I'm sick of Valentine's Day. Are you?
By Tesa
@xphile777 (427)
United States
February 14, 2007 6:40pm CST
I'm single, but I'm not sick of Valentine's Day only because it's a reminder that I don't have love in my life. I'm also sick of it because every year I hear the same friggin' news report that explains studies have shown lonliness kills. People who aren't in love and who are lonely are more likely to die if they become sick (because they don't have anyone to give them the love and support they need).
And not only do I hear it once every Valentine's Day, I hear it several times throughout the day on different news reports, talk shows, etc.
I'm already aware of this, thank you. It's been known for decades, and proven for quite some time, now. I actually knew someone who died like this. I don't need to be reminded of this every year. Yet, when I turned on my TV this evening, what was the very first thing I heard? "Studies have shown that people not in love tend to die when sick ... blah, blah, blah."
I GET IT! I'M GOING TO DIE THE NEXT TIME I GET THE FLU BECAUSE NOBODY LOVES ME! HAPPY NOW? :P
I almost wish I could die now just to avoid the inevitable "news flash!" that if I get seriously ill, there's not a snowball's chance in hell for me to survive it because nobody loves me.
But I'm not bitter. :P
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47 responses
@berryappleberry (548)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
If nobody loves us then we must love ourselves first.. thats the start of knowing/ discovering how we could love other people and be loved in return..
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@kaushikkodali (45)
• India
15 Feb 07
well my dear friend what you told is some what corect..realy it will be booring if there is no any person for us to share our feelings..some times i too feel to die when i was in deppression mode..so most of the time i use to think it will be good if i have lover to share all my feelings..but not a time pass lover,,he are she should be life long lover...
@eslproofreader (517)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I'm not single, but I totally agree with you. They're promoting the myth that finding your 'soulmate' will make everything better for you- will make you happy. Truth is, only YOU will make you happy. I know plenty of people in nasty relationships who hate their partners and suffer because of them (often BOTH partners). Married couples probably live longer b/c, A: they pool their money together and can afford a better lifestyle and better medical care, and B: they nag each other to take care of themselves (well, and if you have a heart attack in the middle of the night, there's going to be someone in the house to call 9-1-1). Not that I'm bitter. ;P
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@96vidalias (344)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Also there is the factor that sick people are often deserted by their partners, so statistically, people alone would be a sicker group. Or sicker people would be more likely to be alone.
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@96vidalias (344)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I have not been seeing and hearing this, but I avoid all news as much as possible. Yet I still have heard plenty about Anna Nicole Smith, so I don't know how I have missed all these reports telling me I am going to die.
Valentine's Day is the one day of the year when even the really horrible relationships look good. I remember the year when of the nine people working in my department, everyone except myself got flowers. Even the one male and (here comes the good part) even the woman whose husband had pinned her against the wall with his car. Well, I guess she really deserved flowers after that.
I have tried to go back to school days when we all gave valentines to each other, because that's what I remember as the fun years. But I can't get my friends on board with this idea. I guess I will have to switch over to taking valentines to nursing homes as some folks do.
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@wenkinnoc (482)
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19 Feb 07
I hate this holiday, nothing but a cheap and nasty commercial gimmick.
Oh yeah, btw Al Capone celebrated it the proper way
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@Pigglies (9329)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Maybe people die because they keep hearing the news telling them that they will die...
I like Valentine's day. Except for the annoying shrieks from straight women like, "OMG! My boyfriend really does love me! SHRIEK! OMG! I can't believe I got this $80 present! SHRIEK! OMG! Don't you just wanna die?" "Umm, no. I want to badly hurt you."
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@NeoComp (1316)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Yes I am very sick of valentines day! The only thing I liked about yesterday was that I got a bunch of money I made from an online site I work for!
But I hate all the love and candy stuff. Maybe I am mad because I don't have a soft girl to hold in my arms.
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@patootie (3592)
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15 Feb 07
I am single .. I am very, very happy and contented :o)
All I can say is that when I have ever had a partner, I admit I have had happy times, but also some very unhappy times too, and they all get mixed up, so one day you are happy the next in the pits of despair ..
