Butting In

Hey, if I can mess in your marriage, I do not have to fix mine, right? I prefer to keep my private life private, but people will try to manufacture a connection or complication that invites them to interfere in your life. Whether you want them or not. It is irksome.

Just them that you don't want to talk about it with them. That you aren't going to listen if they give advice. If they try....put your hand over your ears. That should be able to figure out you don't want to hear it than. But with any advice...just sit and listen. Take it with a grain of salt. It is advice...treat as such. Listen..than if you want to do what they say..do it. If not, than don't.

My thoughts are if I don't ask for your opinion then don't offer it. It is one thing if I am sitting there talking to someone, it is another thing if they just start offering advice out of the blue.

I agree with you, that it's basically not really any of their business. I guess the other thing that bugs me about it is that those offering their "advice" usually are doing so without having all the information. I realize that someone looking in on other people's relationship might have some fresh insight, but most of the time they don't TRULY know what is going on, so their advice just becomes an unwelcome intrusion. Of course, if you are actually ASKING for advice, it becomes a whole different issue.