Pity party or depression?

oh YAY its my bday today too! so YAY for your friend the aquarius lol... anyways it all sounds like a a bunch of drama to me.. ok so her mom forgot her bday.. yeah thats happened to me too and it sux and i dont blame her for feeling a bit depressed about it.. but as far as the cheating and the guy wanting her to tell her husband i mean come on thats just drama and she needs to just get over that! if she expects ppl to sit there and rub her back saying "poor you" "your secret lover wants your husband to know ur cheating on him" thats just a rediculous request! id tell her to quit complaining about her own self inflicted situations and when she has a real problem to come back to me! i know that sounds really harsh but it seems like she just needs a wake up call..

I'm going to be very blunt and honest, and just keep that in mind. I'm not cold and heartless, but this is my general opinion. ^.^ Firstly, for your 'current' (I assume you mean your boyfriend/husband?) Perhaps he is a bit depressed. It may have started out as lazyness, but continually nagging at him, and having such negative feelings towards him will only make it worse. If you want him to get up off his butt and do something with his life, you can't say it. He sounds like the kind of person who will only sink further into the couch when you yell at him, or critique him. You have to be gentle, as much as you want to punch him. A lot of people react differently to stress. And even though it may seem like he doesn't ahve a lot to be stressed about, the little things may seem like mountains to him. You hating him so much may just be the cherry to his misery sundae. Though, the path to getting him on his own two feet will be a long one, with lots of bleeding (from biting your tongue!). But if you truly care about him, and want him to get better, you have to coax him back into reality. Try to toss words of encouragement his way. Try to be as kind as you can. Try not to nag, even if you're ready to explode (will power!). It is true, most people want a pity party. And while it's annoying, and shallow... you have to consider everything involved. Is he trying to reach out to you for love and comfort? Does he feel belittled by you? (Men feel inferior too. Many just can't admit it). There could be a lot going on underneath the surface. I suggest taking a few moments to sit and talk with him. No yelling, no raising your voice. Heck, act like you're talking to a 5 year old kid who got made fun of at school. Hopefully one session of this will do wonders. But at the very least, take some time to dive a little deeper to see whats REALLY wrong. Second case, your friend. I have issues with people who cheat. I think it's an immature, shallow, and pathetic way to end a relationship It shows you're weak and don't have enough strength just to end it. It earns no respect from me. But, granted, there are some things in a persons life that leads them to that point. Example: her mom forgetting her birthday. That has to make someone feel unwanted, unloved... If I was you, I would probably just have lost a good friend. (Cause im mean.. lol) but truly, if my own friend had gotten themselves into this mess I'd probably say "I told you so" first off... then give them the strength they need to set things, and their life, right. Tell her lover to bugger off and let HER tell her husband. Then give her strength to TELL her husband the entire truth. Then, I'd suggest to her to leave them BOTH. Because who wants to be in a relationship with someone who cheats? She doesn't seem to be fit to be in a relationship right now. She needs to find inner strength, and inner love. she has to care about herself without the aid of a man. And until she does that, the cycle will continue. She'll continue cheating. Continue making her life miserable. She needs to fix herself first, make herself 'healthy' emotionally, in order to be in a healthy relationship. Even if it is hard to do. But, this is just my opinion, and you can take what you want from it. But despite it all, I hope your friend and the male in the first part both find inner strength, and find happiness in the world. I also hope you're able to be there for both of them, giving them strength they need to fix their lives. cause that's what a friend SHOULD be for. ^.^

Hey its my Birthday today too and I thought it was just me and old Honest Abe. But seriously sounds like A Jerry Springer Moment.