Guys who think they own their girlfriends, and vice-versa

Insecure and controlling. Of course, they SAY they're looking out for their partners best interest, but in all reality, they're looking our for their OWN best interests by controlling their partners choices and decisions. No, I wouldn't be with someone like that, and the controlling has been the precise reason I've left relationships in the past. I am my own person, I make my own choices. I don't need a man to do that for me, and when a man thinks he has the right to dictate my life and my choices is when I know that man doesn't deserve to be part of my life. Obviously, if he feels the need to change my way of thinking or dictate my decisions, then he doesn't love me for who I am, rather for who he wants to make me into. Of course this goes both ways ... I know plenty of women who think they can make up their mans mind FOR him, and tell him what he is and isn't allowed to do. Regardless, it's a pretty simple matter. If you love someone, then you love them for who they are. This entails the choices they make, as well. If you don't agree with their choices and decisions, and ever feel the need to 'correct' them, then obviously that person isn't for you and it's time to move on.

its not out of insecuity i think...tey tend to be r tey tend to show that tey r posessive..tis may go either way...increase ur bonding r lead u to an ego clash

i think that it's going too far enough if a partner is trying to think that they are owning their partner. i think that it's not right. in a relationship, people should accept a person with their personality and also respect this. if a partner is trying to appeal for a change, if it is for the betterment, then i think there's nothing wrong with it, but almost counting everything that you think should be done by your partner, then there is really something wrong with the way that person thinks. :)

I think people who want to control their partners are insecure and fearful there partner will leave them so like to control what they do and who they see. They also can't understand that your partner isn't a possession they control like a stereo or computer. It's hard to know what to do with people like this except try to teach them the error of their ways.

I am considerably older than you...about 12 years...but I have 3 grown children that I am very close to....I can tell you from past personal experiences that if a person truly loves you and is looking out for you own good...then they will respect the decisions that you make without reprisal.....they will support the decisions that you make without conditions....they will feel good for you when you succeed and will listen to you when things go badly for you....sharing the ups and downs mutually..... Any person who tries to force an issue...or withhold affection or other things in order to convince someone into doing something because it is what they want...then they are in the wrong...for whatever reason.....because in a happy healthy relationships....these things are not issues..... Take care....