Learn to say NO!
@gracey_celine (106)
Philippines
February 15, 2007 12:45am CST
Unfortunately, some girls took for granted the precious thing we have which I believe is the valuable gift we can give to our husband to be, "virginity". But then again we can't blame anybody for giving it up to their boyfriends, there are lot of reasons to consider why it happened. But let me just share here my personal opinion about this. If anybody get hurt, my advance apology. Here goes... I grew up and brought with me the knowledge which our father has taught us that the body is a temple of the Holy Spirit (1 Cor. 6:19-21 - Do you not know that the body is a temple of the Holy Spirit, who is in you, whom you have received from God? You are not your own; you were bought at a price. Therefore honor God with your body.) Whenever I get tempted, this passage just popped up in my mind that I have to learn to say NO! I was thinking it would be ashamed for me then if I do the things which I know is wrong. But then again, I know in myself this is not an easy temptation, I need the Lord's wisdom and strength to get rid of this. I myself alone, I admit, It's hard to resist on something what our body is appealing upon but thank God I survived.
Another thing is, I was thinking it would just create a mess up in my mind which for me is a horrible thoughts then.
For those who had already giving up their virginity not to their husband or shall I say those who done wrong outside marriage, it's not too late. You have to be honest about it to your husband. Don't let the past mistakes ruin your present relationship. Harmonious relationship can be achieved when you are transparent to each other.
3 responses
@lextoper (573)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
your boyfriend might be very patient and love you so much. how long are you in your relationship? How many times he beg you for it? Maybe he is not that convincing to make you say yes... or maybe you don't love him that much. God said on the book of Genesis "Go to the world and multiply with Love". As long as you love him or her, It is okay to surrender your virginity.
@gracey_celine (106)
• Philippines
19 Feb 07
married couple rather...
no, not at all... yes, trust there is. trust and love is like a partner, they go together. 'BUT', i have this personal principle: 'trust the man completely to the altar'.
lex: You did not answer my question yet, how long are you?
grace: which boyfriend? hahaha joke...
that's a personal question already, it would be better to ask something like that in a private message *grin
@gracey_celine (106)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
before i allowed him to enter into my life i already aware that it is natural for men to ask for that thing. i already in my working years when i enter into relationship and have prepared myself whatever possibilities that would come along our way. as a girl lex, i think it is right for me to put some limitations after all it is just for our good. for me entering into relationship is not a joke, emotional condition lies on this drama and we all know that playing with our emotions could lead us to pshycological incapacity. putting some limitations doesn't mean i don't love him, my God! i won't enter into relationship if it's just for play or to cover up else's faults or just to prove something! if u only knew how much i love him and even willing to serve him for the rest of his days, i would give anything he wanted but then again he is still my boyfriend and doing things for marriage couple is a big no no to me yet.
it made me smile when u said 'maybe he is not convincing', you know what? it's up really for us girls, the key is in us as long as he is still my boyfriend. men will continue to beg us because it is their very nature and i understand and respect it. in fact he even thanking me for helping us both to control it. and by that i knew that he respected me a lot and i to him as well.
if i'm not mistaken, i think God said 'go to the world and multiply' only to those who were blessed by Him or to those who are already asked His blessings.
thanks much Lex for that interrogation. it really made me smile.
hope u got what i mean...
@ezdollarincome (217)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
Hi Grace, this issue is not new to everybody and I think many have failed to say "NO". In your strong religious belief I didn't doubt of it. You were such an amazing and courageous young lady to say "NO" to temptations but remember even Jesus almost fallen to temptations.
We are only human beings that make mistakes but that makes us being humans.
Thank You for putting this topic up..
@gracey_celine (106)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
thanks man for dropin' by... Yeah, Jesus haven't fell to any temptations because if he did we can't call him God...
as what i've said it's the strongest temptation i've ever met that in my strength alone i can't resist it, that's why i consider it as a struggle for most of us and we can only resist temptations with the help of the one who already conquered it...
@gracey_celine (106)
• Philippines
15 Feb 07
respect begets respect (",)
thanks for your comment xelissa
