because we have a big limitation that forbidden us to make any further action. The conclusion is, love and myself is for my wife, attention and care is for my sister or my family.

Those guys should be taught proper lessons by their wives in such a way, they should never treat any other woman with disrespect and ill treat anyone. Start with cutting down the facilities extended at home. He will come to terms.

Thank you itgalary for the best response. I hope your friend can overcome this matter and have a stronger marriage afterwards.

There should be no comparison between the two both have a differnt place in a man's life. There should be some reason why your friends husband is obedient to his sister, may be she might have played a major role in his bringing up. This kind of comparison by a wife can never bring husbands to obey them, in fact wife should see what are the qualities of sister that command the husband and acquire them herself to get what she wants from her husband.

Slavery has long been outlawed. Maybe you should talk to the husband, if the wife cannot change her husband. I think an outside party can help make the husband realize that he should not treat his wife that way.

I believe that why it is written about God made a woman out of man is to teach us that how things should be. A woman is created from his rib, a significant part of him. And when they're joined together in marriage, they become one flesh. If a man/wife hurts their spouse, it's like hurting themselves. When things are not in order then they will collide everywhere. Just like your friend's husband who seems not to understand the supposedly relationship between man and wife compare to his other relationships. I can sympathize with your friend's feeling about not wanting to leave her husband, love sometimes is hard to understand. But in my opinion if your friend truly loves her husband, then she cannot let the abuse continues because it means she is willingly participating in destroying her husband's character. She might think that she's sacrificing herself to love her husband unconditionally, but it's not love if no lesson is learnt.

wives becomes slaves of their husbands because they tolerate such act. i think its best to tell your friend to love herself too. give herself some importance. if she doesn't know her importance and what she can do with or without a husband,i think thats the problem. wives with no careers, no achievements or anything that they can say they're proud off... makes the man think that they have total control over their wives because women depend on them. in my opinion, if some how the husbands know what their wife is worth something really important not just to his own family but the entire community, then he won't be treating her that way. to your friend, she must learn to speak out what he wants, instead of being contented following orders of his husband like a robot, right? it's not fair! i also had quarrels w/ my husband about that since i'm a work at home mom but most often, i win in our arguements. my husband also has hsare of responsibilities at home, and i don't allow him to make his job an excuse not to contribute in our daily routines at home, even for just taking care of the kids once in awhile.

It's the worst thing which is done by the husbands,i too thought that why they do like that,it should not be like that in my point of view.

I don't think those guys should be married at all. Didn't they marry because of love? Then whatever happened to that love if they can't respect the woman they married and cared about? I believe the man has to do some things at home as well, unless he's really rich, can make the woman stay at home and not work and let her shop for whatever her heart desires.

oh my goodness. You should tell your friend to leave her husband. I'm not kidding. We do not live in the olden times, wives are not slaves but equal partners. To share all responsibilities with each other, for the children, for themselves and for the life they share together. I don't think it's right that only women/wives serve their husband. Husbands should also serve their wives. If this is not the case I think she should just leave her husband most specially if there is another woman involved, more specially if it's a mother or a sister, you can never win there. You will always fall short of the pedestal he placed his sister in.

well..let him like his sister...but that doesnt mean he has to mean to his wife..well..in answer to ur question..wife's moer important than a sister..coz sister 's gonna be married to someone else and has to serve him...he is more important than a brother..same way..one's wife is the most important..she has to live with him the entire life and support him!!..when he's not gonna be nie with her, the relationship doesnt make any sense..one can treat their sisters very importantly, and love them more..but one should not ignore their wives or treat them badly...his life would make no sense if he does dat..if this continues..they dont deserve to be married...mayb they should go on seperate ways!!

I've been in this same situation - my now ex-husband was this way. I do not think it's right, I think a man should love his sister and help when possible but he should put his wife before the sister. I mean if it's a special curcumstance say his sister is ill and needs help I wouldn't expect him to ignore her and only pay attention to his wife. The day to day living, spend some time talking with the wife or do something around the house to help her, offer to fix her dinner rather than asking her to fix dinner for the sister all the time.