DO U STILL BELIEVE IN MARRIAGE?

well,'still' was a form of expression,because in our days the term hasn't got the same strong singification as it used to..

yes always

I still believe in marriage. Marriage is an elementary need for us. It is our nature (natura, in Latin)

i totally agree

wanna explain me better why?maybe we could all learn something from each other's opinions

it's always good to learn from other's experience..you are right...i think i will know when i am ready...thanks for your response

i ask this question because i think in our days people don't take marriage so seriously as it should be taken and theerfor so many divorces and mad marriages,and families split up and kids on the street..is it a good reason for you to start a discussion like this?we would all like if we all had ideal lifes and relationships,but unfortunately it doesn't happen this way

no,i am not married..i am only 21..i am from romania

My dear Friend, It is a good and excelent discussion about of our life, plz keep on conteinu, if U dont mind can i know are u married, where r u from?

your story is very interesting and i guess we all have something to learn from..me,for example,i have lots to think about because i have a boyfriend too for 4 years and i still don;t know if i wanna marry him,and i believe that when time comes,i will know in some way..because by now my life arranged itself pretty good,and seems like every step i took lead me to a good thing..kiss and thank you for your response

well,we also think about that too..we should at least have our own home,stable jobs...and when you also want to bring a child into this world,u should be able to offer him comofort,education,a place he calls home,stability...why do it earlier if u dont have the resources?thank you very much for your opinion...i mostly agree with it..but in some ways,i think it's better to think it well first..time will tell,and settle things for us

I also have a friend who just got "engaged" to her boyfriend of I want to say 12 years......He wanted to wait until their lives were in order with careers and stability, but they've lived together since out of high school. Isn't that crazy!!! Also, she emphasized that the engagement solidifies the step closer because to them they are technically "married", she said they wouldn't come close to an actual wedding until way ahead in the future. I also knew of a couple who had 3 kids together and married after their kids were grown-ups out of the house, they lived together for over 20 years before they got married, so I think it is your perspective and how it makes you feel, but I still feel that marriage is a sacred thing that shouldn't be handled with so frivolously. It's a major decision in a person's life. If your heart tells you this person is the one, then follow it, but if you've lived together for 4 years and you don't feel like this is the one for you, then don't get married, just to get married, even if you live together.......Does that make sense? It's a feeling in your heart that you feel when you look at the person and you feel "I could marry this man." That's what I'm getting at.......

hmmm,u might be right but i am not a very rational person unfortunately,i think mostly with my heart and..so far i couldnt make my heart understand to choose to leave..

thank you very much,same to you

I understand matters of the heart, and hope that your logic will soon overcome your heart's unwillingness to free yourself so that you would be available for Mr. Right when he does come along. I truly can understand your predicament, and wish you the best of luck in your search for your soul mate!

that is a beautiful story,and i am glad to see there are people who have achieved something i only dreamed of,because i thought feelings like those dissapear in time,and the routine and daily problems make them vanish ..i hope some day i will find that kind of person that i can say i really am lucky to meet..so far i can;t say i did,so that should make me think a little about my relationship huh?:(

that was a great respone,i liked your story very much,it gave me butterflies in my stomach..i must say i was sceptic about relationships on the internet,but i see it is possible,..and ye,love can meet you at any corner..u just have to wait and it will find you..maybe when i will find it i will realise that i don;t have it now..thanks for sharing your beautifull story with us

