Step parents

I have a 13 yr old step daughter. She calls me Mom since she was 8. At the time we were not married, but she started calling me super Mom. I married him 3 yrs ago. We just got custody 3 months ago. The Bio Mom, is neglectful, her phone is constantly turned off, her personal life comes before time with her daughter, when she is with her child, (which is 2 weekends/month) she is tired and takes naps or goes out and leaves her home alone. The Bio Mom decided to move from a rural area to the city 3 months ago, she got laid off with no job prospects, she purchases her daughter a hamster with accessories and a new cat. Mind you the child no longer lives with her, when she does she her child, they spend the time 1/2 mile away at the boyfriends and she doesn't even see these pets. We have been lied to, asked to meet her to exchange my step-daughter only to not have her show up and that was before we had cell phones. She doesn't show up at school plays, or band concerts, she will show up at a dress rehearsal, but it isn't the same. My stepdaughter is insistant that we not invite her at Christmas to the band concert this year, she is going to a new school and she doesn't want her new classmates to meet her real Mother. I want to abide by her wishes, but I feel morally obligated to leave the disission up to Bio Mom to show or not. What do you think?

I have two stepchildren, I know what you're talking about, been there done that. At first things were good with me and the kids until their mother started bad talking me and my husband to them, long story, she's walked out on them when they were little and acts like he's mom of the century. She just won't quit. I thought I was the only one with an issue like this.

i have an 11 year old steoson from hell he does not listen and thinks he can get away with everything my husband is a marine and we dont see him to often when he was here in the summer he informed me that he does not have to listen to me because i was not his mother my husband ex is the wicked witch of the north and i avoid her at all cost all she does is complain about everything

I am the soon to be step-mom Of that cutie in my arms. He came to live with us after the courts took him from his real mom. We were getting on and off again visits before that (real mom would not let us see him). I despise the other parents but have to "play nice" when the get visition at our home. I can tell you it is hard but we have to do what is best for the kids. look at any time u have to spend with the mother as a busness meeting and say as little as possible. Stick to just what concerns the child. You are lucky comming in whlie the child is young. My step mom came in when I was about that age and she was my friend and told me she was not trying to take my mom's place or take my dad away, all she wanted was to be my friend. I still call her my mom today.

I don't know anyone who finds being a step parent easy. It is especially hard if the children are older. My husband and I find that our relationship with the kids is tainted mostly by their mother, who tells the kids that their father is a cheat, liar etc and that we are rich and only occassionally give her money - even though my husband has never missed a child support payment, and alos pays for extra things like medical bills, school fees etc. The boy tends no believe much of it but the girl is also starting to say these things.

I am a step parent to three girls. I get along great with the girls' mom and step dad. My hubby wants nothing to do with her so I am the one who has to talk to her and her hubby all the time. But I didnt always get along with her. We had many issues in the beginning. We get along for the sake of the kids.

My So has two daughters 18 and 20..we get along..but I have known them for a long time before we were a couple..his ex wife well...she used to be my friend..not so sure anymore...lol