there is descrimination&boss-subordinate relationship in my work! how do i deal?
By diorcastillo
@diorcastillo (75)
Philippines
February 12, 2007 10:44pm CST
i have been working for more than half a year in this company. there's a hitch though. one of my female coworkers is having an affair with my boss who by the way is engaged to be married in 2008.
the thing is, all good job opportunities go to this female coworker of mine. she gets all the valuable seminars, she gets to go on field a lot, she gets more trained on administrative work. while the rest of us get stuck on doing paperworks.
what do i do? if i tell those concerned, i might appear jealous or some negative persona trying to ruin them.
and the thing is, a lot of people have been noticing their "secret" relationship.
i want this indirect discrimination to stop as soon as possible. i'm having problems with it and it hinders my professional growth because things other than performance are being put into play.
2 responses
@chaygylmommy (2470)
• United States
14 Feb 07
First, you need to make SURE it's an affair and not something like on that movie 9 to 5 with Dolly Parton where everyone "thought" an affair was going on. Second, if you are sure...I would go to someone ABOVE your bosses head. There should be a checks and balances somewhere in the company. Talk to someone higher up about it. Office places don't allow romances sometimes, but even if they are ok with it and say it's none of their business...it seems to be their business when it effects others opportunity for advancement.
@diorcastillo (75)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
im sure about the affiar. the boss told me about it first. i even have proofs. but the thing is, the general manager is friends with my coworker's mom. i really dont know where to stand.
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@LittleMel (8742)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
well if the man is the boss, he will be very careful not to let others notice the affair. are you sure she is getting all this because of the affair or because she is just better than everyone else? people used to think like that about me at work, just because the boss always relieves me from some tasks. but these tasks were burned upon me since other people didn't want to do the jobs and so I was relieved of it. I was only a clerk and supposed to "help" but "helping" doesn't mean others can focus on doing what they like to do and while I'm doing what they supposed to do. do you get me here? make an honest assessment of yourself then talk to everyone else about the situation.
