Cheating Men Versus Cheating Women
By rosedust82
@rosedust82 (2066)
Philippines
February 15, 2007 7:28pm CST
I've always wondered why it's more socially acceptable for men to cheat than for women? Or is it? With all the things that I've been hearing about cheating men and women, it turns out that women get more of the lashing than men. Or is this just a figment of my imagination?
I just noticed that it's less likely for society to react if a man cheats on his girlfriend or wife than a woman who cheats on her boyfriend or husband. Is the battle of sexes still on right now? Are people still biased when it comes to this?
Some people consider men who cheat as "virile" and even applaud their "efforts". Most people would just shrug it off and say that it's a man's nature to do that. and that it's not a big deal. Women, on the other hand, are labelled as a trollop if she so much as goes out with another guy. There's more hype if a woman does the cheating... A lot of people would consider that as unforgivable.
I am not in favor of anyone cheating, of course, but I just want to know your opinions on this.
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22 responses
@DanielMarvoloRiddle (331)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Seems terribly hypocritical doesn't it? Yeah, I think there is still a stigma about men cheating as opposed to women. In reality, women cheat almost every bit as much as men do, but their reasons for doing so are usually different, they are more discreet, and they don't get drunk and brag about it in a bar to their friends--largely because of the whole "socially unacceptable" angle.
Cheating sucks either way. My wife did it more than once--wasn't much fun.
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@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
Yeah, it sucks big time my friend. I'm glad that I don't ever have to feel like a fool anymore. Thank God I finally found someone who isn't a loser like my ex before who cheated and denied it and is still denying it after all these years. Talk about thick-faced!
@artistmel2000 (438)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I don't think it's a figment of your imagination; I believe the stereotypes are there. If a man makes a conquest (cheats) he is considered a stud, yet if a woman cheats, she is a cheap tramp. I'll even take it one step further... If a man cheats on his wife with another woman and wife finds out, who does wife immediately threaten? The other woman. It's almost like the man doesn't have any responsibility in this. I think if women take lay the responsibility at the man's feet, then perhaps men will take that responsibility and receive less respect and acclaim for putting another notch in his bedpost. I rarely see the husband going after the other man when the affair comes to light. Nevertheless, I do believe the views on this issue come from the predominantly patriarchal society and how boys and girls are raised. Nice girls just don't do these types of things. That's just my opinion.
@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
Hmmm... Nice girls AND boys don't do these type of things... =) That's why I look up to men who have never cheated on their girlfriends or wives
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
Yeah there seems to be a double standard, which shuldn't be. Cheating is cheating and it's wrong whether the one cheating is male or female.
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@pagibig (297)
• Philippines
16 Feb 07
It's basically the notion that men are polygamous by nature (to all the men, don't react negatively please). They say that men will always stray.. so it became something very common. but the truth is women also cheat, but they are just more discreet about it, society forced them to anyway. 60% of married women has cheated, will cheat or had thought of cheating. that's according to the tyra banks show.
@rosedust82 (2066)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
Uhuh... I'm pretty sure this is the case. Have to agree that women are a little more discreet when it comes to this.
@nic_knick (739)
• China
16 Feb 07
well, i think it is not a man's or a woman's nature to cheat others, maybe one do this unconsciously , i mean, when we are in a situation of knowing how we should do sth. or when we are in a very embarrassing situation. then we will lie, and maybe men are more likely to lie than women . i have no idea for that, but men are more daring and they are not afraid of being discovered he is lying, anyway. women are not to disguise sometime. i am not prejudicing here. jjust my own opinion and i know that men might be a little bit more than women in cheating
@sweety2084 (2)
• India
16 Feb 07
beats me..i have always wondered about the same situation... practically when guys cheat on girls ..its considered a norm but if the girls do so, she is immoral.... hmmmm.. gender discrimination..
