It's strange how life can be sometimes....

Sorry but I find your husband not sharing your happiness and not being able to tell people about it very sad and disappointing, if my partner or friend had their works published I would be over the moon for them and I would be just as excited as them, knowing I've got a friend who's clever and has great talents. It's far from easy getting anything published, it's a minefield and the fact that you've achieved your works, your talents in print is no mean feat, do your friends and husband realize just how talented you are, so why aren't they proud of you? Why can't they share your happiness? It's not jealousy is it? When I first heard about your success I was really genuinely pleased for you and I wanted to know more. Hopefully when they see the fruits of your labour then they will I'm sure appreciate you more Good luck and don't let anyone stand in the way of your talents at poetry ok!

I am so sorry that your friends were as happy for you as they could have been. Sometimes poeple dont know how to show their emotions very well. Maybe they will surprise you with a Happy for you card later. I think it is great and you should be proud of your accomplishments!

Well done you , It must be brilliant , I think you know I write poetry too and have had some published , but only in anthologies where I have had to buy the books , I got one in a magazine one as well , bet have never been paid for anything , It must really be wonderful to look at the book and know that you wrote them all , My son made me a website and has put quite a few of mime in , He is still building it ,I get such a thrill when people even leave me a message on the site , I am over the moon for you pal and I don't even know you hat well yet , Be proud of yourself , its a bid accomplishment xxx

Life's strange that way sometimes, I guess. And I do suppose that people can be very surprising as well (in a sad way sometimes =[). I suppose that people just react in different ways & maybe find it hard to express themselves (I do agree with you of how it's really ironic sometimes of how strangers are more expressive & can empathize more than our personal friends)--but I guess that's just what's great about MyLot, of how we are able to find friends here as well...=) You know what, I just thought of a possible reason for this--could it also be that the reason for the minimal reaction would be that they take you for granted? Because I do feel this way sometimes, of how you keep on doing things day in & day out (as simple as cooking meals) & you pour your heart out in what you do & for them it's just become so normal that they sometimes forget to appreciate? What do you think? Sad but true for my part sometimes... But I sure am praying & hoping with you that your husband deep inside, even if he doesn't show it, is mighty proud of you & that his heart swells up whenever he reads your poems (I did see the preview of your book through lulu & it really seems like it is heartfelt & full of love, just based from the titles of your poems)... It would be very hard not be proud of having poems dedicated & written because of you... am just happy for you that you were able to be cheered up here in some way-- =)...have a wonderful day greengal =)!

Greengal I am so sorry for you. Why is your Husband not sharing your Happiness? He should be so proud of you, I can Imagine that it is very discouraging and I am so sorry. But do not let this down Heart you. I am still writing my Book, I will not inform anyone when I publish it. Only my Friends on here, who are being very supportive. Girl, don't let them get you down, be proud of yourself.

Time to play the maybe game! Maybe it's the subject of your book that puts them off... many people don't like poetry. Maybe they think you just want them to buy a copy of your book. Maybe just don't know what to say. Maybe they're busy. But as long as you're happy, it's good enough, no? Having expectations is a terrible thing, in my opinion. You're setting yourself up for disappointments :(

First of all: congratulations! I am happy for you. I think that publishing a book is one of the dremas of many people. Probably this is also the reason why your friends don't look happy or don't show to be excited for that. I am sure that they are looking for your book and buying it but they don't feel to show that are happy because they want to do exactly the same thing: publish a book! This is wrong but normal.

There is a will there is a way. I am appreciating that you could write your poetry book and get it published. It takes a lot of time to make a standard one. I love writing but I have not got much time to do. If I did, I would think of the license from the cultural department to get it published. If your friends or your partner have got the different ideas, you don't have to be serious about it. Get it go smoothly, when you get money from the published books sale, they will be happy later.

Sometimes it is hard for the ones we love the most to share in our happiness. I am a writer as well and my family doesn't think I am talented enough, my friends are very suppotrtive and that helps but my boyfriend... It isn't that he isnt some what supportive but he is more scared for me, I too am working on having my poetry book published. He is worried that if no one likes it that I will be devestated, and really I might be but that is part of life. I think he is also scared that if I succeed at this one thing that i might want to spread my wings some more and that maybe one day i will spread them and leave him behind. It took me a while to figure out that sometimes you have to be your own biggest fan, alot of the times when we are scared we cant see past our fear long enough to say congradulations, or even a simple I am proud of you. However deep down inside I am sure he is proud of you. I know I am. Congrats!!!

my dear my heart is hurting for you...I can quite imagine how discouraging and difficult it must be for you not to find the right appreciation and support in the person you love the most..I don't know what I can tell you...yes, it happened to me,too...I loved a person and he simply was incapable of understanding the most important part of me...but eventually I had to tell me he was not the right person for me...it was two years ago and it still seems yesterday...he hurt me in many ways and this was one of the worst...I think ...maybe your husband is having a very busy period...maybe he simply didn't pay attention to the fact that this book represents your inner voice and it is therefore one of the most important thing in your life..I think you have to speak to him..let him know how important this thing is for you...tell him how painful is for you that he doesn't understand this part of you...when you love someone you must always try to let him know you.. I send you a big hug...and I congratulate on your book, again

Hello greengal, first of all, I would like to congratulate you on your newly published book. I can certainly relate to you and emphatize with what you're feeling. You see, if there's a lesson that I learned in all my 35 years of life, is that you should not expect everyone to reciprocate your achievements, your dreams, or even your happiness. I learned this the hard way. When I'm into something big, I just kept it to myself. If only my little pet bunny can understand me, I might as well share my happiness with my bunny rather than to some friends and even to my husband. You know what I mean. In everything I do, my husband always find something to criticize or discourage me. I am not even asking my husband to agree to whatever I'm doing. But for 8 years, I came to accept him as like that. My husband insisted that he is just talking nonsense and didn't mean any harm. He even discourages me from joining mylot coz earnings is quite small. I advise you to keep doing what you love to do. It is your passion to write poetry and nothing not even the lack of support of your friends or your husband should deter you from doing it. I wish you all the best and keep up the good work.

