Funerals and weddings should be abolished

Thats a really sad way of looking at things.Are you living a miserable life or something?

actually you are misconcepting the idea of marriage, you look too young for this so it'll take time to mature you then you'll realise its importance.

I couldn't disagree with you more. Seriously, lighten up a bit.

I always wanted that special wedding, the one with the gorgeous gown, lots of flowers, carpet to walk down the aisle on, maybe a gazebo, a catered meal, photographer, etc. And I did get that very thing! I loved my wedding. For me it was a dream come true and I loved all of it. My friends and family were involved and it was super special. I will cherish the memories for the rest of my life. I do agree that weddings are a very expensive thing and I didn't WANT to spend that kind of money. It does seem like a bad idea to put yourself into monstrous debt to begin a new life together. So here's what I did. I did the wedding myself. I had never planned a wedding before and I certainly hadn't attended many but I am an intelligent person and I can read so I read lots of books and magazines about weddings. I found out everything that I wanted to know and planned accordingly. I did not follow all the wedding "rules" because I felt that since it was my wedding that I could do anything that I wanted. And I guess it was okay because the wedding "police" never came to get me LOL. Perhaps it sounds like a "homemade" wedding but I have to say that it was not. I had everything I wanted. I bought the wedding dress of my dreams[ok, that part really WAS an indulgence since it was the most expensive part of the whole wedding! But it was just so pretty and I really did look good in it!] We held the wedding in the giant backyard of our house. My dad the carpenter built me a gazebo that we strung with twinkly lights, we borrowed chairs and tables from the church, we got the pastor from our church to do the service[he refused payment, said it was a part of his job description to do weddings], I fixed all the food for the wedding dinner[we had total vegetarian - enchiladas, vegetarian Special K roast, side dishes, fruits, juices, punch, we don't drink and everything turned out delicious], I bought a blue carpet for the aisle from the back door to the gazebo, special music was people from church, we rented the bridesmaids gowns and the tuxedos, the cake had a fountain and we did order it from a bakery, we did hire a photographer but we asked a friend to take the wedding video. I asked friends, family and church people to help out with different tasks and everything came out wonderfully. My feet did hurt a bit and I was too tired for my wedding night really but I loved my wedding. Like I said before, I will remember and love my wedding for the rest of my life. I can't discount it as wasteful and useless. It was a wee bit self-indulgent but I did make it as cost effective as possible. We did not have any lingering debt from the wedding party and we did get some nice gifts. The one last thing that I can add here is that yes, my husband and I DID divorce BUT I will always be grateful for my fabulous wedding and the memories it brings me.

I think weddings are a waste of time and money as well. I'm not ragging on other people who are into them, it is just my personal opinion. I don't see the need to spend thousands of dollars on a one time occasion and be annoyed by family members for the day. A lot of people go into huge debt after spending on extravegant weddings and I'd rather not be one of those people. I think it is time for people to start learning how to finance and save their money.

Having gone through the wedding process myself and thinking intially that is was all a big waste of money, after the fact I now know why we do it. Most weddings take a year or more to plan and if you are Catholic even more involved of a process. But it's worth it because you learn a lot about each other going through all the trials and tribulations. You learn how to handle stress, disappointments, arguements, and general differences. You learn how you handle the stress, how your partner handles the stress and how you work together at handling the stress and resolving issues. At the time you might not realize what a valueable thing this is to go through but it will help you in your marriage in the long run. I have done no scientific study but observing friends and family members it seems that couples that rush through the whole wedding process don't last as long as couples that go through the entire lengthy process. It will mean more to you in the end if you don't approach the concept in such a lighthearted manner.