can you still speak softly even when youre angry?

I do my best not to get angry, I understand people make mistakes and that they are only human. I do not like shouting, and I learned a long time ago with my children, they hear you less when you shout. If you are in an argument and you talk softly, the other person will shut up so they can hear you. It is hard not to get angry sometimes, but I have a way to do it that works for me, I place myself in their shoes, I remember that I have also made mistakes, and the main thing I try to remember, most people do not do things to intentionally make you mad, it just happens that way sometimes. The next time someone starts to make you angry, ask yourself, did they do it on purpose, directed at you? Would you have done the same thing in the situation? And last, how can you make it better?

People head for the hills when I start to talk softly when I'm angry,that's when they know they have pushed me way too far lol.

We cannot control our emotion when we are in angry.

When I am angry I shout to the point that I can be heard from 7 blocks away LOL. That would be mainly in an argument with my husband. If I see that by shouting I am not going to get anywhere, I can easily lower my voice to a whisper. We are likely to reach an agreement when I whisper instead of shout. Shout is always my first reaction but that is when my brain comes in to tell me that in order to get my point clear I need to slow down and lower my voice. My brain is always right (where shoutig is concerned! LOL)

There have been times when I've raised my voice when angry. But typically I don't yell or shout because I know that it seems to cause a break down in all communication.

Hi Joyskie23: I usually shout when I am angry. I have been trying to change my ways though, especially when I am talking to my husband. Sometimes it works and sometimes it doesn't. I will keep at it though. I like being calm, cool and collected. I mean hey, my boss' piss me off all the time and I don't go off on them, so why should I treat them better than my family -right? Well just a thought!!! Catch you on the next discussion Best!

i cant control my anger so it's not possible for me to talk softly when i am angry :@

Unfortunately I am not that kind of person that still can talk softly when i get mad. I have tried, but I could not.