Do you get along with your siblings?

By Tesa
United States
February 12, 2007 8:01pm CST
I don't have brothers or sisters, but if I did, I hope I'd get along well with them. It seems to me that siblings are the most important relationship one can have in one's life because unlike any others, the relationship can range from birth to death. People start to drift away from their parents, if not physically, emotionally and mentally when they reach adulthood and, unless there's a tragedy, your parents die long before you do. Lovers can come and go. Successful, long-time romantic relationships and even friendships don't start as early as birth. But your relationship with your sibling does, and continues (if you're on good terms) until death. So, do you get along with your brother(s) and/or sister(s)? If not, why not?
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@maddysmommy (16230)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I have a beautiful twin sister and 3 brothers, two older and one younger. We are only 1 year apart of each other i.e 35.36.36.37.38 infact three of us were born in the same year (me and my twin in February and my younger brother in December). We have always been close no matter how far away each of us live from each other - even if we have had a run in or two, we will always love each other. I miss them a lot since they all live in New Zealand and Australia, however thank God for the internet, email, cellphones and phones.
• United States
14 Feb 07
Wow! Three kids in one year. Your mom was probably very tired after that. LOL BTW, happy birthday, sometime this month. :)
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• Philippines
13 Feb 07
i have 3 big brothers, 2 sisters. The eldest is my sisters next to her are my 3 big brothers then me, then my youngest sister. we don't have rivalries with each other, our parents treats us equally. when i was 10, there's one incident that caused my father's early retirement and made him disabled. it made my brothers and sister work early and made them pay for our education. now, we are all finished with our studies and engaging on which business we prefer that would make our profits grow. sometimes there will be conflicts with money but somehow we still avoid not to get the argument more serious. having a lot of siblings makes you family life happy, especially when holidays but the hardest part of that is when all of you need to separate to have your own family.
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• United States
13 Feb 07
I have one brother and one sister. My sister and I were always close growing up. Since I made a wrong choice with a husband, I had to run. Because of this my sister and I have grown apart over the years. I often think and wish that her and I could be close but everytime that I think we may be getting close to one another again something happens and takes that away from me, or I just realise how different her and I since having make all of my changes in life. My brother left home 16 years ago and has not spoken to any of us since his leaving. We are not sure why except that his wife will not allow it. I know that I miss him.
@Melizzy (1381)
• United States
13 Feb 07
A sibling is the only one who knows you from cradle to grave. I would think it is a close and complex relationship. And I would think they are the only ones who could truly understand the house you grow up in. I don't have any siblings, but I wish I did sometimes.
• United States
13 Feb 07
i think this is a great topic! i have a brother and when we were younger we didnt get along at all! he is 3 years older than me, and has a totally different personality. we just clash in so many areas its not even funny! we both also had the added conflict of feeling like the other was the favorite child, so of course that didnt help us bond at all! now that we are both adults and only see each other every 5 years or so since we live on different continents, we can finally get along.. though we dont have a close relationship by no means.. we are just civil to one another now.. i sometimes wish we could be close and be there for each other but i dont really see that happening.
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@indywahm (808)
• United States
13 Feb 07
my brother is 20 years younger than me but we get along great. i think because of the age difference it is like we do not have to compete with each other, but he was jealous when i had my first son 14years ago.
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@cutepenguin (6431)
• Canada
13 Feb 07
I get along with them okay. We do the occasional thing together, but not much. We don't have a lot in common, for one thing, and my younger brother is a lot younger than I am.
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@brokentia (10389)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I am one of eight children...but we are from three different mothers. My father had three children the first marriage. Then he three from a second marriage. And then me from his third marriage. But my mother had a daughter before marrying my father...so, that makes 8. I don't know all of my siblings very well. My eldest sister had two children before I was born. And she kinda kept her distance because my mother was younger than her when my father married her. Strange situation...I know. I know my sister from my mother well and we get along. I write my brother that is in jail often. My brother that I grew up with I have disowned because he nearly killed my youngest son when he was babysitting. So...I am only close and get along with my sister from my mother.
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@gotcho0O (1257)
• United States
13 Feb 07
We're both fine. It's just that sometimes, when you're both so close there are things you can't get along with. Life is not perfect same as people. You just need to remember this: Blood is thicker than water.
