Feel sad with my 3 months unborn baby
By huxdsz
@huxdsz (33)
February 14, 2007 9:30pm CST
My wife had been pregnent for 3 months, we went to have pregency check last week,the doctors said the baby has stopped growing for weeks,what we have to do is to have ab-abbortion.I am really sad with the conclusion,for the effort we have made during the last several months.
3 people like this
5 responses
@Squidge (6)
•
24 Feb 07
Don't be sad, things all happen for a reason and this baby was not meant to be. Your unborn baby will always be in your hearts and minds and you will never forget that little soul.
It is often difficult for a man when his wife loses a baby, because all of the sympathy and attention are lavished onto the woman and the man can be left feeling a little neglected. Make sure you have a close friend or family member that you can confide in so that you don't bottle up your emotions. It is just as important for you to express yourself as your wife. It was your baby too.
Try to look forward to the future, don't be too scared to discuss with your wife what to do next. Often the decision to continue trying to get pregnant can help you both recover from the pain of the loss of a baby.
You will never forget your unborn child, but it won't be this painful forever.
@sylvrrain (659)
• United States
15 Feb 07
I am very sorry to hear this. It breaks my heart.
I had a miscarriage in the second month, so I kinda know how you feel. It really hurts.
I know this is hard, but everyone told me that there was something physically wrong with the baby, and it was best that it happened early.
I became pregnant less than 4 months later and had a very healthy boy and 18 months after that, I had a very healthy girl.
If you really want a baby, don't give up trying.
@marief2rnurse (2704)
• United States
19 Feb 07
I'm sorry to hear that. Don't feel so bad as it probably was not the right time. Sometimes, there is a defect in the egg being fertilized that's why things like that happen. It could not be prevented at all. My sister experienced the same thing. You can try again pretty soon. You can have your wife take multivitamins now and eat lots of fruits and vegetables. Don't smoke, or drink... avoid stress and heavy work. Goodluck!
@Anakata2007 (1785)
• Canada
19 Feb 07
I am SO sorry for your loss! This sounds like it is what the medical doctors like to say a "missed miscarriage" meaning that the baby has stopped growing but has not been expelled from your wifes uterus. This is so hard. I have had one as well. You will have a hard time to recover from this. It will hurt a lot. The best thing that helped me was the website www.pregnancyloss.info I hope you feel better in the weeks and months to come.