First of all, congratulations! I'm sorry that your friends haven't told you that they are happy for you. I'm pretty sure that it's because of jealousy, they probably wish that they were the one that wrote a poetrybook instead of you. A lot of insecure people think that they can't be successful if someone else is, they compare themselves to others. They don't think that they can do great things if their friends can. They have to work on their self esteem.

Wow! To have published a book is some kind of a great accomplishment and achievement on your part!(",) What was your poem all about? I'm curious. I think your husband is also very proud of you though he is not showing it to you but, deep in his heart he is proud because you are his wife and he loves you.(",)My family is really very supportive of me and so far, I didn't experienced being let down. You'll get over it soon.(",) Just keep in mind that they love you and wishing the best just for you. Congratulations! You did something to be proud of! Good luck and hope I can get a copy of your book.(",)

Firstly, congrats on your first venture, good luck going forward. Now, it is commendable that most of the materials substance is ur husband, but, you expecting something in turn doesn't sound all that great. It is not important how much ur husband *markets* your work, the appreciation could come as a plain smile at the end of it all. Also, how many of ur *close* friends received the complimentary copies from you? Just curious? If they have received these copies and haven't had the time to respond, wait it out, sometimes the world doesn't come to a stand still to stand and applaud our achievements, I am sure you would agree with me here. Also, if I can add, since you say this is ur first work, I am not too sure you should have put a price tag on it. Heres to a upcoming poetess ...:) Good luck!

thats sad experience of yours actually, all of my success were proudly supported by my parents, love ones, friends. in a way that when im happy about something, they're happy also. regarding my friends side, i was once asked before to be a some sort of a leader in school, i was skeptical of my decision to pursue it. but when my friends at school know about it, they said they'll be with me through it. so i was happy to have friends like them.

Congratulations! This is something I dream of for myself some day. My mother is pushing me to have my poetry published. So there's some support. My husband is skeptical. He won't believe I have it in me until he sees something published and a paycheque show up in the mail. As for friends, the only friends I have are in a writer's group. We are all very supportive of one another and purchase each other's books when we do become published. I believe your friends are probably jealous and am betting they expect you to give them a book for free. I tell my teenage daughter that all the time, if someone puts you down for something good about you, then they are obviously jealous. I hope my novel will be published and I will get support from friends I didn't even know I had. I feel for you. ((((HUGS))))

Somehow I missed your first discussion about your book publishing. So, I want to congratulate you for that wonderful work! This is very disapointing that youare getting such kind of response from your friend and specially from your husband. I am sorry to hear that. About your friend I can say one thing that may be they are jealous, thats why they are pretnding to be ignorent like this is not a very good achievment. They know that every one can't get such a gifted talent to write poetry. They don't watn to accept this by encouraging you, because they are jelous. Don't go after those people and don't let yourself get down. You know what you have achieved and what that means to you, so be proud of yourself and keep up the good work. Hugs to you for this success.

First and foremost, congrats on your new book! I think that's a huge milestone. Being that I'm a writer, I think the first publication is always the most memorable. I remember when I got my first greeting card published, I was so excited. And even today, I'm very proud of myself. And let me give you some advice: you have to be your greatest fan. Don't let people get you down. Either they're extremely jealous, or they're insensitive. And neither is a trait you should worry about dealing with.

hi i really hate to hear that you did not get the support that you needed, i think that is a big problem with a lot of relationships, friends, family, husbands, etc... i dont know the reason, people just dont support each other as they should, used to be that it was the norm to have human kindness and compassion for one another, but not anymore, they world is to busy, everyone thinking of me me me. people are just not close like they use to be and thats a shame.

Well, greengal, it is really sad that those people important to you doesn't symphatize with your happiness because of the dream you achieve. but don't jump into conclusion that they didn't like your work. Maybe, it is not their interest. Some considered poetry a boring one. But those people who considered poetry a great thing is present here in myLot. So don't be sad just because, they didn't appreciate your work. The reason why God permit you to have the opportunity to enter in this kind of site is for you to have some people who has the same inclination like you are. Because the Lord know that you have only few one in your circle. So be thankful for that. After all, people who believe in you are much better in number than those people you expect to like it. Just look at the bright side of it. Well, I also experience that kind of treatment by those people whom I consider close to me. I am considered as a top notcher in our pilot class way back in high school. I landed first honors on first year. Second honors on second year, third honors on third year, and fourth honor on fourth year. It is declining as the years pass by. But I never taken for granted my studies. I really worked hard for it. The competition is really strict and challenging. I joined different kinds of contests just to earn extra grades and to have some awards. This helped me get a good place in the ranking. But my parents are still not satisfied with it due to the fact that it is still declining in rank. They want me to be the first in the rank always, for my cousins are always on top way back in their high school days in that school where I'm in. They want me to follow the footsteps of my cousins who all landed in the top. But I am not able to do it. Only on the fourth place but with many awards. They still feel disappointed about it and that hurts me more. It seems that my work doesn't pay off. They didn't even recognize the hardship I've been through just to have that. But eventually, I became fine because they let me choose my course in college. Aside from that, past is past. It's been five years since then. I have already moved on. And now, I am continuing the achievement of my dreams. And they really supported me all throughout.