Men which cry =)
@joey_matthews (8354)
February 12, 2007 10:17pm CST
This questions open to anyway who wants to join in. =)
What you thoughts on men which cry?
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Personally i think this shows who the real men are. My father's pretty much old fashioned i remember talking to him just fater my grandfather died. i asked him if he cried when his passed away and he turned and said "Yes, i was upset. I didn't cry, it wasn't really something we do" This pretty much stuck with me.
I think those can show they feel and aren't ashmed to feel are true to themself which make them more of a man than someone who can take on another built muscle machine.
Anyone on here probably knows i'm not bothered speaking out about things about myself because i honestly don't care if people think it's wrong. I'm proud to feel and yes i do cry =)
I cried none stop when my grandfather passed away. I did the same thing infront of nurses & doctores when they told my wife and i we had lost our daughter. (from a scan)
So what's your thoughts? Please don't flame anyone, lets keep this respectful.
Thank you,
~Joey
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@lani0529 (1722)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
I don't think that you will become less of a man when a man cries. Its a normal human emotion. Everyone is entitled to cry. If you feel like crying, express it! Its being true to yourself and your feelings. Its not a crime to cry so guys, better cry it out.(",)
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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13 Feb 07
Hey =)
Nice response.
Alot of my friends wouldn't do it. So i'm expecting abit of a mixed reaction here but you're right.
Those who don't will only end up being angry and possibly taking it out on someone. Sadness turns to anger =) i know that story too.
~Joey
Kudos! Thanks for your views. =)
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@theone3nu (598)
• India
13 Feb 07
every human being have feelings especially cry,sad. i dont think to stop cry. if we got more sad then we should cry to loose that sad. we will loose our pain only when we cry.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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15 Feb 07
yes you're right.
i thought it was sad at school how boys which cried got picked on for doing so. (even if they had a reason) like falling over badly etc.
Kudos!
~Joey
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
13 Feb 07
i always believe that everyone has the right to cry. a man who cries does not make him less of a man. in fact, i like men who know how to cry. they are emotional and sensitive. meaning, they can interact well with women and understand women more.
my boyfriend is sentimental and even cries in movies just like i do. but that does not mean i love him less. crying is one good thing to take away stress. it's healthy!
i hate men who try to stop their feelings and are embarrassed to cry. they think that they are more musculine when doing so. but actually, not. men should also have the right to express their emotions well just like women do.
@joey_matthews (8354)
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13 Feb 07
Thank you maumbi =)
You're right it's good to easy your stress levels by letting abit out. Kudos!
~Joey
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@linzmcwilliams (1552)
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13 Feb 07
To be honest it really upsets me when i see a man cry, it makes me think there really must be something wrong. I think women cry more easily. That said i don't think any less of men when they cry, in fact i think i gain respect for them. It takes a lot for someone to show their true feelings.
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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13 Feb 07
Hey lmcwilliams =)
Yup. women are more in touch with there own feelings. Kudos for pointing this out!
I'm shocked to see that no one has mentioned it's wrong and all that mumbo jumbo. normally does =) (mylots cooler it seems) we all knew that tho. hehe
Thanks for poping by!
~Joey
@sarunaku (12)
• Australia
13 Feb 07
hi joey..something to think about...although i have never seen my dad cry..atleast nt in front of me..i have seen my hubby shed tears..esp when he gets very emotional..be it sme situation or a movie that touches his heart..of course he doesnt howl like we women do:-)sorry gals...its just a few odd drops of tears..i dont find it being "unmanly"..at all..
My feeling is all men have an emotional side to them..its just that cos of so called social etiquette that men don't cry..men just supress it..
All emotions should have a vent..so all men who think its unmanly to shed a few tears..take yr hankies and let go..and u would see u feel so much better..take a tip fm us gals!!
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@joey_matthews (8354)
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15 Feb 07
Yes.
Some don't express themself. some lose it and become cold and alot feel and are as caring as you girls are. =)
I'm one of them who do try to be nice. i'm no saint but i am nearly always a laugh and kind and it's something i'm personally working on.
It's nice to of read your reply, i really appreciate it and consider your advice taken. =)
~Joey
@jeweledbluerose (3061)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Everyone has feelings. Whether we choose to express them or not doesn't make us any less of a person.
Men are human beings to, they feel pain just as anyone else does. So no I don't think it would make a man any less of a man if they openly cried. To me it just proves that he is willing to express his emotion without worrying about what others may think of it and in a sense is stronger, than one that doesn't show emotion.
