how wud you want to live after marriage,with in-laws ya without ?
By nehaaaa
@nehaaaa (1748)
India
12 responses
@sacmom (14192)
• United States
3 Mar 07
I have a question for you. Have you actually lived with your in-laws? I did, for almost 10 years! Let me tell you, I found out how my in-laws really are, especially my mother in law and no it didn't take 10 years to find out.
My husband and I paid half of the bills (rent, phone, electric). It's not like my husband and I lived off of them, though my mother in law acts like she paid it all! Then again she is a pot smoking (I found this out years later), vodka drinking liar.
So no, I do not want to live with my in laws, ever again.
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
4 Mar 07
i did as well, she made it seem like her whole life she was helpless single woman raising 5 kids, she has lived with us for almost 5 yrs. and my husband even realizes how she really is! Once she moves out, i think we will not talk as often as we did! my mom in law she likes to suck the life and money out of every 1 around her without lifting a finger to fend for herself! she thinks she's always the victim!
@Buchi_bulla (8298)
• India
7 Mar 07
I would love to be with in-laws. May be we have to adjust a bit. But we learn so much from them. Whether it is house work, or bringing up children, certainly their experience is a good guidance for us. Remember, we too will be in-laws one day and how do you feel, if your son/daughter-in-law says she/he cannot stand to you?
@20031969 (932)
• India
7 Mar 07
i am very caring person since childhood that's why i believe in joint family. i do not want to leave separate.
@AngelicDevil20 (855)
• India
7 Mar 07
I have no big problem in it.. With in-laws or without in-laws its okie for me..
Thanks..
@3r7sweetie (937)
• Philippines
7 Mar 07
I never wanted to live with in-laws after marriage. I always wanted to live separately. I want my husband to be independent and not rely on his parents while we are married, so it is better for us to live away from our in-laws. My husband and I agree on this matter, so we live away from our parents. In this way, the parents of both parties couldn't mingle with our problems and we can decide what is good for both of us and our own family by ourselves.
@prakasharige (1129)
• India
16 Feb 07
I prefer to live separately. In case my in-laws are too old and nobody is there to look after them, then I won't mind living with them and taking care of them.
@mgmagana (3618)
• United States
4 Mar 07
well i kinda wish my inlaws were not in our lives, they're deceitful, and vindictive. my father in law has a thing where he says once ur kids get older they should help support their parents like their parents took care of them growing up. hhhmm he wasn't even in my husbands life hardly. my mom in law was on welfare and she even had her parents take care of my husband and his bros for a year. my father in law told my mom in law to ask my husband to help her out financially when she was in the hole, she's 46 yrs. old she can still work, she's healthy and all her kids r older, take care of urself.
@Lifeless (2635)
• India
16 Feb 07
I wud better jsut stay with my wife alone. It even sounds foolish when i hear smthing about sharing the house with ur inlaws. I hav heard and seen many stories about the misunderstandings and fights that occur on a regular basis b/w the younger and the lede couple. So, i wud better just stay out of it...