Is it natural for a man to give his wife flowers on Valentine's Day?

Gifts have to come from the heart and not necessarily on a day that is dictated by society. Maybe your husband feels pressured, you say you have hinted and been forward about this, and he refuses to give something on demand. If you have a good relationship with him, if you are happy together, if you know in your heart that he loves you, if he does not cheat on you, if he provides for his family accept him as he is and don't push him or show your disappointment. As you say it had no effect in the past.

That's disappointing..=c My husband, although he doesn't earn enough money, makes it to a point that we celebrate Valentine's Day. He doesn't give me flowers or anything - he gives me special treats like back massages, a trip to the nearest bookstore for a free read, a laughing trip (just the two of us), things like that. Had he ever done those things to you? Maybe you two need to talk...

Looks like we are in the same boat honey, my hubby is way too anti-valentine's for me to expect something from him! We've been married only a year and I think I must be thankful I got to know about this attitude of his soon enough to save me the disappointment year after year. I guess I was lucky when he took me out last year (we were married only for 2 months then..hehe) He didn't wish me or anything and cards...that's a far thought!He also made it clear, I'm taking you out only this year, don't expect the same next year!! Sigh, I guess we gotta accept it! Anyways wishing you a very Happy Valentine's Day, don't lose heart..console yourself, you aren't the only one with such a hubby..lol

well it is very natural for a man to give flowers to his wife on valentines day....instead mu hubby gives me fowers on days other than any special day on the excuse that all the others do the same.

Well in the 24 years my wife and I have been married I have given her flowers maybe 5 times and only on of those times was on Valentine's Day. I prefer to take my wife out for a nice quite meal and just enjoy the evening. Flowers die to fast so I prefer to buy something that will last and that she can enjoy so I prefer to buy her a book that she can enjoy for a long time.

i would give flowers and a nice gift like necklace or perfume! not cheap gifts.. but not too expensive either!

Objection! This is an old discussion, but I had this in my mail box cos, I have something to say. Even my husband never give me anything for Valentine's day. He cant even remember the day. I am also not a fan of this day anyway and that's a different story. But when you say that you feel thae he really doesnt love you, I think its all wrong. Love cant be measured on a flower or a gift given on some day be it valentines or other. My husband very rarely even tell me that he loves me. But I know he loves me very much, takes care of me and go through even fire to be there for me. I am sure that your husband also loves you very much. We women sometimes feel sentimental but men are more rigid in things engaged with "emotions" cos they very rarely show emotions of any nature. If he neglects your needs, or if he doesnt treat you as his wife, then you can be upset. Anyway, I want to stress the fact that, love cannot be expressed with words or material things. In my view it is something that you have to feel in your heart and we shouldnt think that a person who gives us a lot of gifts or tell us "I love you" all the time, really do love us.

My hubby isn't exactly a romantic either. Although, if I were to ask for something special ~ he wouldn't hesitate! Personally, I'd rather have flower bulbs (to plant and enjoy every year) or a house plant. I love those gifts that keep on giving! You should buy (or have him buy) you a flowering bush that could be pruned and added to your home as decor... this way, when you want flowers, they are easily attained. I understand what you're saying too. If you really love the holiday and want to feel all fuzzy and romantic then he should at least try to give you those desired feelings. Maybe when he's expecting a certain feeling, you could remind him of his selfishness ; )

of course! don't you love her? go ahead........

And one other thing: what on earth has it got to do with the kids? Why would you get gifts for your kids on Valentine's Day? This is just crazy. It turns every special day in the year into another Christmas, and heaven knows that's overcommercialised almost to the core.

LOL! The word you used - natural". Giving flowers is not in a man's DNA. Its not a mater of not loving you, they are simply completely clueless. I have walked into Wal-Mart or our local grocery that has a flower section and even pointed out which display I would like. He nods his head, walks away and the day comes and goes. Now we do go out to eat, but thats a gimme. I learned a long time ago to not mention it. Maybe one day....

i woule rather give her a kiss in the morning...... then would take a break frm my work for that day..... & would spend it with the luv of my life...... i would take her out.......do loads of shoppin.... then dinner in the best place....& in the night....... hhhhhhhhhmmmmmmmmmm..............muah muah aah

Honestly, he shouldn't do it on Valentines Day or any other day because the calendar made him. He should do it when he feels like for no reason at all. However, if he knows how important Valentines Day is to you, then I would think that he should give up what I said. Buying toys and stuff for his computer doesn't mean much. Especially if he waits until they are on sale. In which case, he should get you flowers on February 15. Personally, I don't buy flowers (without roots), I am against that. I am not against gifts and such, but I don't think they serve much of a purpose themselves; but again, if they mean that much to you, and he's your husband, maybe it's not that heavy an expense. In short, I don't think it should be natural, but given the situation, I guess it would be warranted.

Honestly, he shouldn't do it on Valentines Day or any other day because the calendar made him. He should do it when he feels like for no reason at all. However, if he knows how important Valentines Day is to you, then I would think that he should give up what I said. Buying toys and stuff for his computer doesn't mean much. Especially if he waits until they are on sale. In which case, he should get you flowers on February 15. Personally, I don't buy flowers (without roots), I am against that. I am not against gifts and such, but I don't think they serve much of a purpose themselves; but again, if they mean that much to you, and he's your husband, maybe it's not that heavy an expense. In short, I don't think it should be natural, but given the situation, I guess it would be warranted.

I don't think it is. Many men just don't think that way. My husband has given me flowers once. Actually one flower. A single rose and it was on the way home from a trip we had taken about 6 years ago and only because I had been crying that he never got me stuff like flowers. He doesn't get me stuff for special occasions. I don't get birthday cards or gifts on Valentines or Mother's Day. They are just not important to him, I guess.

He should get you the flowers since its important to you, but if he treats you special all other times I would just let it go. He probably is not into Valentines some men are not.

Don't feel bad. I don't expect anything either. Honestly I really don't care about valentines day. It's just a day that was fixed so people could make money on flowers, candy and jewerly. Don't forget those cheesy valentine day cards for kids to hand out. That ends up in the trash a few days later. I think it's cute to get your kids something special. Flowers die, candy is eaten fast, jewerly is something I really don't care about. I can't stand this so called holiday, with seeing pink, red, and white everywhere. Three of my least favorite colors

hey there should be frankness in a relationship so why just you dont tell him how you feel when he does not do things for you and you feel sad.. i dont think he does not love you and all might he does not like to express his feelings

I'm not a flower, jewelry,candy girl, so I'm damn hard to buy for. I'd rather just have a nice dinner or something. I think the real problem here is not the flowers, but the fact that even though you've let your hubster know something is important to you, he keeps ignoring it. So basically you have two choices ( as I see it, and I could be full of beans ) 1. you decided this is a deal breaker, and sit down and really let him know exactly how he makes you feel when he ignores this day. I would use the old psychological jargon and start with. "I feel ______ when you_______" that way he will feel less attacked by the conversation. or 2. Decided that it isn't really all that important, and do what you like for valentine's day without the expectation of receiving anything.That way if he ever does something it's a bonus. I am sorry you've been dissapointed, it's always hard.

HI, same with me. I am lso expecting flowers from my boyfriend but he is not used to that. Well, let's just try to understand that we cannot push them to carry all the good traits we wanted for a man. Instead, let's try to view some other things that they have done for us which defines and shows more love.