@chintan_inc (224)
• India
13 Feb 07
yes...i also do a cry and i am not ashamed of doing it... we are human and we men also have emotions and we also get hurt and then crying is the best thing to do because it relieves your heart from all the burdens and sorrows.... i do not feel anything wrong if i cry in front of anyone if the reason is valid.
@sithlord (167)
• India
13 Feb 07
hey man..its ur choice..i find nothing worng wid da idea if u wanna cry..some may say its sissy..but im sure in their most difficult and darkest hours they would have also shed a few tears...but remember..sometimes..by crying it shows that your more human..which is nothing wrong..and it doesnt make those who dont cry any less human..its just..dat...dey feel differently about it dats all.....so yea.. man each one to his own...
@merkava (1225)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
I'm such an emotional person. I cried when I found out my father has cancer. I cried when my men die in the battlefield. The last time I cried when I was in my home country and it was around 3am, I partied with my friends in a elite party venue. A few kilometers away while I was heading home I noticed a family of beggars whom were just sleeping on the sidewalks. The parents had 4 very young children with them. They seemed hungry, I stopped my car and talked to them. The parents were still awake but emotionally worn out. You can see it in their eyes. I asked the parents if they have any jobs. They were farmers from a province and was ousted because some rich tycoon illegally took over their land. I was soo pissed off I just cried and felt shameful for myself and others like me. I asked my driver to come and pick them up so they could stay at my place. The following am I accompanied them to the hospital, their children had parasites in their blood. I did everything I could help them. I asked them to work for my company. My company has an educational program, no matter what age you are you won't be denied of a good education. That was 5 years back. I'm happy to say that they are still working with me in my company and their kids have free education and housing. The best moment with them was when one day they gave me a bible that belonged to them. I thanked them and asked why? The parents said "didn't you remember, this was the exact day you rescued us?" That just made me shed tears. Now, my girlfriend is also very close with them.
@Angelus205 (53)
• Italy
13 Feb 07
Sometimes people say that crying for a man means that he's too weak for the life. I think that this is wrong. Crying for a man means that he's just human, has feelings and sometimes he voices them with tears. That's it... =)
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@vangie79 (198)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
It's not a negative factor in a guy to see them cry. See you guys crying, it's normal! You're just human to burst out what you feel inside. For me, it only means that you are sincere on what you really feel. You know what, my bf used to cry most of the times because of the hurt he always felt in life. Even when we had a misunderstanding. So, crying is not a less for a man. There's nothing wrong with that.
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@freded124 (87)
• United States
13 Feb 07
Everyone has emotions and if you try to be all manly and never cry your doing nothing more than hiding your true emotions. I think its ok for anyone to cry when something sad has happened. If a man cries he is no less of a man then he was before he cried.
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@rosie_123 (6113)
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13 Feb 07
I see absolutely nothing wrong with men showing their feelings, and crying. They are human beings too, and can feel fear, pain, love, and sadness just like women. I actually think it's wrong when little boys are bought up to bottle up their feelings with the whole "big boys don't cry" thing. It is dangerous to repress your emotions like that, and can lead to problems in adult life. My partner is from South America, where they are perhaps nore open with their emotions than they are in Northern Europe, and the States. If he is sad, he cries - quite openly. I respect his ability to do that enormously, - it doesn't make him less of a man in my eyes - if anything, it makes him more of a man for not being ashamed of his emotions, or scared that people will think him somenow less of a man. Have a good day!
@recycledgoth (9894)
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13 Feb 07
There is nothing wrong in showing emotion, if anything I find guys that do cry are more caring and sensitive to the needs of others. I am so sorry for you, hearing such awful news, and feel for you too. You cry if you need to, it shows you are a strong person who cares.
@mbarryton (1872)
• United States
13 Feb 07
first off sorry to hear about your daughter:(. i also think that men that cry are just being true to their selves as well as showing that they too can have emotions. men that ive never seen cry seemed like that had no remorse over anything. i hate that. seems like they just dont care
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@lpipe0240 (1161)
• United States
13 Feb 07
I remember I cried as a freshman in high school becasue my good neighbors had just moved away. From that point on I cannot remeber crying again until I meet my wife. Shortly after we had become engaged, around Chritmas I got ill. And I cried the whole time becasue we could not go anywhere. Now I cry when I'm sick, or see a sad movie. But I cry the worst at comercials...don't ask me why but I do.
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@wolfsbane_25 (41)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
Sorry to hear about your loss. It's hard for men to show their emotions. I admire those who are ot affraid to show their sensitive side. There are times when feel so down and I wanna tell everything to a friend but couldn't. I' afraid of what they'le think. Sometimes I just lock myself in my room and cry myself out.
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