Parents Divorced? How did this psychologically affect you growing up?
By randomgrafix
@randomgrafix (110)
Trinidad And Tobago
February 13, 2007 9:36am CST
There are so many broken homes these days that I think we've becomed desensitized about it.
Most of us are from those broken homes and from divorce parents. I know I have a problem with commitment because of that.
Seeing the fights and pain my parents endured made me fell my life will turn out that way.
What lasting psychological affects have your divorce parents left on you?
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3 responses
@chimex4real2k2 (1853)
• Nigeria
13 Feb 07
my parents divorced when I was young and for a long time I didnt understand it and wanted them to get back together so I could see my dad everyday as well as my mum but when I got older and more aware of stuff like this I realised that I am gla that my parents split up rather than staying together just because of me... I would rather my parents live in seperate houses and live seperate lives tha be together and constantly fighting because thats what damages kids... And if there is abuse going on (as you asked) then it is definately for the better, because no kid wants to grow up seeing their mother being abused by their father.... Thats damage for life and it isnt good....
@randomgrafix (110)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Feb 07
I too began to understand about these things as I got older.
I think the great revelation for me was to finally understand why they broke up.
For many years I blamed my Mom because she walked out.. but later when my Mom believed I was mature enough she told me every thing.
Only a mother knows what she does to protect her kids.. and some are willing to risk it all to ensure that their children have a positive future.
@ssh123 (31073)
• India
13 Feb 07
Luckily we have a well knit family where each one loves the other and love their parents vice versa. It is important that the parents should put up a united front in front of the children. Children observe a lot and they are not totally innocent. They pick up good or bad very fast. Therefore, just quarrel between the parents will have far reaching effect on the minds of the children. If divorce takes place, it is even more pathetic for children and it affects them so much psychologically that they just cannot be normal. Anger, resentment, erratic behaviour, fighting with other class mates, etc are some of the immediate causes and later when they grow as adults, their habits are not predictable. We are really setting a bad example./
@randomgrafix (110)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Feb 07
How can we help the children in our family (nieces, nephews, etc) to adjust if there's a break down in their family circle. (i.e. if the parents break up)?
@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
13 Feb 07
My parents did not get divorced until after I was on my own. They separated the year I started college and I have to say it taught me a lesson. The lesson it taught me was not to stay in a bad marriage just for the sake of the children. That is exactly what my mom did, she stayed with a man who cheated on her for their entire married life, he didn't help out around the house, although he was good with me he was a terrible father for my sister, he spent money like it grew on trees, etc...etc. I could go on for hours about all the unkind things he did, and yet my mom stayed with him as she felt she was giving us a better life. After thirteen years of trying in my relationship, I ended my marriage several months ago. It's not healthy for children to grow up in a home where there is constant turmoil. I think it's far better that they grow up in a happy home even if it means there is only one parent there.
@randomgrafix (110)
• Trinidad And Tobago
13 Feb 07
I totaly agree and most parents (mainly women) don't get that.
But alot of work needs to be done to heal the kids involved... that's the hard part.
