more potty training problems HELP!
By dreamingmyth
@dreamingmyth (594)
United States
February 14, 2007 10:18pm CST
ok so the other week i posted about potty training my son and got alot of great responses! today we went to the store and picked out some big boy undies for him (there wasnt much for selection in his size but at least we found some he liked).. when he went down for his nap this afternoon i covered my couch cushions with plastic and put a blanket back over it (so much easier to wash then cushions!).. i layed out his undies so he could pick which pair he wanted to wear, and then i got his potty chair ready for him.. ok so he got up from his nap, and i let him pick out the pair of undies.. i put them on him and he climbed up on the couch.. i told him that if he needed to go potty to tell me and id take him.. he didnt want to go though... after about 5 mins of sitting on the couch he started to fuss alot.. i figured he had wet himself and thats why he was fussing.. well he was still dry.. it turned out that he was fussing because he wanted a diaper because he felt like he was restricted from moving without one on! i talked to him about how he is a big boy now and doesnt need a diaper anymore, just his undies ect.. but he still felt very uncomfortable and it was like a cruel punishment to him.. so i decided to put a diaper on OVER his undies.. i had heard that he will still feel the discomfort.. well needless to say it didnt phase him one bit once he peed! im not sure what i can or should do now? i dont want him to feel like he is being punished by wearing big boy undies, and i dont know anything else to motivate him! please help!
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7 responses
@XxAngelxX (2830)
• Canada
16 Feb 07
Maybe it's the type of underwear you bought, perhaps they are not fitting him properly. He really shouldn't feel restricted in them, I'm wondering if they are perhaps too small or maybe it's just the brand that they are. If you can't find any others, I would do the same as suggested here earlier, just give in and try again later. Good luck, it may seem like it's taking forever to train him, but really it just seems that way.
@hmbw_24 (404)
• United States
15 Feb 07
hi, dreamingmyth, im sorry your still having trouble, i think though that the real reason your little guy wanted a diaper so he would not mess up his big boy undies.....so it was working.....i think you should not give in, it's time to get tough my friend, dont spank him or anything but he's 3 and he understands what you want him to do. you make him mind when it comes to other stuff right? so your gonna have to be tough with him and let him know that you are serious and that you wont accept anything less than underwear and pottychair, it will soon be over, you are not punishing him and if he gets mad or sad for awile like i said he will soon get over it. there will be many times when you will have to make him do things wether he likes it or not. this is a life lesson your teaching him, not a punishment, it has to be done, put back on those undies, no diaper, potty only! and make sure he knows you mean business!!! hope i have not offended. just saying what i think i know.lol. have a good one and goood luck.
@rainbow (6761)
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15 Feb 07
Aaaargh, that's a new one on me, will he go nappy and pant free and get used to going for a wee without anything in the way? Onve he gets used to it try th pants again, I know this sounds silly as you ony just got them but are the pants pleanty big enough so they don't feel tight round his legs or tummy, the elastic in nappies can be much softer, what a shame I thought you'd about conquered it yesterday.
Remember it's fun and exciting even when its not.
@wrdsofwisdm (1069)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Maybe if you put the undies on with plastic bottoms over them, it will seem more like a diaper to him. Did you try the food coloring in the water yet? That one seems like it would encourage him.
@adidas7878 (1891)
• United States
15 Feb 07
well i dont have a kid, but i know there is diapers out there for bigger kids, i see tons of commecials for them too, and they look like undies, maybe you should check them out. also maybe you should put the diaper on him first than the undies, as he get used to the undies you can take the diaper off him, that is something you can try and see how that work.
@foxyfire33 (10005)
• United States
15 Feb 07
This might seem obvious but are you sure the undies fit right? Maybe the elastic around the legs really is too tight and uncomfortable. Undies that are a little big are a bit easier at first anyway. When they do have accidents (particularly the messy kind) it helps to have a little bagginess to contain everything while you slide them down off their legs.
Another thought would be to make the switch to cloth diapers to get him used to the feel of cloth against his body. Then try the cloth training pants until ultimately making the switch to regular undies. He might just be sensitive to textures like that.
If anything but a regular diaper is uncomfortable for him, try letting him go commando. My oldest son hated underwear until he started school and I made him wear them every day (and even then he'd try to hide them under his pillow instead of wearing them). I'll warn you though this can get extremely messy if he has accidents.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
This is what I would try . If he kicks up a really big fuss about wanting to wear a diaper I would try to see if I could get him to forget it , even if I had to bribe him with something like getting a book read to him or something like that . If this doesn't work then I would give in to him and try again the next day .Doing this everyday until he finally kept it on for the day without any complaints . Each child is different and in my experience boys are harder to train then girls . Just try to remember not to get to discouraged with him or yourself . And being consistent with help a lot .
