Would you go to your ex' wake and funeral?
By fieryfrost
@fieryfrost (316)
Philippines
February 17, 2007 12:15am CST
Our family friend died yesterday, here's the info of what happened (I know it doesn't have any bearing with my topic, but I just wanted to let it out of my system since we are still mourning):
He was having breakfast around 3 am with his cousin after a date when the men from the other table just got up and stabbed both of them with their steak knives. His vital organs were hit and that's the reason why he died. He died at the young age of 31.
Anyway, going to my question, he had a long time girlfriend (we all thought that they will get married), they broke up and now he's trying to live his life, then this happened. Last night was the first night of his wake and tonight is his last, on Sunday he will be cremated. Last night, we were all waiting for his ex-girlfriend to show up but sadly she didn't. My question is, if you were in her position would you go? Would you be willing to see your ex in the coffin and talk to his family after what happened to your relationship?
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@leleng (246)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
of course, if i were his ex-gf then i will go to his wake. well they've been together for years and its the last time she will see him. She should at least give a last glance to a person who's a been part of her life. But try to look at the girl's side. Maybe she cant bare seeing his ex-bf in a coffin? and that's the reason why she didnt even visited the wake.
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@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
17 Feb 07
Thank you for your response. You have a point, maybe she wanted to preserve their past, their memories rather than seeing him lifeless in a coffin.
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@denden (802)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
i would be willing to see my ex in th coffin and talk to his family after what happen to our relationship because its past and i leave the past as my memories. i forgive those who have sinned to me. and i forget those sins they've done. what about you?
@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
Thank you for your response. As for your question, I am married now and I think I would have to ask my husband's opinion on this one. I would probably bring him to his wake.
@itsjustmeb (1212)
• Canada
18 Feb 07
Well, it would depend on the relationship that you had with his family ...if it was good then I would go. If not, then no.
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@stephcjh (38473)
• United States
17 Feb 07
I think I would have someone ask the family if it is okay if I come. I know sometimes families act differently towards others in that time. I would at least try to show my respects somehow, but always make sure not to step on the hearts or toes of the loved ones family.
@fieryfrost (316)
• Philippines
18 Feb 07
Thank you for your response. I think his family already contacted her and told her that she's welcome if she'll come. We're just waiting for whats going to happen next.
@ddlaurie (132)
• Canada
17 Feb 07
Yes I would go whether there were hard feeling or not. He was apart of her life for a long while she should have gone. Her going may have eased your family pain to. But some people feel the relationship ended they have no business being there I believe that is wrong people have a right to morn old flames friends and enemies. There is no easy answer to this but her not showing up she has no closer to that life.
@vanities (11395)
• Davao, Philippines
18 Feb 07
for me i will visit and give my sympathy to his family ...although we have separated may it in the good or bad way..that if im near on that area..but if im very far then i just send some condolence card for that matter..
