when adult children come to visit

Well it's great to see they won't change from the teen years! LOL I swear my son thinks I own the electric company!

When my grown son comes to visit, he doesn't need to remind me of how it used to be. He brings the miniature of him along for that, my three year old grandson. But he does try to take over the computer which he always did when he lived here. But I can't correct the three year old because I am grandma and I am supposed to let him get away with stuff. He hates it when I give him anything chocolate before dinner and I so nicely remind him of the things his grandmother did that bothered me. It usually shuts him up for a little while.

They understand more when they start paying their own bills. I don't have problem with my daughter, but she was always good with saving energy, because it saves environment.

Not sure if I can. I would not do that with my parents, especially if I was military. Not sure what happened but I would hand him a bill at some point since I know he is paid by the military. That might make the point! If nothing else a grand conversation would be held so I could spend more time with him while he is home. Either way this should not happen. I would not ever do that with my parents. Might be why I have a key! They trust me. Hope you visit is fun in any case and you take alot of pictures.

My husband would jokingly say " Hey son thanks!! I appreciate you paying this months electric!!" When the son looks at him with a question on his face then say "Since you left every light in the house on when you left I figured you were gonna contribute."

I'm sorry i haven't a child. But I think how to teach their children is a big problem for parents.

I have 2 kids 18 and 9. My 18 year old has a tendancy to do the same thing. He will leave a tv on in his room with a movie paused so he can come down and check his emails on the computer. Lights on everywhere. Now surprisingly my daughter is better then I am about turning lights and other things that take electricity off. Thank goodness for her. Boys are worse I think and until they are really out on their own paying a hydro bill they just don't get it. I just got my hydro bill in for the month of January and it is 245.00 bucks. I think that is the highest I have ever had.

I haven't been there yet my son is only 14 but I know that for a longtime my father use to always ask me are you ever going to grow up. Or he would say hey you pay your own bills now do you ever turn off the light. I spent more time at my parents then I did at my own place. My dad would come home and ask me if I had moved back in. We would laugh. It's safe at home and you still feel like a kid and get to regress at least for a little while. I hope I am just as fortunate that my kids come home to leave the lights on when they move out.

Yes I know what it is like when our adult children come home for a visit, they put on so much electricity and they do not bother to turn it off when they are finished from using it most of the time. I tell them that they have to turn it off and that I should not have to tell them and that they are running the electricity bill up especially when they are not home. You have to put your foot down otherwise they will do this all the time and get away with it.

I always told my kids to cut off lights, turn off tv's, etc. I had a huge electric bill, and I told them that they needed to help make it less. Of course, I had to remind them every couple of days. I told them that one day reality would jump up and slap you in the face, you just wait and see. Well, my son has lived on his since June 2006, and I think reality did just what I said it would do. LOL. Now when he visits, he actually tries to save electricity. I think they just have to pay the power bill a few times for them to realize that they can make a difference.

My son use to turn the heat up really high and then sit on the floor vent to warm up in the morning int he winter before school. That use to irritate me. The rates were so high. But looking back on it now if that is the worse thing I can say about him I am not going to complain. He has his own apartment now and doesnt hike the heat up We are really lucky with our two kids. I bet you are happy as heck to have yours home and will look back and laugh at this.

Yeah this happens with more older kids I know. Because my elder brother was like that but now he changed completely. I have 4 elder brothers and while coming inside the house itself my parents will know that who has come because as soon as my first brother enters the room he switices ON all the switches there in a room and goes off like that without switching it off. Now he has 2 kids and he is paying the electric bill and now he is very conscious about the lights or fans ON when no one is there. He points out others also if they dont switch it OFF. And me and my husband while we come out of the room we switch off everything close the door and come out. So watching both of us doing this my 2 and a half year old son also try to do the same. If he cannot reach the switch he would tell us the light is ON like and switch it off. Even when the Tv is On when he goes to bed he uised to switche OFF the TV and go to bed.

OMG I thought for sure you were getting around to saying your son was in bed with a girl and you walked in !!! I usually don't think like that but the way you started out, I hope you see some humor in this but I would definately remind him that the money tree in the back yard is still not bearing dollar bills and hopefully he'll remember what it's all about. Take care... Grandmaof2

well to me I would treat them as i did before they left since it is my house and I pay the bills. If they come to your home and then they should abide to your rules. If don't say anything then they will not change. Got to say your peace. My daughter comes to my house at nite and hates it that we sit in the dark and that is just the way i grew up you save electricity. Kids will be Kids always to us.

My 2 eldest are married and my youngest still lives at home He has been spoiled because he has Cerebral Palsy but is really clever and is very capable of doing things for himself , He leaves his clothes on the bathroom floor leaves lights on leaves his empty pop can on the sink , I have started not to pick them up until he does and I put the lights off when he is in the room and laugh , I do not go into his room now and he has started to do it himself , Even vacuumed and dusted last week ( i couldn't believe it , When I ask " do you hear me " he answers yes Mum but I am not listening , cheeky sod lol . so if you can stand it , leave it xx

When I go back to visit my parents I do not do things I did in my youth because now those things seem quite rude. I wouldn't leave all the lights on or dirty things about. I suppose that is what happens when you grow up and yeah I realise I have many years on your son and boys take longer.... :)

My son just left this year for shool and will not be home until June. I will have to wait until he gets home to see how it goes but more than likely it will be just like with your son and I will probably say something to my son and he will just say ok mom or sorry mom. The next time things will be the same again. I will just have to think about how much I miss him when he is gone and then I guess that it will all be ok again.

I was fresh out of highschool, with a past of messing up and living outside the rules. I was unorganized and man was I a pain to my mother. She would constantly pick at me" Michelle, turn off the light, Michelle, pick up your clothes, Michelle quit sneaking out the back door." Non stop nagging..... Everyone was sooo surprised when I said, I start boot camp 7days after I get out of highschool.. I went I saw, I completed. Came home on leave, and had a wonderful time. Acted like a child again and got so drunk I fell out the back door.. My mom was driving me to the airport when she finally confided in me... " Michelle, I am so surprised at you, you still leave the lights onm you still leave your clothes on the floor, and now instead of sneaking out the back door, you fall, Nice" But anyways, After a year or so, I started coming home and it broke my heart how I had changed and my friends had stayed the same. I lost respect for my friends and lost them as friends(most), but for my mom, she's my best friend and I wouldn't dream of leaving my socks on her floor....

Well I also am an adult child. I am 22 yrs old, only on my own for 4 months. I don't really plan on going back home. I just know that some adult kids come home and eat some food from the fridge. Or some might leave their belongings around.

Haha, I can answer this from the perspective of the one who actually comes home to visit. I'm currently 3.5 hours away from home at college, and I know when I go home over vacations, I drive my parents absolutely INSANE! I stay up all night, and I sleep all day. I hang out, and while I do my chores, they get depressed because they never see me.