Is there any right way to tell your husband his parents just cannot move in????

If there is nothing wrong with his parents physically, then I don't understand why they would want to burden their son and his new wife by moving in with them. Yes, a lot of in-laws do love to criticize. No one outside of the family can do it like they can. Believe me, I had my share of that and my own mother. I think that you just did an excellent job of explaining it to us. Newly weds need their privacy. You could explain to him that you care very much for his parents but just are not comfortable sharing your home right now with anyone but him. This is your getting to know each other period and even if it wasn't, parents moving in with their children when there are no hardships involved is, in my opinion just an unfair decision unless ALL parties agree and actually want this. I could understand if they were unable to care for themselves and you two had been married for many years. But, this I just don't understand. I would think that if they did move in with you, your marriage will suffer dearly. And by all means, YES, you do need to enjoy every room in the house many times over before even thinking about anyone else living with you. Also, what happens when you have children later on in life? Are you also going to be told how to raise these children by the grandparents? I do wish you luck. I would be very unhappy to have this burden if were me. I like my privacy and as you said, you left one mother..(nice isn't it?) are you just going to replace her with another? They are easier to love if they are not under the same roof. I could go on....

i think life without parents is like one is living without water, without food etc.parents are only the one in the whole world who will always think positive for their children.

Ask your husband why he wants his parents to move in wiht you guys?? Is there something about their health etc that he is keeping from you?? The start of a marriage has a lot of bearing on what it will be like in the future. YOu need your own space. Since your mom-in-law loves to critisize, u are definetely better off now living with her. But dont blurt it out to your husband, talk to him gently and reason with him. If he needs his parents close by, why not find them a place near you (not too near though) so that he will always be within their reach yet away from them. Good luck, i know its a tricky situation but u guys need to discuss it before you find your in-laws at your place

Tell your husband how much you appreciate his parents, how good your relationship with them is and how much you want to keep it that way. You may tell him the situation of your sister and that you don't want the same thing to happen to you and his parents. Open communication is important in marriage. I'm sure your husband will understand you. You may share your thoughts to him, be open, and don't keep anything from him so he can do the same to you.

If is was me i would just be honest and tell him i have been giving it alot of thought and i dont want to share my house with anyone other than him.Explain about your sisters relationship with hers and say that you dont want that to happen with your in-laws. Why do your in-laws want to move in with you anyway and why cant they either stay where they are or move into a retirement village with other people and facilities suited to their age. good luck and let us know what happens