Then I saw the light .. the main reason I was 'unhappy' was because I was in a 'unhappy' reltionship .. so I became a happy singleton .. the last 14 years have been the happiest and most content of my whole life .. and ... guess what .. this last 14 years has been the only time in my whole adult life I haven't been with a partner of some sorts .. hahahahahah !!!!
Woohooo the single life is for me !!
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@mzbubblie (3839)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Well for starters, I'm single and yes that day means lots of candy, flowers, cards, gifts etc...
However, just yesterday I was talking to a friend, who bought his girlfriend flowers and such. I asked did he know the true meaning behind Valentine day? He couldn't answer...He said, Feb. 14th your lady or man should get gifts because you love them....
Actually there are 2 different stories behind the history and true meaning of Valentine day. Also, if it wasn't for Miss Esther Howland who sent out the first Valentine Day cards which inturn went commercial in the 1800's, The US would not even be celebrating this day...
Love and showing affection should be a everyday experience...And people that absorb in Valentine day, I would think they know why there is such a day as Valentine day and not because it's what they see society does...
I wouldn't be upset or disappointed or sad even, It's just a way of life...I know I'm not..It's just like any other holiday we have, where society give gifts, do we really know why we doing it...Gifts should be given to a love one or friend, family etc and shouldn't matter what day it is..But, hey that's just my opinion...
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@heynow123 (147)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
Yeah I'm sick of valtines day to. To me it just another day becasue like you I do not have the love of my life. Really I think it is just a money grabber for companies to make money. Don't worry about your being lonely. There is some for everyone. Just sit tight and all will go well. It almost over for this year and hope it doesn't come back next year.
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@mywords18 (645)
• United States
15 Feb 07
hey cheer up why u thinkin so!!!! u are single means all ready to mingle and may be something gud and great coming ur way sooner or later,,,just enjoy being free like abird whith no boudations and limitations u are not answerable to anybuddy neither u will have any anxities of being betrayed or deserted,,,,,,,,so think it over again and be happy the way u are..............happy living:")) keep smiling:))
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@Shunnie74 (6)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Yes, I'm sick of it. It's not the day itself, because it's really just a "Hallmark Holiday" to me. What's irritating are all the women who constantly complain about their husbands/boyfrieds but suddenly want to brag to everyone about what they're doing/getting for Valentine's day. And the phoney sympathy for all of the poor single girls. Sheesh...
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@shooie (4984)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Is funny I was single up until I was 36 and I never heard the lonely people are going to die. But then again I wasn't lonely and nor did I allow myself to drift into the whoa is me. You can be lonely even when you are married so loneliness is what we make it I guess.
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@krishkorp (427)
• India
15 Feb 07
Thats some crap ,because i have seen people in relationship which was filled with love go bitter.So all those news flash are just for the sake of airtime.People die,alone or with anybody they love.That doesn't change a thing.
Am alone and am very happy .So don't worry and enjoy life.Let them talk crap,because they are paid for it!
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@samseiko (116)
• Malaysia
15 Feb 07
first of all its a nice comment u gave, and its nicely put!
Well honestly i dun hate the valentine's day either, but it remind me how i had yet found someone i adore just like u said. unfortunately for some its such a big deal for them till they wan to do SOMETHING STUPID!
No one loves us? i believe our parents will always cherish us and we shud cherish them too!
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@revdauphinee (5703)
• United States
15 Feb 07
i agree with you and quess what were all going to die of something !
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@exquisite07 (42)
• Nigeria
15 Feb 07
for the fact that you are not into a relationship does'nt really mean that you can life your life.just be a little patient with your self,all your friends got boyfriends so what.if you look or sound desperate to any man,he will use that as an opportunity to use and dump and you will be miserable with yourself.just take your time and the man that will you will be truly yours will come.valentine's day is a day to share love it does not neccesarily mean with couple or lover.you can hang out with you friends,family and visit the less priviledge if you have the heart for it.
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@ogachris (3)
• Nigeria
15 Feb 07
I guess that we need to understand that valentine day is a day we should show love to people not necessary people that love us but people that need our love. It is easy to show love to others,smilling to someone can go a long way to express our love and care to others.the best way to recieve loved or fell loved is to show love without expecting anything in return.so my dear Love is real.
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