why not?

if a guy cheated on me, i would definitely not be there when they got back. I want a man who wants to be with only me and do the same for them. if a man is willing to cheat, i would never be able to trust them again after that

as much as possible i want to keep my husband not to cheat on me because that will hurt me so much. but we cannot teel what will happen in the future, but in case it happened to me. i will forgive my husband and i will be there when he get back, he is only human,and i love him so much..

That is such a wrong thing. It isnt a marriage if you arent working towards a good one. If the other party wants to cheat then don't enable them. It is also dangerous to you and your children to have a cheating spouse. I don't know why anyone would be in a relationship when they didn't want one.

Once I was married to a woman who cheated on me. That was pretty bad when I found out but what hurt as much as her infidelity was that she lied to me about the situation several times. She also told our then young daughters not to say anything to me about the man who used to come and visit her when I was not home. I am not sure if the marriage could have survived her infidelity but certainly teaching our daughters to lie was going too far. When I did find out and tried to talk about the situation, she called the police claiming I had threatened her. I was the one who had to leave the marital home and not her plus I had to fight her every step of the way to ensure I got half of the proceeds of the house when it was sold. Since that time I have met a wonderful lady who is my life partner. I will never have enough time with her no matter how long I life and every day I am thankful that she came into my life. So I can say that my marriage bought me a lot of grief but also my daughters and grandchildren. They make the fact of the marriage bearable because if there was not a marriage, there would have been no children. The breakdown of my marriage also allowed me to find the wonderful lady who is now my life partner. So in a strange way my ex-wife did my a favour when she decided to have a fling with another man. Some would say that it is also poetic justice that some 14 years after we separated my ex-wife is still not settled down with the one man.

If they are going to cheat, you are right, you can't stop them because if they want to do it bad enough, they'll find a way to do it. However, I won't be there when they come home, or they'll come home to find their crap spewed all over the lawn.

Well if both parties can agree to it then it can work. The question becomes can both parties agree to it. Basically cheating is toxic, and it will change the relationship no matter what.