Is it wrong for a 22 year old to love a 32year old?
@chimex4real2k2 (1853)
Nigeria
February 13, 2007 9:23am CST
About a week ago i met an older woman sho should be in her early thirys in a club we got along with each other well at the club and we are currently seeing each other i was wondering if it is wrong for me to love her just the way she says she loves me before i go any futher in the relationship i would be glad if you all could assist me in this thanks..
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@Laydee83 (275)
• Atlanta, Georgia
14 Feb 07
Maybe my statement is not what your looking for, but when I was 20 and 21 I dated a 31 years old. People looked at it funny, but I don't think it matters to them. It matters to the ones IN the relationship. Agree?
@dragonmojo (103)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Kudos for you. If one is 21 and the other perhaps even mid-40s, who is to say that the relationship will not work out? I believe the problem is not with those who are in these relationships, but with those outside the relationship who want to foist their personal convictions onto others. How well are they doing in their closer-in-age-to-my-mate's relationship?
@jivigirl (1)
• United States
19 Dec 07
i don't feel like ages has should matter. When you are mature grown adults and each are independent enough and can give and recieve what they want from there relationship.
@wolfie34 (26771)
• United Kingdom
18 Feb 07
Ten years is not much of an age different, I had a partner who was actually 17 years older than me and it worked really well, I was with them for five years. Age doesn't and shouldn't matter if you are in love with someone, there are far more important things to worry about. Love doesn't come along often so grab it with both hands, good luck to you both and be happy.
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@Lady_Vincy (1538)
• United States
14 Feb 07
There is noting wrong with a 22 year old being in love with a 32 year old. I feel that age is only a number. It does not say who you can be in love with or how mature a person may be. All that really matters is that the two people love and care about each other. If the two people involved don't mind the age difference than neither should anybody else.
@dragonmojo (103)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Where is the Kudos button at? Lady, I'll give you a truckload of kudos for that one. The biggest age difference I've had was 18 years (when I was 22, I remember being attracted to a 36-yr old who was separated from her husband, for a 14-yr age diff between us). If there is mutual interest between a couple, so let it be. Those who have a problem with it probably would have a problem too if one was Afro-American and the other Caucasian (yes, bigotry is ugly, isn't it?).
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I don't see what the big deal is. There is only a 10 year difference, and both of you are of legal age. Age doesn't matter unless you let it.
@dragonmojo (103)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I can't believe someone your age just said that! I am a much older man, and I have gone out several times with someone much, much younger. That seems to bother just about everyone else except the both of us.
But, we were just physical friends is all and she ended up getting married.
@recycledgoth (9894)
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14 Feb 07
Let me tell you a story......
I met my partner a couple of years ago, and we are both very happy together. We share so many interests, we laugh, we have fun and love each other very much. He is 29 and I am 55
@recycledgoth (9894)
•
14 Feb 07
It's all true hun. Right now my lovely guy is opening a bowl of profiteroles and feeding them to me for Valentines Day. I don't think i have ever been happier.
@im_theboss (384)
• India
14 Feb 07
!!!!! is that true?!! hey, that sounds so different! enjoy ur "unique" relationship. best of luck.
@mipen2006 (5528)
• Australia
8 Mar 07
I don't believe age has anything to do with true love, although one week isn't really time enough to tell, as you don't even know each other yet. Try the subject again in six months, if you're still together.
@sidoney (1033)
• Jamaica
8 Mar 07
love is all that matters age is just a # my bf is 32yrs old an i am 21yrs old we have a beautiful child together we love each other so age does not matter my mother is 39yrs old and her bf is 28yrs old and they are happy and my grand mother is 7yrs older that my grand father and i am not making this up I think if we all looked at just age some of us would live a miserable life.So go for it
@sadgirl_1958 (1088)
• United States
25 Feb 07
The relationship isn't based on age difference - it is based on mutual compatability. If you have doubts - then you should not pursue the relationship - and leave before it gets too involved and complex. Younger men and older women are one of the largest growing in dating and marriages. For many people this is quite acceptable for a variety of reasons. But clearly this isn't for everyone. You should talk your feelings over with your lady friend.
@cashm0neyz8 (29)
• United States
13 Feb 07
No I don't think age has that much bearing on a relationship. If you're extending 15+ years then maybe, but 10 or less I don't think it's that significant.
@dragonmojo (103)
• United States
18 Feb 07
You started out by saying no, there isn't.
Then you name 15+ years may be wrong.
Finally, you conclude that perhaps 10 or less years is ok.
I call it fickle.
@tarlsgirl (102)
• United States
14 Feb 07
i dont beleive that there is anything wrong with an 11 year difference, it is not that big of a deal, now a 75 year difference, yeah, but not 11, if you really think youre going to hit it off with this person then go for it, it is better to love and lost then never to love at all.
@dragonmojo (103)
• United States
18 Feb 07
Why would you think there will be something wrong with a 75 year age difference? Please, I am curious why it wouldn't work out.
@uniquesoul (230)
• Canada
8 Mar 07
It could get quiet difficult I myself have experienced this in life and there are alot of thing's that differ like communication, intrests, thinking there a parent figure, well let's just say they have more experience and life and have different views am not saying it will not work but it maybe difficult...My relationship with the older man didn't turn out he was always right and my opinions where taking chidish or I was wrong like he knew all...but not saying it can't workout it will just take alot to manage....Who knows maybe sshe could be the best thing that happens to u good luck!!!!!!
@surekharathi (14146)
• India
22 Dec 12
No problem 22 or 32 but if the men is older than women but if women is older than men from 10 years means not good. Only in exceptional case like Sachin Tandular can be do this. for common person this is not possible.
@dizzybizzy1 (978)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Dont let the age bother you. If you both truly have feelings for eachother then go for it!
I am 33 and my wife is 24. We have been together for 5 years and have 2 beautiful little girls. The age difference has never been an issue at all, even with family.
You are both consenting adults and there is nothing wrong with it.
@wmg2006 (5381)
• United States
23 Feb 07
Love and attraction has no age limit. I don't see anything at all wrong with being attracted to someone older or younger than yourself. I think this is just something we have been taught over the years, it is not written in stone that we must date within our age limit. Go have a great time and don't worry about the age difference.
@jayalaksmi (1039)
• India
22 Feb 07
Love knows no age, no boundaries, no caste,it knows only the words of heart and knows nothing else. You love then no one is going to stop you making love her.
@howard96h (11640)
• New York, New York
23 Feb 07
If you feel good being with this woman then don't worry about the age difference. It is only 10 years. Many couples/relationships have a big difference in their ages and have lasted. Don't listen to any of your friends negative opinions, you do what you feel is right. Does she make you happy?