Love BITES!

there's pro's & con's to both. If I had to choose I'd also choose the first one, you wouldn't be able to erase what you said but you could still apologize for saying what you regret saying and still be able to talk it out and in the end something positive may come out of it.

Both would hurt. It boils down to what is the right thing to do. If you had "said something and wish you had not" then what you said is probably wrong. And this will hurt a lot. Because you regretted saying it in the first place. Its a different story if you said something right. It will hurt but the person will appreciate what you said. You will never regret something if its right. Even if it hurts.

i think both these options hurt. To say something and regret it lasts a while but generally speaking can be forgiven. However, not to say something, depending upon situation, can last a life time. We have to risk, its the only way we sucseed, blessed be ive missed you my friend

Hey jen. I think you pretty much answered your discussion. I agree, we should say what needs to be said and be done with it. Whether the outcome is good or bad, at least you know where you stand. Not saying what you want will possibly save more short term hurt but over a longer period of time regret and remorse will hurt more. ‹(°¿°)›

both of them really hurts but I think it hurts more, is saying nothing and wishing you had...because it will really make you wonder what would happen next...and for me it is a sign of cowardness...

It takes wisdom to know when to say it and when not to. So pray unto the Lord God that He'd give it to you. The very common guide on this issue runs this way, if you know that the revelation will hurt one crazy, better leave it unsaid; if you have an idea that it could somehow be helpful in some way, go ahead and say it gently. Time will reveal, whatever may it be, in due time. So next time you feel to say something which matters and is doubtful on bringing it up, pray first for God's guidance and do what you must soon after.