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@pendragon (3349)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Where I come from (planet earth) it isnt socially acceptable for men OR women to cheat.Men aren't virile, women aren't promiscuous, those are euphemisms for people who cannot commit and shouldn't even try, they're liars and losers.
@smiley20903 (495)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I totally agree. when a man cheats he is praised. and it is treated like a badge of honor. but when a woman cheats she is labled every dirty word under the sun. in by book cheating is cheating and it's not right on either party ingaged in a relationship. it's our society that says that it is ok for a man to cheat as long as he comes back home but if a woman does it she should branded.
@samseiko (116)
• Malaysia
17 Feb 07
Anyone who cheats is a cheater regardless of the races or sexes. I as a man do not like to applaud for the men who cheat and will be recognised as virile? I feel humilated and embarassing.
If someone said that men cheat is a nature, then i think they are wrong as they should have said that human err is a nature.
Yea the battle of the sexes is still on till now, and i think there is no ending even when i was a child, school teachers will put 1 side complete gals and other side completely boys, and they compete with each other. When the teacher should have put all in mixed.
Anyway I do not agree that men who cheat is more accpetable than women despite of how the society thinks of it!
@sandphinx (131)
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16 Feb 07
yes it is a fact that it is more socially acceptable for a man to cheat on a woman. It is as though a man cannot help himself but a woman is a maneater. In the past the most pubisised affairs were those of prince charle and diana. prince charles had an affair with cammilla and was publicised as the cammilla gate tapes and diana had an affair with James hewitt and this was publicised as the diana gate tapes. see neither of these men were responsible for their actions. that is because their brains are in their trousers.
@coolsid2007 (1030)
• India
16 Feb 07
I think its high time when we so called mature people should start understanding circumstances and stop this gender fights
If a man cheats it means he indulges with another woman, it means women cheats too despite of the fact of his being married she gets involved
i think this happens all the time, untill we act as a human being and be more considerate about others feelings, instances like this would never happen...
both Men and women are to be blamed for there carefree display/use of emotions/feelings which effect others life greater than their own lives
@stibigirl (291)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I agree with you that it seems more acceptable for men to cheat than it is for women. But no matter what gender, cheating is something that distroys relationships and ruins lives. It is really not fair that it would be taken less seriously for one gender than for the other.
@anzil05 (14)
• India
16 Feb 07
Talking about cheating let it be a guy cheating a gal or a gal cheating a guy its all one and the same. But yes i accept the fact that when any such incedent happens its the gal that gets affected much. But if u drill down into any relationship that has ended in a cheat its that both of the that is the boy or the gal at any part of time has denyed the other. which has grown into a sepration. so there is no one over here that is to be blamed.
@chimex4real2k2 (1853)
• Nigeria
16 Feb 07
If they're married no. then there should be no cheating between two people but if they are single there could be least some sort of charactersitic that aman or woman desires in men or women..
@cindyspassions (510)
• Lampe, Missouri
16 Feb 07
Yes i do think that battle of the sexes is still going on and will always go on. i think women cheat now days just as much as men. weather it be becuase the man is not pleasing her in bed or other reasons. some women i have heard seek other men to give them what there man can't, or wont. i am like you though no excuse for it eather way it is wrong and equaly wrong.
@melissacus (441)
• United States
16 Feb 07
I know when I hear about a guy cheating I get way less surprised then if I hear about a woman cheating. I suppose it's because we're used to hearing about men cheating, and not so much about women. I think it's because the main reason people cheat is because they're not sexually satisfied with their current partner and it's usually men who are more interested and concerned with that aspect of the relationship. You hear about women bashing on "pig men who cheat on their wifes" so when you actually hear about a women cheating it's a bit on the surprising side.
@anzil05 (14)
• India
16 Feb 07
Its pretty simple why woman get noticed more is because, On a white chart if there is a black dot that dot will be given more importance. SAme way in the socity woman are given more importance cos of their apperance and b'cos of the biggest virtue of child birth that the almighty god has given them.
