College Graduation and Divorced Parents?

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So here is the situation... bear with me because to put it lightly, its complicated. I am about to graduate from college. I paid for it with student loans and the substantial help of my grandparents on my mother's side, as well as emotional and occasionally financial support from my longtime boyfriend. I have a decent relationship with both of my parents now, but it used to be horrible. I am close to my step-father (now divorced from my mother, but they are friendly), my Dad's 25 year old girlfriend, and my othe rgrandparents. I am also close to my boyfriend's family, and spend most holidays with them, but they never have and have no desire to meet my parents. I have many very close friends, who are like family, as well. So... here we go. I'm about to graduate college, and everyone is invited. Then I would like to have a more formal party for the "old folks" and then hit the bars that night with the younger ones. I plan on having my graduation party at a Mexican restaurant where my frehsman roommate and I went for lunch on the day we moved into the dorms with her parents. I have bit split between holidays my entire life. I don't want to have to have 2 graduation parties and fele split on my special day. (I didn't attend graduation in high school). What do you think? Do you think they can handle it? At what point should I tell them, btw... everyone s coming and it means a lot ot me that you are there? Am I subconsciously testing them all?