Why do couple argue more on special occasions ..it happened to us last night!

Blame commercial holidays such as Valentine's Day. I think women expect a big to-do because of the commercials with men giving their loved one diamonds, chocolates and flowers for that day. Once it comes to that day and men don't go all the way with it, women get bummed out. I had a wonderful Valentine's Day. I didn't even expect that much because I'm not one to be all glamourous but it's the little things that count for me. He cooked me dinner. We had chocolate covered strawberries and he surprised me at work (and with our dog who pooped on my office's carpet) :P Don't let it get you down. It's common for couples to argue more on these days. Just appreciate having another special one to mark the occasion with. There's a lot of single men and women out there who don't take advantage of these days that come only once a year.

My husband and I seem to argue on special occasions also, but we didn't yesterday. I did end up arguing with my 14 year old daughter before I went to bed though because she is very disrespectful. She always has to run her smart mouth. Needless to say I started yelling at her to shut her mouth which made me lose my voice and go on a coughing spree and I ended up on the couch for the night so hubby could sleep and get ready for work for today.

Yeah I can't really say that my boyfriend and I had a very romantic or even memorable Valentine'e Day. I wonder if maybe things always mess up on good occasions because we expect too much and when it doesn't go our way we become bitter? Who knows.. But anyways, my boyfriend worked yesterday from 3:30PM-11:30PM and even though I knew we weren't going out I still thought that we could have a nice evening to ourselves..even if it was just talking and cuddling...didn't happen though. He comes home and when I suggested cuddling and closing the bedroom door, he let me know that he wanted to play his videogame instead..so that's what happened. How romantic was that?

We sabotage ourselves, because we are afraid that will not live up to our expectations. Nothing can ever taste as good as we imagine. I think we are afraid of succeeding, or of being intimate, and revailing ourselves.

Well not that I had an argument, but I believe on occasion like Valentine's, we tend to open up deeper converstaions about our relationships and what's happening or what's going on in the relationship. Sometimes it finishes good and sometimes conversations like that finishes bad.

i guess sometimes we expect some things to happen whenever there is a special occasion. we also feel the pressure of making things perfect for the occasion. we don't get to enjoy the moment and we also get to be easily irritated. I guess that's just how it is.

I have noticed the same thing and I think I've figured it out (since my hubby and I managed NOT to fight last night for the first time I can remember as far as holidays go). The thing I came up with is that we get in our head what we expect on these days. We also have commercials and such adding to the hype in our head. Then when the day doesn't start off the way we plan and definitely doesn't live up to our expectations (usually because it's not possible) then we get upset. The thing is that it goes both ways and usually the ideas we've come up with are complete opposite of one another.

its b coz of immotional ego, as at special occation it highlight more as compare to normal days. its called immotional black mail cheer http://vistatip.blogspot.com

Well, i am a single mother and to be honest i got my girls some Valentines stuff and said Happy Valentines Day to them and they are who i spent the day with! I have never really had a significant other on this occassion so it is nothing that i am used to. I think that it is the fact that we want things to go just perfectly and if it fails it is human nature for us to be upset and tend to argue. I hope that you two do in fact get a special weekend to make up for it and Good Luck!!!

This was posted on Valentine's day right? First time seeing this post you see. I argued too, with my bf on Valentine's day over the phone. He had to leave for Melbourne to tie up some lose ends. I can't go as I have a few appointments. I was angry at him for leaving before celebrating Valentine's day with me. Maybe next year :)

We always argue on special occasions and holidays. We always get over it pretty quick...but it is still aggravating.

Oh I can so relate to what you're saying! I had a relationship once that whenever it comes to the most important days that are worth celebrating, we get into not just fights, but HUGE fights. I don't know what triggers it everytime and why it comes in such bad timing. So on anniversaries and birthdays, I always end up with no gifts or flowers whatsoever. After we kiss and make up he would describe in detail how the celebration could have been perfect had we not engaged into an argument. Oh, it's really irritating. And all the while I thought this only happened to me. It's quite comforting to know that it's normal after all :)

Hmmmmm I think maybe we concentrate too hard for everything to go perfect on days like that, and instead attracting the opposite. A kind of synchronizing of events to go wrong.

I think we fight more on special days because we are under that "lets make it perfect stress"! I like to just let things happen as they would sometimes to avoid that perfect stress! I hate that me and mine do it too and its horrible you want everything to be good and nice and then the buttons are poushed and the argument begins! Can't we just get along?

Well mine started out surprisingly nice enough. I don't care at all about VDay and would rather not celebrate it but my boyfriend wanted to. He left me a sweet card for me to find when I woke up. then later he called from work and said we were going to dinner. It was a nice fancy restaurant then he bought me flowers from a man who was walking around the restaurant with them. We get home and proceed to argue. We argued about his inability to clearly express himself and amongst other things (Long on going arguements) Then we sort of made up and had some moneky business then he went to bed. I think the night was completely spoiled.

Your temper get easily blows up on special occations is because you treat it as special but your partner shows to you that he admires other girl and to think that it should just be you and him but it turns to a reverse situation thats why you had some arguments.

Yes, you just read my mind. I have been thinking about this lately. I think it is because we make so much fuss about getting the evening perfect. We are simply not relaxed. On special occasions we always end up with heated discussions. That was until I realized that I was giving too much importance to my surroundings. I never forget valentine's day of last year. I took the day off from work. I cleaned the house and when finished I started cooking his favourite roast! Got everything ready and spotless. I was just waiting for him to arrive behind the window so by the time he locks the car I would just light the candles. Obviously after a day at work (it was a bad one) the last thing he saw were my candles! Then I took the matter personally because he did not notice the atmosphere I created. I started to be raelly stupid with him and after his bad day at work we started arguing. It was a very heated argument and I just put the food in the plate with no care at all, put off the candles and we ate dinner watching a documentary about zebras! LOL. The morning after I realized that I had spent a whole 11hrs thinking about this evening! If I just shut my mouth when he arrived he would probably relaxed a bit on the sofa and the evening would have continued the way I planned it! But the too much thinking from my side simply forbid me to be calm.

Oh yes it always has to happen; it is part of the rules of a relationship. Didn't you read that part in the manual. I did not get mine until two years in the marriage and then felt stupid after I read it. It also says that if you go to church on Sundays or your parents you will always get in to a big fight. True to this day, even my parents do this.

its but natural to argue on some issues in a relationships,,and we are guilty of that always..we were not able to go out last night..coz we have quarrel on just small petty things such us where is my favorite shoes,my t-shirts and all...

OK!I don't care about it.What Valentine's Day!!!Not because i am a single but this day is really useless.I think the most important time is day and night,one day,two days......can't be available.