could be my daughter
By teamfreddy
@teamfreddy (150)
Mexico
February 14, 2007 4:53pm CST
A number of years ago I fell in love with a Colombian lady that is 18 years younger then I am. In the beginning everything worked out fine and it was roses and moonshine, but in time it was apparent that our differences in culture, language and above all age, were breaking us up. We are still friends, even after the divorce. My good friend next door is about to go for the same type of relation here in Mexico, that did not workout for me in Colombia. What are the real reasons that I may have missed and what can I tell him to prevent the same problems in time?
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5 responses
@lislis (89)
• Indonesia
15 Feb 07
Maybe you will tend to arrange her to be what you expected...but maybe not. I marry to a colombian guy that 13 years older than me. Everything is fine, unless that my husband tend to correct me a lot. Thats the only think that I feel a little discouraging. After all, hopefully our great love will overcome our difference.
@teamfreddy (150)
• Mexico
19 Feb 07
I can imagine myself your situation. I had the same problem, so often I told her which way to go, as I had been there in life already and wanted to protect her. I still have contact with her, although I am now together with a lady that is 2 years older then I am. In other words, we still love each other, but simply decided to call it quits and continue our own lives and found the correct happiness. But......my Colombian time will NEVER be forgotten.
@cool_ajay (35)
• India
15 Feb 07
Weel i ll say, the age diff realy creates a barrier as we call it as generation gap, as when u r 60 ur children would b in coll, so it's better to consider the age factor b'fore such relnshps, i ll say u btr talk to ur frnd abt it, else he's definitely going to get set back like u....
@teamfreddy (150)
• Mexico
19 Feb 07
For that reason we decided at the start not to get children together, as at that time she already had a 6 year old boy from an earlier relation. We decided to go our own ways when I felt it was not going to work the way it was menat to be. We are still talking, loving each other, respecting each other, and moving ahead each their own way and each in a different country.
@classy56 (2880)
• United States
14 Feb 07
all you can do is tell him what you went through with you relationship with the columbain lady.maybe he will think about what you said, an learn something from it,but every relationship is not the same,his just might work out for him.if not just be there as a friend for him.if it alls falls apart.
@villageanne (8553)
• United States
1 Dec 07
I think that is one of those things that he will have to find out on his own. My oldest daughter is married to a man. Their age difference is well over 18 years. They have a great marriage. They have been married for 7 years now
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
14 Feb 07
Just tell him about your experience. Tell him the things you wish you'd done differently. You say you're still friends with your ex, ask her how your relationship could have been different. Share all of this with your good friend but don't expect the worst. Every relationship is different, he might be just fine. Also don't put too much blame on the age difference, it doesn't have to be an issue unless it's made into one. Good Luck to you friend!
