my best friend claims to be madly in love with me... plzz help me...
By ankana222
@ankana222 (40)
India
February 14, 2007 10:46pm CST
i love making friends and m not particularly interested right now to be in love and most imporatantly i dont feel like that for anyone right now...i am sure i will and i have gut feeling that this is not right time...i have friends with whom i llove talking and sharing things..basically i m an extrovert...but the way things are happening it makes me doubt myself in the sense should i really share everthing with my friends..my best friend recently was a bit sick and i was really worried and i cried when i saw him like that...he is much better now but recently he started acting a bit wierd and when i asked him what is the matter ..at first he didnt say anything but he seemed pretty wierd so i thought maybe some problem which he is not able to discus...so i asked one of our common friends if i coulld help and then she told me that he loves me and is going mad keeping it to himself and then i came to know he has told me many lies in order to get close to me..i felt soo hurt...and now he is doing all physho things like saying he will commit suicide and all i treid to make him undersatd that he cannot force me to fall for him and he has his family to think about ...he should try to forget all this...i even tried to talk to him as i use to but he mistook it as a positive sign and i had to break all the contacts with him...but it made me realise that maybe theres somehting wrong in being totaly honest and open???? i never kept anything hidden from him but he wont listen at all...what should i do???? i m really confused .....
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@thewolf777 (581)
• United States
15 Feb 07
if hes your best friend i dontthink it would be a great idea to get into a relationship with him. well this is a tricky situation. because your d@mned if you do d@mned if you dont situation because the friendship is strained alittle because he likes you. maybe its a phase. let him get it out of his system.
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@ankana222 (40)
• India
15 Feb 07
yup...you are right...but it has been nearly a month from which i have not talked to him and hes still not able to do anything to get it out of his system accourding to our common friend...she told me that hes just waiting for the day i will call him and say sorry and accept him!!!!!!
@sadgirl_1958 (1088)
• United States
15 Feb 07
Dear Ankana - I think you did the right thing - which was to stop seeing him. He will get over this sooner if he doesn't have contact with you. It sounds like he is rather obsessive about you - which is unhealthy. You are not responsible for his feelings or emotions and do not allow yourself to be forced to have feelings you don't have out of guilt.
