does living in together work??
By sithlord
@sithlord (167)
India
February 13, 2007 4:32am CST
In today's world guys and gurls who are in a relationship tend to move in together and have a kid without getting married.i find nothing wrong with that.but the fact is according to christian religion and others i think...such an act is a sin because for a couple to have a child they must be married.but i think that the couples are afraid to get married these days cause they dont wanna commit and if they get divorced then it causes even more problems..but i still feel one must get married before one decides 2 have a kid with the one you love..wat do u'll say???
3 responses
@elemental13 (34)
• United States
21 Feb 07
I lived with my husband before we got married, it gave me a chance to experience life with him and get to know some of his more annoying habits and how to cope before we made the big leap. It also gave us a good amount of time to figure out how to work our finances together and little things like who does what for chores, etc. Plus I worked full time and Nick worked nearly full time and attended school full time so we never would have seen each other otherwise.
When we found out I was pregnant though we decided to get married since we both think it is the best way to raise a child if it is an option. Barring certain circumstances I feel it is the most stable environment to raise a child in. Besides we were already talking and feeling through the whole marriage bit when this happened so it wasn't like it wasn't something we were ready for as a couple or a step we would not have taken otherwise, just would have taken a little longer is all.
I think if you are having a kid and the other person (father/mother of future child) is mature and going to step up as a parent and you have a stable relationship it is the best choice for all involved to be married before the child comes. But I try not to judge those who believe differently.
@wesker311 (508)
• Philippines
13 Feb 07
ill tell you why i still dont like to marry my boyfriend even if we have a child together and living together already! it's because i'm afraid that after years of living together he might get tired of me and end up cheating on me and i wouldnt accept it. if he cheated on me once he will never see me and his daughter ever again! and i have this fear that he might do it to me like his dad and his brothers did to their mom and wives! i try to erase that thought from my head but i just cant do it because i've seen how my sister in law suffered from her cheating husband! and my parents specially my sister doesnt approve of that kind of situation if it ever happens to me. i just couldnt think of accepting him again if he cheated on me...
@Hayzat (68)
• Malaysia
13 Feb 07
i wiil be owez against this 'lifestyle'. People should be more serious n responsible in wat they r doin. Should not avoiding maariage simple becoz fearing of divorce. Does not i means that there s no trust in their love?
