i'm soooooo upset

O.k. Ladies, I have been married for almost 14 years now and if you nag at a man they will just get madder and clam up more, yet alone trying to talk to the man as well! Men are very strange when it comes to talking about their problems. Yes, you could ask but most likely get no results and more in likely make things worse. This sounds really stupid but a man is one that wants to initiate the conversation especially when it comes to their problems. You must not point fingers though when they do come to you and want to talk. In all the years that I have been married I have found it best to just wait and let my hubby come to me. Basically do nothing, just wait. When they do want to talk men don't like the book writing conversations that we have to offer. You may want to think a while on what they have told you before you give them a reply. This way you can try to understand him on a man's level! Yes women generally feel like a guys problems are our fault but, we are not the miracle workers that we think we are. We have this natural response simply because we were invented to be mothers and mothers are the miracle solver! Just don't try this with your man, it will only lead you into a destructive relationship. I know I have been married for so long that I am still learning new approaches!

Thanks. I hope it works he has a tendency of not listening to me when i have something extremely important to say, he seems to only listen when it is not to important. Thank u i'll try it. i hope he listens to me this time and thank u so much!