Dealing with a Sneaky 7- year old
By owens07
@owens07 (325)
Puerto Rico
February 16, 2007 8:38am CST
How do you deal with a 7 year old who knows he has to ask for permission first but chooses to take without permission anyways and then lies about taking what he took?
I'm referring to snacks, candy, and even money.
3 responses
@braided (698)
• Canada
20 Feb 07
Maybe you are too hard on him ... when ever we cant have something is when we usually want it ? yes its normal for a kid to sneak candy and treats especially if hes being monitored .... food is for kids to have ...yes kids need to be disiplined but not with food ... i know you said something about taking things out of the guests room ...well, thats a different story because a sense of respect should be taught here ... he doesnt want someone to go in his room and take his stuff ..does he? well he shouldnt do it to someone else either ... respect for yourself and for others and their belongings ... try going in his room and taking his favourite thing without asking ... see if he catches the drift ? ... just a thought ...
@owens07 (325)
• Puerto Rico
21 Feb 07
Maybe he's developing an insatiable appetite. That might explain sneaking food. Although a guest of the house tells me he offered him a piece of pie, then another one. There was still half a pie left which the seven year old helped himself to when no one was looking. He's not overweight but he's usually mistakin for 9 or 10. Maybe having healthy snacks like apples and bananas accesible will help curb his appetite. As far as taking money, I don't know. Hopefuly, it's just a phase that he'll grow out of or he'll get frustrated and quit.
@highflyingxangel (9225)
• United States
16 Feb 07
Make it so he can't get to those things that he takes. Put the snacks and everything in hard to reach area's of the kitchen or in rooms of the house that he can't get too. Lock up your money in a room or a safe box if you have too. If he can't get too it, he'll just realize that he'll have to ask for it and if you say no, it means no.
@owens07 (325)
• Puerto Rico
18 Feb 07
Yours and the other responses have been very insightful. I was also trying to get a sense if whether or not this is normal for a seven year old. I never tried it but then again I wasn't an only child so maybe knowing there were eyes everywhere was a factor. As far as locking things up, being deprived of whatever the child takes isn't the real concern. The concern is that the child is taking things in the first place. He's also taking things from the room of a guest in the house. The guest now has a lock for his door. He also has the bad habit of staring at people who are eating things that he wants. He'll stand there quietly with a cute smile on his face until they offer it to him. He'll also go stand next to strangers who are buying things from a vending machines and wait to be offered something. If not, he'll ask. None of the things he does in the presence of his parent which tells me he knows what he's doing is inappropriate. So far talking and depriving him of things hasn't work. He seems to feel if I can get away with it, I'm going to go for it.
@superbren (856)
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16 Feb 07
i would not approve of a child taking money from my purse. i would not mind them taking snacks as my son creeps in behind me , grabs a few bars and runs. it makes me laugh as he loves to eat. if he sat down and didnt eat his meals afterwards i would forbid him snacks but he does eat his meals. as for the money i would have to sit down and talk very carefully as to why he is stealing from me.i have three kids and i know they would never touch a penny out of my purse.i would be very hurt if they ever did. its not something i have had to warn them about , they just know not to.