Spare the Rod and Spoil the Child
By Bangalorean
@Bangalorean (1282)
India
February 14, 2007 4:28am CST
Do you believe in this most popular saying? I have seen my friend's son, who was basically pampered a lot, he was never denied of any of his wants, whether necessary or not. But today, he had grown up to be a adamant,stubborn brat.
It difficult to control him. Do you think it was the mistake on the parents end?
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4 responses
@samson1967 (7414)
• India
14 Feb 07
Hi, Kids must be treated with Love and affection till they are 5 years old. After 5 years they need strict guidance and if necessary beatings also to make them a better citizen.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
14 Feb 07
samson, you can't be serious, at least I hope to God you aren't maybe I am misunderstanding what you mean when you say beatings, I hope so.. also, kids need structure and discipline from an earlier age than five.
@Bangalorean (1282)
• India
15 Feb 07
Rod does not mean only beating or bashing up the child. It also means discipline. A child should be taught the same from his formative age and not when he is grown up
@mjsdls (1840)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Yes I believe it is their fault for not correcting him and giving him everything he wants. I want my son to have things, but I also wany him to respect what he has. If you spare diciplining your children you have a mess on your hands.
If a child is never corrected he will go through life thinking everyone must cater to him and his wants. He will not respect anything or anyone, not even his self.
@wmaharper (2316)
• United States
14 Feb 07
well this isn't really a saying, it's scripture. I do believe that children who are not disciplined in life are set up for failure by their parents. They are taught by their parents that they can have anything that they want if they throw a big enough fit, and that if things don't go your way, you can MAKE it go your way just by being a brat. But in the real world, this doesn't work well, and the child, now adult is seen as a jerk or loser still living with mom and dad. On the other hand, i don't believe that every infraction in life demands strict discipline, a glass of spilled milk by no means warrants a spanking or even a time out (in my opinion), but a defiant attitude must be dealt with consistently and immediately. Regardless of your choice of discipline.. whether spanking or time outs, or another kind of punishment one must take into consideration the intent of the child and find a consequence that fits the crime. When parents refuse to discipline their children, they are sending them the message, that they will not have to pay for what they do.. that there are no consequences to their actions, which I think is very dangerous.
@CarlaEllyn (4)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Yes, I do. I believe in disciplining children, even spanking if necessary. However, a well-run household will not find it necessary to often spank a child.
From Proverbs 23:13-14
13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he shall not die.
14 Thou shalt beat him with the rod, and shalt deliver his soul from hell.
A favorite saying of my mother's is "He's not too old for his wants to hurt him."
No one profits from being given everything they ever want.
Carla
@Bangalorean (1282)
• India
15 Feb 07
Thanks for all the efforts in giving me the bibilical references. I appreciate your interest and as you said, hurting a child is not the question, but disciplining is the intention
