are you a caring people???
By mvenezuela
@mvenezuela (141)
Philippines
February 16, 2007 9:40pm CST
People are not likely to care about " the other" if they dont care the human beings in general, starting with people close to them. To care with other people we need to feel cared about. Children are likely to first learn how to care with other people close to them, like parents, teachers, peers, and by extension also learn to care about other people further from them. CHildren who experience love, affection, and positive guidance will feel good about themselves, see the world as benevolent, and well value other people.
However, children who are experience neglect, rejection, hostility, and bad treatment cannot simply be instructed to care other people . Their experience will create fear and mistrust to other people.
Not only children, who are experiencing neglect, rejection, and hostility...
what would be your perception in this???
6 people like this
23 responses
@mememama (3076)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I disagree with children who are neglected-that they can't care and will mistrust people. I've had someone close to me who grew up like that and she cares deeply for manking, only because she knows how it is to not be cared for. She's very kind an compassionate.
I tend to put others before me, I'm a huge believer in karma so I think this goes with my belief system. My son is still very little and he has shown kindness to others, he'll help a kid up if they fall for instance, and he's only near 18 months. I love seeing this in such a little human!
@monkeywriter (2004)
• United States
18 Feb 07
I think kids who have had problems, need extra care themselves. They cant be expected to be caring people if they havent been treated like that. You usually reflect your environment you were raised in when you are treating others the same.
That is why abused people might have kids who go onto abuse others, etc.
Take care of those who cant care for themselves!
@jimotman (633)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 07
many children in my country are exploited, they're pushed by their parents (or worse, their parents rent their children to other people) to ask for money to drivers in the traffic lights! Or in front of a shopping center, the children just sit down on the side of the road waiting for pedestrians to give money. I'm sure this won't do any good for the children when they grow up. All they know is ask for money, they won't look for a job or do anything else to make money, just wait for money to come. This is really bad and the future of those neglected children are really not clear.
@p3halliwel2005 (3156)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
I care for people even if I don't know them...I care for my whole family and I share each ones affection.I care about people who are poor, for children.. I am cared about by others as well and even though no one cares I'll still care.
@ajinomoto23 (1057)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
Yes, I think I am. If I am left alone to myself, I seem to be at a lost. I am more myself if I am caring for someone. As if I cannot celebrate life - being alone. If I have someone with me, I will cook a good meal. Give her the things she needed or even bring her to a dentist.
@bakumatsu151 (88)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
in general, we can say that personality is molded in our homes with our family/loved ones. so the question on are we caring or not will always depend on how we are brought up. but perhaps it is also a matter of choice, if we choose to care and live our lives to the fullest or do the other way around..it depends..
@maryannemax (12156)
• Sweden
17 Feb 07
we learn mostly from our experiences. we are who we are because of what our experiences had taught us. you have a point there. most people who know how to care for others are those who were able to feel loved and cared for even when they were just kids and these kids upon growing up are able to pass the good gesture to others.
well, there are always exception to the rules. there are those who were showered with love and affection. and yet, they ended up "bad" in life. and there are those who were neglected, abused and never loved when they were still a child. but are able to surpass the pain they underwent before and still remain to be nice people. i know some of them who never had a good childhood. but they always think that they want to be nice to others because they don't want others to feel and go through the hardships and pain they had been through before.
so, it still all depends on the person. but it's always easier to be a caring individual when you experienced how nice it is to be cared for.
@kathy77 (7486)
• Australia
17 Feb 07
Yes I am a caring person, you know that you have to care for yourself first like they say you first have to love yourself and then you will learn to care for others. Children do learn to care for others and they should be cared for by their immedicate family, and others close to them. you are right what you are saying about caring people and it is best to show you care so that they can learn the positiveness of caring.
@nafeesa_mohd (281)
• India
17 Feb 07
i think... ya the world has to teach their children to care atleast a little about others......
@countdown21 (111)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Well, I believe upbringing does have an impact but is it nurture or nature? I'm convinced that the "terrible twos" are not caused by little ones "experiencing neglect, rejection and hostility." It is a sin nature; we are all born sinners. I know this is not popular today. I can't blame my faults on my parents, surroundings, or teachers. I'm convinced that when I reached audulthood, the choice was mine; I could be caring or not. There's a God in heaven that gives all a little light and free will. If we walk in the light we shine and get more light, if we reject the light we end up in darkness. Jesus Christ is the light; this is my "perception" of this.
countdown21.com
@goki_vijay (14)
• India
17 Feb 07
Caring is the very important word. According to our nature, We must teach about love and caring people to our children. We must help each other and we must care about other people and we are dependant for every business and all of our activities. We have to teach all those things since childhood to our children.
@ayoneeyee (51)
• United States
17 Feb 07
Most times, what you don't have, you can't give. if you've not felt love, you can give it back. It takes the grace of God to give care back if you've not experienced it. Love is from the heart, and care comes form love.
@maumbi (2569)
• Indonesia
17 Feb 07
for me the correct question is Do I CARE that they have feelings? Sometimes yes, sometimes no. Sometimes if the person is willfully ignorant or belligerant or rude I respond in kind. Sometimes I tell people things they don't want to hear. Sometimes I give them answers that they hoped were true. That doesn't mean I don't care.
@sunita64 (6469)
• India
17 Feb 07
Yes I am a caring person, and I feel what you get in life is what you return to life, so if you have been cared for then you automaticlly become a caring person. My parents brought me up with full of care and affection so that is what I have for others.
@blacknight000 (1397)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
im a caring person!...i cared so many things like myself, family, and friends!...im caring in way that will never tolerate bad doings!...a caring person that willing to do everything just for them!...caring in a way of protecting them from harmful people like enemies!...im willing to fight all the enemies that did something wrong agains my family, friends, and myself!...
@silentwill (1685)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
I believe I'm a very caring person and my love one told me that :) Although I'm not a master of expressing feelings to the people I love, when it comes to care, I'd do everything.
@puja2rhyme (30)
• India
17 Feb 07
On contrary, i have met people who care about other people more than themselves. This is a dangerous trait as this leads to lot of frustration in the later part of their lives, if they do not get the same reciprocation. Therefore, caring starts from yourself.Take care of yourself first only then you can take care of other people.