No flames allowed
By sunshinecup
@sunshinecup (7871)
February 13, 2007 4:34pm CST
I know Mylot has this rule about no flame wars. However, some of the best times I have ever had on a forum was during a well spirited flaming match. For those of you who do not know what a flame war is, it is when two or more posters insult the day lights out of one another. Good spirited ones is when the opponents do not go for vulgarity, but witty, intelligent burns.
Sometimes I found them to be a wonderful stress release :)
??QUESTION??
Have you ever been in a flame war and what did you think about it. Have you ever found them to be entertaining or just immature?
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21 responses
@comedyaddict (772)
• Canada
13 Feb 07
I was going to come up with something witty but I'm a bit dumb for that. So what I will say is this, flames wars are for dim witted people who are lacking intelligence and who are totally immature. People who argue in the internet, clearly have no life, and should get up off of the a** and do something useful with their time! I'm I wrong, prove it! ;)
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@comedyaddict (772)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
Hey sunshinecup...hope you didn't think I was being serious ;) I just wanted to try starting a mock flame war... lol....
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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14 Feb 07
Oh no I didn't think you were. I am afaid if I jumped in, it will get deleted. :0(
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@comedyaddict (772)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
lol.. fair enough... I suppose there is a find line between an intelligent argument and a flame war that we had better not cross... and someone would be bound to think a mock flame war is as bad as the real thing...
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@patootie (3592)
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14 Feb 07
It's all too easy for a 'spirited debate' to descend into an all out flame thrower of global proportions though ...
And how would you feel if your 'spirited debate' did get out of hand and even the 'well put' responses got deleted due to the flaming ones near the end ..
If you ever want to see flame wars in full unmoderated 'inferno mode' .. just take a quick trip into the 'Net 'underworld' .. but, I warn you, you'll need a full set of fireproofs and be ready to pull out quickly .. because when they take a disliking to you .. it can get really, really bad ...
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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14 Feb 07
Hi, patootie. If you get the time, could you message me a link? I don't have a any flame resistance yet, but I love to observe a flaming in action from time to time.
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@Marie2473 (8512)
• Sweden
14 Feb 07
he he he, i am actually amused by thema nd I probably has been in my share of them as well. sure it might be immature, but we all need to be that at times =)
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@ItTakesAllSorts (4096)
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14 Feb 07
I myself have been in a couple about conspiracy theories and the middle/working classes.
I do enjoy them when they are discussed intellectually and end with a mutual understanding of the other persons views.
I did however have a debate with one mylot member who was just arrogant and very rude when I first came onto this site. At first I was quite upset, until one day I saw a post from him when the ratings system had come in and he had over 1000 posts but a rating of 2.
This did tickle me as one of his discussions was on why his rating was so low.
I was very tempted to respond but left it as I already knew the reason why!!!!!
I will often go back and read responses that will entice members to have a rant or two way debate. I do find these interesting when it is done on an intellectual level and not just by pure insults as this makes the person look stupid.
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@sunshinecup (7871)
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14 Feb 07
I have read some really heated ones, but what made them so darn great was, both sides kept their points pretty strong and clear. I agree when it's just trashing with no point to it other than being a jerk, then they just look like an idiot.
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@GypsysTear (75)
• United States
14 Feb 07
HAHAHAHA!!! This is great... I JUST got out of a flame war with this one girl... She was super paranoid over me trying to steal her fiance when I'm crazy about someone else already. She was slandering my friend through public blog posts and try as my friend might she just couldn't seem to get her side through. Actually... it's the WHOLE reason I joined mylot! I told her MY side of the story and as my freind said "really tore into this girl". She's still in denial and still angry and still won't drop it and yells at me to drop it saying she has (psh) and I told her the moment she stops publicly complaing and bashing my freind I would stop b/c I would not sit by and not stick up for my friend.
... and this totally ended up longer than I expected... BUT! Back to your original point. yes I LOVE flame wars it's a great stress reliever sometimes just to let it all out :)
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@ankana222 (40)
• India
14 Feb 07
honestly i did not know what flamewar is though have done it many times ;) ...recently with a friend i had a realll good time arguing or as u say flame war for no such reason...had a good time...and by the time we finished instead of being irritated or in a bad mood both of us were smiling...felt good...
