Homemaker VS the working "HUSBAND"

well that's one of those things you'll face as a home maker. husband's just don't understand that we really do work at home. taking care of kids is full time....i guess they think we sit on out butts all day doing NOTHING.

I disagree that most husbands feel that a home maker does nothing all day and it's ok for them to just around. Perhaps your husband feels that you have everything under control. Perhaps he feels that you don't need him to do anything or don't want him to because 'it is your domain'. If you know what I mean. Try talking with him. Try telling him that you need some help or that you would like him to be more involved. But on the flip side, also give him that unwind time. Sometimes things may be stressful for him at work and he needs a few minutes of rest and relaxation. But also let him know that you need that to. So I think there could be some compromise in this.

My husband is like that until I have a melt down and have to get upset. I got so overwhelmed with all of the responsibilities, that I started crying, then yelling. He has an at home business, so he can clearly see me working all day, I do not watch t.v. and relax all day while he is working. Most of the time he puts verbal commands on me all day so I can't even do the housework. I got so frustrated I yelled at him. This week, he has been less demanding, doing things for himself, and offering to give up his comfy chair for me at night. I thought that was sweet, and it is easier to deal with managing the entire household, and finances, and etc.... I just want some consideration, is that a lot to ask for? This time I got it.

No, you're not the only one going through this. I'm a stay-at-home-mom, and i have the same problem. My hubby doesn't come home and get on the computer, he just sits infront of the tv all evening until he's ready to go to bed. Working men, just don't understand that it is hard to be a stay-at-home parent. You have to jump when your children need you and you are on the job 24/7. With no breaks. They just don't see this, and i doubt that they ever will. not until you switch jobs, and he stays at home with the kids. I have felt this way for a while now. And it's really hard, to have the hubby come home, and start his crap about how he works all day and i get to stay home. Hell, he can have my job any day. But i seriously doubt that he'll beable to handle it.

No, i go through it from time to time. I understand that they need time out when they get home, but they need to realise too that I need time out as well. Its not easy taking care of the children and the house, and I think sometimes they forget how much you actually do. I've stopped bugging him about it, and now he helps me out in the weekends - not with everything, but little things and it counts. Sometimes I do things to remind him that he isn't helping out for e.g. by not washing his work clothes, nor ironing them and then he has no choice but to do it himself.

what ever ur husband might be... no matter how much he earns a parent is bound to help out their kids or his/her partner in trouble... the contribution might be small but still he got to make something...

I don't *think* my husband thinks he's going to be served with a silver platter, however we do have a similar situation. He works real late hours (or has more so in the last couple of months), and then what is typical for him- and has been for years- he comes home and goes to his computer. I would say half the time, he doesn't come to bed til well after I've already fallen asleep. It is so maddening to me.

No, you are not crazy. I think that is something men take for granted in general. I had the same issues when I worked and my husband came home at night. He just expected everything to be done for him, no matter what was on my agenda for the day. He should help you out - you need a break after all those hours with the kids.

i think that if a husband works all day hes pretty much done enough when he gets home and shouldn't have to do to much. but helping with the kids is like spending time with them all together. after being away at work hes not getting to see them and should be glad to help out

hey i am still not married but would like to relply that wife is the perrson with whom i will gonna live my whole future life so for the sake of change and fun i thing hubby and wife both must have change in life............... in food and in cook wife or hubby..........

This type of thing has went on for eons. The man always thinks he does so much more than the woman. Even if she works outside of the home, he still thinks his job is soooooooo much harder. Bull!! My best suggestion is to quit serving him on a silver platter. Let him know that since his workday has ended so has yours.