Well, im faced with the same problem.. again
By deedles88
@deedles88 (297)
Australia
February 14, 2007 10:53pm CST
As you most of you guys know, my daughter is nearly 11 months old.
She had a play-date today with the baby across the road, as you know she is 9 days older then my bub.
They came over and the kids were playing happily while the other mum and I were on the couch talking. I looked over to the babies and they were playing with this little table thing that sings songs and makes noises with different buttons. The other baby obviously didnt want my baby playing with it, she hit her in the head then pushed her over. I dont know if it was intentional, but im inclinded to think so because this isnt the first time something like this has happened. My daughter started to scream, so I got up and gave her some hugs. The other mother did nothing. She sat there, oblivious to the fact anything happened.
If my daughter does anything like that, I always say to her "Uh-uh Maddie, we dont hit out friends". While the other mum gets all angry that my daughter hurt her precious little angel.
(I work in childcare, and thats a standard line we use with the kids there, no matter what their ages are.)
The thing that got to me was she didnt do anything, she didnt say sorry, she didnt flinch. Like I said before, this isnt the first time its happened. Im feeling more reluctant each time to say yes to our playdates because of this re-occuring behaviour.
What do you guys think? Have you been in situations like this?
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@danishcanadian (28955)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
I will never allow myself to be in a situation like this. You need to talk to the other mother and make it known that you keep an eye on your child, so she really tought to keep an eye on hers. If the other mother acts up about that, it's her problem, not yours. Don't take any reactions or retaliations personally.
@samtaylorskykierajen (7977)
• Canada
15 Feb 07
I don't think I would have let the other child get away with it . I wouldn't have been mean but if the other mom didn't want to say something then I would have and I would have told her in a nice voice but still firm that in our house we didn't hit and that she couldn't be hitting again or she would have to go home . The other mom might not have liked this but your little one got hurt and she didn't even say anything .
It really pisses me off when parents leave it up to you to say something to their child when they do something to yours . I used to leave it and then complain about it to anyone who would listen but over the years have learned that these people never change and unless you say something she will never do anything differently .
I think I would try and get the guts up to tell her how I felt and that she should realize that her little one will never learn not to hit if she doesn't explain to her that this is not exceptable . They may be young but they are never to young to start explaining that we don't hit . Like you said you would not have allowed your child to get away with it if the circumstances were different so you shouldn't have to put up with it either when it is your child getting hurt .
Best of Luck !!