i meet my curent husband on the internet, after being married once and going through everything he did to me and living with the scares of the wounds i ended up with i didnt think i would ever be with another man. but my sister introduced me to this whole world of internet and one day i ended up in a chat room and then after only being a cyborg for a few months i meet my husband, we chated for a few months befor we meet and i told him from the get go i wasnt going to love anyone and was not going to put myself out there for hurt. well we became realy good friends, we lived in diff states 3 hours apart and on the weekends he always came to my state, never missed a weekend. and we always stayed at my house we didnt go out and do stuff, i deal with ptsd as well as other disorders but he didnt care and thats why i did end up falling in love with him, i use to be the girl in the corner who wore her hair to cover her face, i was the girl who didnt talk to ppl i was the girl who wanted to left alone, now im the girl who wears my hair up and stands proud. im still practicing going out into public places and doing things outside of my home but im sure one day ill get there. i dont think love is something you go out searching for, i think love is something that searches for you, we all have someone out there made just for us and yeah it takes some time God it took me 11 years of h e double hockystixs and some unwanted features but it found me and im sure it will find you, if not this guy maybe the guy you walk by on the way to work or to the store, ya never know :) i think it will find you though. God bless

i went with my heart when i fought for this relationship to work..and now that i have made it go so far..i am starting to think..if al my efforts were worth,and if this is what i really want for the rest of my life..

thank you,i have considered ending it many times..but my heart sais i can't when my brains sais i should..unfortunately for me..my heart always wins

It is never too late to get out of a bad situation. If you are truely unhappy get out now before too much time goes by and you are asking yourself this same question in 20 yrs. I wish you all the luck in the world with your needs and happiness

i believe in marriage too,but when you feel you are ready,and not only getting married because you are in a long relationship and it's a rule to get married in this case

yes,but for some it seems to be a rule

it is not rule , when feel that u are responsible to look a family then only marriage comes in picture

oh,ok..is it a cult or something?

what is lds?

Latter Day Saints... aka Mormon.

hey,i believe in that also..but still waiting for that person to come along and make me say yes,i truely found my half..meanwhile i am with someone that i love,but i am not sure how much he loves me..i can't just step away from the relationship,as i am an emotional person and it's hard for me to give up,but i don't feel like i found my soulmate

hey,i believe in that also..but still waiting for that person to come along and make me say yes,i truely found my half..meanwhile i am with someone that i love,but i am not sure how much he loves me..i can't just step away from the relationship,as i am an emotional person and it's hard for me to give up,but i don't feel like i found my soulmate

what makes u think he doesnt love you..any particluar reason or you just want to believe that..the reason why i ask is that at times we try to find excuses and reasons in things around us so as to justify what we are thinking..you say you love him but is it that you find something lacking in your relationship?and if yes..since when have you had this realization?

books are 'old-fashioned',so many youngsters think,and seminars...i dont know if they would ever attend one..i am young too.i am 21 but i am open to these ideas...

Marriage is suppose to be a small paradise on earth. We need to patiently plan for it. Knowing and walking with the One who institute marriage is important too.

i agree but it doesnt usually happen that way:(

Yes that's true.

me too

Lets keep family together no matter what. Stay committed and as it says in the vows of marriage: let no man draw asunder. God Bless

i say that is a very philosophical thinking and i have to analyse it a bit before i give an answer..or maybe u wanna explain more what u meant ;)

he is not really into sacrificing,i didn't say he asks me to sacrifice but he doesn't do it either if he doesn't really have to,he finds another way of acting

If you are interested to test the fact of life, put your fiancee on a small test . Ask him to sacrifice something very favorite to his heart.

yes,but why getting married if i am not sure this is what i want now?

yes,but why getting married if i am not sure this is what i want now?

Just go through what I said once again. Think over. As long as you are happy with your boyfriend, no problem. Try to understand him well. Take your own time and then decide. I think that will be better.

what religion are you if u don't mind me asking?and is it love that u get married from or just stability?

yes i agree

I am a Christian. You should never get married just for stability. That usually means marring someone just for their money and that never works in the long run... what stability is there in that? Being in love is truly what counts. I mean real love, the kind that comes from time and both good and bad expeteinces together.

exactly,i believe there is time..we shouldn;t jump into marriage;)

i read a book,called..'love lasts for 3 years'..so maybe you are right:P

i heard that after 3 years u realise if its the perfect man...or not....