Marital Problems... Should I leave?

You have to do what you feel is right. Whatever your heart says. Sometimes you may need just to go and talk to someone to figure out whether it will work or not. But that is all up to you and how you feel.

You know, I don't know what your situation is, so I don't know what you guys fight about. But, I think that every relatinship goes through a time like this & getting through it is what's going to make you stronger. My husband & I fight a lot too/disagree & we've been married for 4 years. The first couple were the roughest because I just kept thinking, what did I get into? But, in all reality, I think we feel that way, not because we don't love the person, but because we are just sick of fighting/disagreeing & the same old crap gets so old day after day. Marriage is HARD work, but if you put in the effort it is well worth the reward, especially since you have a son together. What has helped us is talking, not when we are in a fight, but after everything settles down we just talk to eachother about why we get so mad etc. & that really seems to help. If your just fighting and arguing, I think you should keep working on your marriage. I think sometimes we always think that something else would be so much better, until we actualyl get that something else & it wasn't what we wanted or expected. Figure out why you fell in love in the first place with your husband & list the positive qualities about him & what you love & what you would miss if he wasn't around. That usually puts things into perspective. Like, how would you feel if he would die tomorrow? I definately have felt the way you have, but I'm definately glad I haven't left, because I've never been happier & yeah, we still fight alot--but, we have an understanding now & we know that even if we fight--it's okay because neither one of us are going anywhere & we're going to be stronger in the end.

Yes, I have felt this way before. I thin of how I would be able to take care of myself and three children. Than I think of what it was alike when I was alone. Than I set down and write the pros and cons of my marraige. I always find in the end I have more pros than cons. I know I love my hsuband. Sometimes we fight. But you have to be really certain you want to do this. Most times there is no going back. I would check into some marriage counseling to see if that will work first.

Only you know how bad it is. You need to do what is best for you and your son. Maybe a trial separation? You shouldn't rush into anything though. If you still love him, try the counselling and try to work it out. On the other hand, if you just don't love each other anymore, why delay the inevitable? Can you afford to get an apartment? You need to sit down with your husband and have a calm rational discussion about your feelings and options. Good luck.

You both have to get involve to straighten this out,remember theres 3 of you now.You both have to learn to give a little and also realise that you are both changing,and your situation has changed.You two are not the same couple that got married and as long as you are both aware of that,and are willing to accommodate these slight changes,everything will fine

There are dealbreakers in a marriage but sometimes couples just need to get back on track. Dr.Phil really does have some good advice. There is quite a bit you should consider....but just save the fighting for when your son isn't around....whether or not you stay with your husband. My parents were divorced and still fought in my presence so what good was the divorce? Ultimately though, children would rather be from a broken home than live in one. Check out Dr. Phil's page. Many of your questions will be answered. Hang in there.... http://www.drphil.com

You need to do what makes you happy. Even though you have a kid do you want him to see you guys fight and be unhappy? Just get up and leave if you can't work things out and you will have a huge weight lifted from your shoulders and you can be happy again

All married couples probably hit that point. Try seeking help from a marriage counselor. If that doesn't work, you may want to consider separating for awhile. Don't go straight to divorce, though.