@marty3888 (2355)
• Acme, Michigan
13 Feb 07
Yes. I get along with both of them very well. I'm very close to my brother and he is nothing like me. And my sister - she's just great. She's always happy to see me and I'm always happy to see her. I can't imagine not being on speaking terms with them. I feel very sorry for people who are in that situation.
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@aradia (68)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Yes I do. I get along with my brother and my sister, who are both older than me. I'm the youngest, and they are both strongly protective of me. When we were younger, we fought constantly, including fist fights. But we grew up, we grew out of it. We see each other for what we are now. My brother is my favourite person in the whole world, and my sister is my best friend. We've all been through a lot together, including, but not limited to, physical and mental abuse when we were children and teens. I think that may be why we are so close. We've been through the same things together. We grew up in the same house. And we understand each other so very well. I love my relationships with my siblings; I wouldn't trade them for anything.
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• United States
13 Feb 07
Great question! I have 2 younger sisters...one is 4 yrs younger than me and the other is 11 years younger than me. We all get along really well. My middle sister and I get along better than me and my youngest sister just becaause we are more mature and grown up and see things a little bit the same. My youngest sister is really immature at 25 and has some strange thoughts. LOL But, we all do get along really well. Hardly ever fight and if we do, it's over within minutes. I just hope it lasts after my parents are gone. So many times the parents are the glue that hold the family together. I don't think it will be like that with us, but you can never be sure.
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13 Feb 07
I have only one sister and she is a year and a half younger than me. We have a strange relationship. Sometimes we can be at each others throats, arguing about the stupidest things and yet sometimes she is my best friend and it's kind of like a "me and her against the world" kind of thing. It's an odd relationship to say the least and i know i wouldn't change it for the world!
@skb369 (285)
• India
13 Feb 07
i have two older sisters and i get along just fine with one of them.but the problems with my eldest sis seems insurmountable with each single fight. we bicker over the smallest things and we really get on each others nerves. i guess its got to do with the fact that shes a leo sun sign and is naturally fiery and garrulous whereas i'm a piscean and like to be in my world. like they say,fire and water never mix!! and that is exactly the case with us. i see her as too overbearing and domineering,while she thinks me as being too lazy. we are all entitled to our own opinions and we chose to express them from time to time with often stormy results. sometimes i wish i had no siblings,but i guess its the same for everyone...
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@senna9 (1666)
• Netherlands
13 Feb 07
i dont have any siblings so i wouldnt know.
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@michele609 (1687)
• United States
13 Feb 07
i have a younger sister and brother which we do care about each other but sometimes we do fight which i think is very normal. you are right, you should always be on good terms with your siblings because in the end they are all you might have.
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@katskie (128)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
I have a younger brother. We use to fight a lot but as we grow older. We learned to understand each other. Now we enjoy each others company.
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13 Feb 07
Most of the time I do but occasionally, really just due to differences in opinions and other trivial things we end up getting into a fight. Nothing serous just a small fight, which is usually forgotten about when the day is over. I agree with you that siblings one of the most important relationships.
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
13 Feb 07
ur topic has reminded me of so many fond memories of my childhood thanx for starting this good thread:) i have 3 sisters and 2 brothers. there's not much difference in our ages so i have very close relationships with all of my siblings except for my elder brother.my sisters r my best friends and i can talk to them about anything.its only them who know about myself best.sometimes we have raws over small things but they matter only a little in our relationship there's always a sound forgiving from both sides we don't even have to say it :) i can rely on them as i know they r always there to support me and help me in bad times as well as good times.
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@kaplya (1578)
• India
23 Feb 07
hi, thanx for selecting my response as the best!:) i m just so happy!!!^^
@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
13 Feb 07
ugh NO! I wish I did, but my brother alway sfinds something to get mad about and it's usually something that happenned over 15 years ago. He then will call me up and remind me of what I did. He has a mental problem. Seriously. He won't get help for it because he thinks everyone else has the problem. He's my only brother and I tried for 30 years to have a relatinship with him, in finally gave up this year.
• United States
16 Feb 07
I'm sorry you weren't able to get along with your brother, but it's not from a lack of trying. Thirty years is a long time. Some things are just meant to be. But i commend you for trying for such a long time.