i have a 5 year old son who's always being bullied at by one classmate

I went thru this with my sons and they each had there own experience with bullies and it worked they only ever had to do it once. But my advice to them was if soemone is bulling you or picking a fight give them one. Aim for their nose and give them one good shot to it. Nothing scares them more when they see that flash of white light and pain. Then they look and see there own blood on there hands, it may end there with them running off or backing down but they may want more so be ready they may beat you up but they probally will not. After you have done that the kid will not bug you any more they will go looking for weaker targets that will not fight back or they will become a target themselves. It was passed to me from my dad who got it from his dad. I had to use it a few times becasue we chnaged schools a few times and I was the new kid in the school and for some reason a bully always wanted to go at me. To me looking back at my experiences and my sons its like kids try to establish a pecking order for the play ground.

Tht's easy... tell him you did not raise your son to do that. That would hit the spot! The nerve for him to answer something like that! You can also talk to school authorities and let them know that the father answered you that. Weird!

Mind that dad. I've heard such advice from other parents quite a lot in my daughter school mostly from "dad", too. And some kids picked up what they've heard quite fast. It goes the same for girls. Once at my daughter(she's 4 years old) school, I saw this girl pushed another girl real hard for no reason and this other girl pushed her back. What happened was, that girl cried as loud as she can. And that made the other gild looked like a guilty one just because she didn't cry. Luckyly she has me as a witness. What if she didn't ???? I think you should tell your own kid not to do "eye" for an "eye" as often as possible. I told my daughter day in day out, if somebody hit her not to hit her back and just avoid her.

No wonder the kid is bullying others! It is obvious that talking to the kids dad has no effect. Odds are your son is not the only one beeing bullied by this kid. I would talk to the teacher about this. If the parents are not able to teach their kids how to treat other people hopefully the teacher can be a better role model for them. Hope you are able to help your son stop this bully (and his dad)!