My son is finally leaving an my husband is being a bit of a dink

Linda I don't think your husband is going overboard at all. He is fed up and I told you that was going to happen. He wants your son out and out for good. That means everything. I can't blame him after knowing how much he abused you. It's time your son stood on his own two feet. He has got to get a job (and a good one) to make his way in life. You want to know that your kids can make it out there on their own incase one day you are not around. He needs to grow up and take some responsibility for his life. Either he go back to school (and get some financial aid) or find a worthwhile job that he can live off. Don't let him come between you and your husband.

Maybe your husband is beinga bit hard on your son, but by the sound of it, your son deserves it. I think your hubby is trying to side and with you and discipline your son. I don't think you should challenge what y our hubby says especially in front of your son. Try and talk to him privately and make him undestand that you have forgiven your son for his past behaviour and he should also try to do the same. Dont make it sound like you are siding with your son against him..All the best!

There are no right or wrongss. It is a difficult and sad situation. Your husband is hurt and protecting you. Perhaps he can comprimise. Tell your son you will hold it for a month, and then it gas to go or it will go into the garbage. Good luck dear.

Your husband sounds very much like mine. If one of my kids does any wrong in anyway, he will automatically throw up his hand and deny them any help. This to me is wrong. I am a forgiving person. But, I do not forget. I do let the kids know that although I am helping them out because they are my children, I am not happy with their actions. They need to earn back my respect. My husband gets angry at me for my ways, but they are my ways. If it were me in your place I would tell my husband not to worry that the stuff would only be stored in my half of the cellar and not his. That usually ruffles feathers, but in the end I get my point across.

Well yea and no because i think ur husband thinks ur son is goin come back even more abusive but thats just my point of view and wat i was thinkin at this point but besiedes that yea ol dude is just bein plain mean its not rite

Sounds like he still has a lot of anger and that you have worked through your anger. I had a simliar problem with my husbands son. He wasn't abusive, but still decided that he was gonna do things his way not matter what we said or did. Very stubborn. We finally had to have him move in with his mother. And we still have some of his stuff in our basement. So I guess maybe I also have worked through some of my anger. I don't have any contact with him. My husband sees him and has the relationship with him.

Well I think he is in a sense as you say you are only storing his Stuff it is not as though he still there so your Husband just needs to calm down as he is not helping you by being like this. I hope you have resolved this matter now.