what can you say if other people yells at your kids?

It depends on the situation, I guess. If my kid did something really bad and should have been yelled at then I would let it go but if it was like in your situation, I would have definitely said something to the lady! ..The other day I took my kids to an indoor play area in the mall and had to yell at this kid there. He was an older kid and was bullying my kids and other kids as well, not letting them play on some of the toys..etc. The parents were just sitting there not doing a thing about it so I finally got up and said something to the kid. After I told him to stop bullying my kids, he stopped! Some parents just let their kids do whatever they want and those kids have to be disciplined by someone, even if it's a stranger!

wow you were actually able to keep it cool in the first try.....well i dont doubt you being a great parent...but whn some1 yells at your son,atleast i, it would be poliet to ask her reason for shouting if you can give a good comeback answer great or do what i always do hear from one ear throw it thru the other....

Maybe the other child was sick and the grandmother didn't want to spread germs. According to your story, she made it clear to you from the beginning that she didn't want your child playing with her grandchild. Whatever the reason, you should have respected her wishes and kept your child away. You did tell your child not to play with him, but then you allowed your child to disobey you and play with the other child anyway. Now, she should not have yelled at your child, put she had every right to tell your child not to play with her grandchild. She should have calmly told your son not to play with the boy, and then she should have calmly but firmly asked you to keep your son away.

While the other woman was definately out of line, so were you. Explanation... I firmly believe noone should discipline a child, in any way, unless it's the parents or the person has explicit permission from the parents. She had no right to yell at your child, period. She had choices ... she could remain quiet, she could remove the child she was with from the equation by standing elsewhere, she could have politely asked you. So no, she was in the wrong to think she had any place to yell at someone elses child. Now, you said this: "I told my son not to play with the other boy, but he's so persistent that I just let him play." You gave your son an order (excuse me for lack of a better word) and since he ignored it, you just let him. I'm sorry, but how is that effective parenting? He's a kid doing something you know he shouldn't be doing, since you already said you noticed the other woman getting edgy about it, yet when he ignored you, you didn't enforce it. This is likely what the other woman meant about not 'rearing' your child, and I happen to agree. She may have been out of line to say it in the first place, I don't argue with that ... but honestly, if someone doesn't tell you, then likely you'll go on thinking it's acceptable behavior. One of the biggest annoyances in society is parents who allow their children free reign when going out. Everyone else gets to suffer for your choice not to enforce the rules. If your son is doing something he shouldn't be doing, you stop him. If he doesn't listen, you MAKE him listen. If all else fails, you remove him from the situation. You don't just allow it because he's persistent. That's not parenting, since you're not actually doing any raising ... you're simply standing by in blind ambivilence allowing him to do whatever he likes. Which results in the type of kids that throw tantrums in supermarkets and run around restaurants screaming.

I think I probably would have done the same as you. I don't like when other people attempt to step in and discipline my children when I am right there (unless of course they are a member of my family). They are my children and I really don't think it's necessary for other people to step in and tell my children what to do. If they have a problem with something my children are doing they can come to me and let me deal with it.

you just did the right thing... you just said the right words to that woman.. too much of it might lead to disrespect... and you dont want to lead a bad example to your little boy... some people are just made that way... at least you know your lucky that u can think better than them :)

That woman was very rude. I can't figure out what you or your son had even done wrong. I mean, he was trying to make a friend and you let him. He wouldn't understand if you say not to play with another child if the other child wants to make friends too. It was the other woman in the wrong for being so rude. I don't know what I would have done. I would have probably walked away and tried to explain why to my child later on. I might have also "accidently" mentioned very loudly to my child that some people are so rude.

Tell her its none of her business. People always have to judge another. I just told off a soap box social worker at my temple.

Why did the other kids grandmother not want the kids to play together? That is just mean. I mean when a little kid wants to play with another kid, you let them, even if it is just for a few minutes. And you sure as heck do not yell at a strangers kid or hit them. I would have said something loud enough for the grandmother to hear -something like " Come on we dont play rude mean people"

I think you did the right thing. If I were in your place, I would've told her he's a little boy, and regardless of his actions, she had no right to yell at him. She is not his mother. And she had no right to publically humilate you when it comes to rearing your child. I think people are just thoughtless these days and well speak before they think.

To be honest, this is one of my biggest peeves! I think me and grandma would've had a little throw down right there in the bank. I would have just told her to not yell at my child, that she could've spoken to me about it first, and that raising her hand would only get her hurt. Then when she kept b*tching at me about "rearing" my child, well, the gloves would've come off plain and simple. I cannot stand those holier than thou mothers/grandmothers who think that only their way is right.

I dont agre with her yelling at him however if it was obvious she didnt want him to bother her you are responsible to controll him many people dont appreciate other folks kids bothering them!

I can understand your anger. I have had to correct my own father for yelling at my son. I was at my mother's house and my father and little boy were playing on the computer. I was in the dining room with my mother and granny having tea and talking. When I hear my father yell at my son "Stop it, what the h*ll is wrong with you?". I went in there and told my father off. No one and I mean no one is going to yell at my child or mistreat them if I can help it. That woman had no right to yell at your child or tell you that you weren't raising him right. Your little boy was just being a small child and wasn't hurting anyone. You were right there to correct any behavior problems if they arose and what was the harm in letting two small children play with one another?

Good for you to stand up to her. I would have done the same thing. No one will yell at my kids, except me!! People should learn to respect others. I would never yell at someone else's child. You sound like a good mom....kudos to you!!

There are times strangers just don't want other kids around them and it sounded like this was one of those times. When you told your kid to leave the other kid alone, then that should have been it, but you just let your kid do it again, Why didn't you (make) him listen to you, instead of just letting him do as he pleases? You are lucky that lady didn't get violent twords your child! Always remember, there are a lot of nasty and crazy people out there and you don't have any idea what other people will do, so it is up to you to have (total) control over your children at all times! BOTH of you are to blame for the out come!

if that was me i would have yelled at the grandma, she had no right to yell at your son and definately no right to even think about hitting him, i dont think anyone should beable to hit there children, it doesnt teach them anything. but like i said i would have had words with the grandma about it, because really your son wasnt doing anything wrong, if he is only 2 he wouldnt really know the rights and wrongs

oh man if that would have been my kid i would have cussed that woman for everything she was worth. that right there is a true b***h. she would have been lucky i didnt down here where she stood..no one but no one talks to my kids like that i would have went off....

I think it's ok to lecture my kids as long as it's constructive and doesn't involve shouting, physical infliction and degradation. But if I were there with them it's better if they talk to me about it. It's true that they have no right to lecture my kids about what's wrong or right but seeing they did that, that means there's something lacking in me that it had to take another parent to tell that. I accept a constructive and objective talk with other parents. It helps me grow but if it involves harming and humiliating my children in any way then they've got another thing coming.

if my kid has done something seriously wrong then he/she deserves it... else i would i will ask people to be polite if they yell at my kid for silly reason to be more generous cause there are other ways to state their trouble... and after all he/she is just a kid...

geez..what right does she have to yell at your baby?