why do people ask questions that they dont want an answer to?
By hahzen63
@hahzen63 (157)
Philippines
February 16, 2007 4:37am CST
a friend of mine way back asked me if she was gaining some weight. since she was a friend, and she knew i usually dont lie to her, i answered, yes, she had indeed gained some pounds and it was probably about time she did something about it.
i thought i had answered her question, but upon seeing her eyes were kinda teary, i said sorry and told her that she was not that fat, she just gained some few pounds...
now, am just wondering, if she did not want me to tell her she was getting fat, why ask the question in the first place?
you? do you have your own share of questions that were asked that those who asked would much rather have unanswered?
or are you the ones asking the question? hehe
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4 responses
@destinycole (827)
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16 Feb 07
I think they are looking for assurance from you. I do that too!
I will wear something nice and ask my Mum and her silence speaks volumes "you don't like it fine" tearfully I will take it off and try again.
Yes the truth hurts but if you lie to her than that is pain ful too.
@sonnet (164)
• South Korea
16 Feb 07
People ask these questions when they have a little insecurity they want resolved. They don't want to know if they are fat. They want reassurance that they are not fat. When people feel down, they seek positive reinforcement from friends. It's kind of tricky when you are the friend, especially if you are an honest person. Sometimes a good way to answer if you don't want to lie is to find a positive slant - such as telling a girlfriend you think she looks more womanly and suggest a new top to complement her shapely bosom. Maybe I'm being a little silly here, but it is possible to find a fun light-hearted comment in these situations, depending on the friend where you can provide reassurance without resorting to a lie.
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