How long in a relationship would you get married?

my grandma used to say ""marry in haste repent at your leisure"" you are a lucky one

Well, my husband and i got married 5 years after we met. But we began living together 3 years before marriage. I think that as long as you know that your in love, then it's all good, get married when you want... the problem with people now though is not that they get married too fast, they get married too fast at the time when they don't even know if they care that way for eachother. then there's that nerves thing haha, there's so many people that don't pay attention to their nerves, get married and find that their nerves were right before they got married, that they shouldn't have. My family and friends screamed at me the whole time going down the isle, i ran, haha, i wanted to be there and be married to the love of my life immediately, and my mom was livid because i wasn't nervous at all... She was nervous, and well, i just tell her, yeah you may have been, but look how your marriage turned out. Mine's going to be different.

For me marrying someone does take full pledge and right decision. Its not just about love, Its is also about how to handle the relationship and situations. Hindrance takes alot of worrying times but the lenght of having a uncouple relationship isn't the base of getting married. It depends to the lovers on how they carry on obstacles together and how they handle both relations. Some married couples commits years before marriage then separated less than a decade. Some married early in the relationship with lenght of months but last for lifetime :)

I think Quality time spent together is more important than Quantity time spent ,,, and also depends a lot on how the 2 persons think, how open both of them are and how easily do they let others know about themselves me and my girlfriend are in a relationship since last 4 years and we figured out how important these 4 years have been to our relationships ,,, we had differences in many areas ... i am 24 and she is 23 ... we met in college,,, we didnt know a bit about what it takes to be a couple ..."A HAPPY COUPLE" -- now we know for sure ... i dont regret the time spent with her ,,, i learnt so many things about her now ,, and learning it all the time... we are gonna get married next year that will be 5 years after we got in touch with each other ... i think thats wonderful for you to find a perfect match so soon and spontaneously ... have a good day... thanks sid

i will give it a year to two...... before I will get married...

thats amazing, 7 weeks!! well then it depends on the couple when are they gonna get married. if they feel they want it, so be it! months and years of dating doesnt guarantee a good marriage.. so as good married life too.. compatibility and fidelity is important, and all other stuffs that must be present in a relationship. stay love chele2k2!! love is in the air!!

good for you , I met my hubby when I was 16 and him 19 we got engaged when I was 18 and married 6 months later , We have had 45 perfect years and I would not change him even for Mel Gibson lol , he is my soul mate xx

That's wonderful .. sounds almost impossible, but for some folks .. one glimpse is enough, how lucky you are that both of you felt the same way .. I pretty much fell head over heels with my ex-hubby .. lovely man, very kind and gentle, always trying to do the 'right thing' .. I really do wish I had met him when I was a bit older though .. sigh ...

That is great. I always say look deep before you leap. I don't put a time limit on love and marriage. I do think that you need to know about the each other before you get married. You should discuss about financials as well as how to raise kids. These are two reasons marriage fails. I also think that communication is very important to keep a marriage going. You need to be able to talk about everything so that if there is a problem it can be worked out before it gets too big. I lived with my husband for a full year before we got married. He has seen me at my rock bottom worst and I have seen him at his worst. We have been married for twenty years and still going strong. I wish you are the marrital bliss you can have in the world. You sound like you have a great start.

my hubby and I got married after 6 yrs of being boyfriend and girlfriend.I dont regret a thing and I think that we were ready already thats why we decided to get married becasue it will still end up that way. :) We love each other so mucha and we will stay in love together forever.

there are no hard and fast rule to judge others, if you feel good with someone so go ahead otherwise step back at very initial stage.

Well I think that it really depends upon the people in the relationship, my husband and I were engaged to be married two weeks after we started dating, but we were 17 and 19 so we waiting 6 years to make sure that we really wanted to be married. We really only waited because everyone told us we were too young at the time, well here we are 11 years later, 5 of those married. :)

wow, nice story. How i wish we could all be like that. Some people are just so lucky.

I have the relationship with my girlfriend for more than 5 years, and we are consider getting married some days ago, But I thinks it is nothing to do with how long the period is,a few times is enough it is the age,the feeling ,and the condition ,such as house,earning,deposite, decide it!

I'd say it could be any time. As long as you both trust each other, you both understand each other and want to be together forever. if yout hink that you can live with them for the rest of your life then Yes you can(I mean living with them and being happy) Secondly you should also be satisfied with your partner in every single way :P

me and my hubby knew each other for a little over a year before we got married.

I think it depends on you. I've been with my boyfriend for 3 years- we're still not ready to get married yet. My sister got married 6 months after meeting her boyfriend- they got divorced 6 months later. I think it really depends on the couple, the timing, and other factors. You never know?

Yes, I believe that we should be in a relationship for quite some time before we get married. After all marriage is a life long commitment and we should be very careful while choosing our life partner as all of us do not want to end up in a divorce. So while choosing a parter you should be in a relationship for a long time so that both the partners are sure that they are ready to marry the other person.

I've always had this principle that even if I love the person so much, I won't marry him if I have only knew him even for couple of months. I've always believed that we've got to know each other more and more as months and years pass by til we could both decide that it's time for us to settle down. However, just lately I have realized that I guess it will depend on the situation. Like for instance, I'm already at my early 30s and still haven't married yet. Perhaps at that time, if I'm gonna have a boyfriend that I knew for just couple of weeks or months and we both have this unexplainable feeling and instinct that it's time for both of us to marry, so why not? As long as there's this commitment and passion and we both love our company, so why not, right? I mean, at that age, what you would really be looking for mostly is companionship and then love. But in my case right now, I'm still 21. I would rather still choose to have a longer relationship first before ending up into marriage. There's still a lot more to discover between me and my partner in our relationship and I do believe that we are still not matured enough to handle those things.

There are a lot of discussions on this topic, and there is one that I believe just about covers it all. Since people can change with the seasons, I think that you should date each other for at least a year. Go from one season to the other and see how they handle things. There is an old wife's tale that says that you can judge a person a lot by the way that they handle tangled Christmas lights. And then there are people that suffer Seasonal Affective Disoder (aka SAD) and if you meet and marry before the season starts, then when it does come along, you will not know that is routine.