@ESKARENA1 (18261)
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14 Feb 07
oh wow i really thought it was just me. I love an intellectual joust but had never heard it called a flame war. I had been wondering what was missing from mylot, now i understand it. I have been in flame wars, i spent five years running a chat room on win mx and used to get into some beauties. I guess i did enjoy them, but I think as you mature they tend to lose their appeal, I guess its one of the reasons i retired to the more tranquil pastures of mylot
@freesoul (3021)
• Egypt
15 Feb 07
No I never went to war:) it's just not for me, i know that a lot of people enjoy it a lot but I think it's waste of time and energy and i do hate conflicts and arguments.. I know of people who are just sniffing around for a "good flame war" and it will make their day when they find one, others just get sucked into it and can't leave, etc. I just avoid any such discussions or users who are known for it.. and i did see a few in mylot although many of their discussions/responses may get deleted eventually but they are not in for the earnings but for the "fun" lol
@western_valleygirl (1363)
• United States
14 Feb 07
I have to agree with you, and so, I like to look for the debating discussions, because then, you can enjoy yourself, without getting upset and no one else will get upset. There needs to be more discussions, that let us speak freely and say what is really on our minds. However, I have oftentimes felt hampered by the fact that so many people are using the neg button as a weapon, and not objectively. I will, however, be keeping my eyes out for those that have good, honest, and decent flame wars.
@candygurl24 (1880)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
I have never heard of this before at all, so thanks for informing those of us that had no clue :)
I think that depending on the 'opponents' flaming that day or week, it could be either amusing or annoying. If they are all in good fun, I see no problems with it, but there are alot of people on here that would probably just be really ignorant, so I'm not sure that it's the greatest of ideas.
A forum with alot of people who are mature would be a great place for a flaming match.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
14 Feb 07
I have got in a couple of flame wars with other's in a poker game that I play and find that some people only come on just to deliberately insult someone else who wasn't doing anything to deserve the attitude . In this case sometimes I have jumped in to defend the person and ended up in a flame war . I usually find it funny just because if you come up with a good come back they will generally leave as the only reason they are doing this is to try and cause trouble . They don't like when someone beats them at their own game lol .
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
14 Feb 07
Yeah, it's fun to flame sometimes, specially if you see people worth pwning.
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@ankana222 (40)
• India
14 Feb 07
honestly i did not know what flamewar is though have done it many times ;) ...recently with a friend i had a realll good time arguing or as u say flame war for no such reason...had a good time...and by the time we finished instead of being irritated or in a bad mood both of us were smiling...felt good...
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@emarie (5442)
• United States
14 Feb 07
not here...but flaming can be a little fun, of course there are those who take it to a different level where it just becomes wrong. i think flamning should be left out of most places since they wanted serious discussions. theres always other places you can go to flame. i see a lot in myspace groups...but most people don't mind because majority don't even take them that seriously. its just kind of fun to watch. i never really been in a real one, i have lashed out a few times on a debate, but nothing ever really that serious. as you can see my star rating is an 8 and thats because i do speak my mind and probably some people don't like it.
@reinydawn (11643)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Eh, flame wars are not the best way to try to get your point across. By the time a "debate" becomes a flame war, neither party is listening to the other, but merely trying to force their belief on the other. If I can't get my point across - that includes an agree to disagree - after a couple posts, I drop it. I don't always have to have the last word.
UNLESS... I'm being personally attacked, then I have a hard time backing down and it might take a bit of intervention from a friend to cool me off a bit.
@meme0907 (3481)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Well I used to frequent this one forum where it seemed like that was all ppl wanted to do-they were mean spirited even if someone just came on to ask for advice. I gave out a couple good quips but soon tired of ppl blasting each other. I can definetly see evidence that folks really get into flame wars but I just think it's a way for someone who feels terrible to spread the misery on a global scale.
+'s 4 U & your pic :)
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
14 Feb 07
It really depends on the arguement and what the person is clamining. Sometimes I really really enjoy flame wars. Other times I think the people are just really stupid and I want nothing more for them to be gotten rid of.
@Denmarkguy (1845)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Whereas I like "heated discussion," I generally do NOT like flame wars... simply because the majority of participants seem to start taking it personally, and what started as a nice debate disintegrates into personal mudslinging and namecalling. And when that happens, I'd have to characterize the outcome as "immature" and "childish." My experience has been that unless everyone involved is really "tight," flame wars have a tendency to break communities into "factions" or "cliques" where participants feel like they will be cast out, unless they join one side, or the other.
My dislike for flame wars, thus, is mostly linked to a strong dislike for cliqueishness.
