Love Life , Family Life and with High aspirations about the Job.

I can appreciate you are in a difficult situation and you and your girlfriend don't want to hurt eithers parents. I don't understand if you already have a good job or you are looking for one. You have to think about the long term effects of any decision you make. Gone are the days when arranged marriages meant a marriage for life, even they can end in divorce and it's really unfair to marry one girl when you are in love with another. Do your parents know your gf? Have they met her parents? If not, you should get a close friend or cousin of yours to arrange a meeting between both sets of parents and discuss your future marriage. This way it could be perceived that it is actually an "arranged marriage" because someone else organised the meeting of the parents. My cousin in India was dating a girl for over 1 year and when I went to India to visit I was asked to go and meet her parents and give my blessings for the marriage to go ahead as he had no siblings and I am his older cousin. I agreed to it all and my mother asked me if I really liked the girl or just pretended. Even though I did like the girl I said to my mother "at the end of the day she is his choice and they love each other and have thought carefully about wanting to spend the rest of their lives together. Who am I to say NO to their marriage?" They have been happily married for over 2 years now and this makes me happy to know they're so happy and both families get along so well. I hope you can resolve your situation and keep your parents happy but remember this. People who go against their heart and marry someone else are never going to be entirely happy as they will always think "what would my life have been like if I married the one I truly love?" Would it be fair to be married to someone and think about your true love every day? I think not. Anyway, good luck.