Dowry- A TRADIONAL CRIME

February 17, 2007 6:27am CST
Dowry , for ages countries of asia, especially india and pakistaan and many more outside asia also, are sufferring from this vital infection in the society. And when the young generation goes aginst it, they are supressed by their parents and when the same young generation themselves become parents they are also not against it, something that always hurts me.. wat do u think is the reason for it,,,,, is it the greed for money,,,,, people say its a culture and trradition of their caste.... so do their caste says if u dont recieve favours in form of dowrry, then harrass the lady for it ??????? do u think Dowry is being reduced.... i dont think so, but the forms of give n take have changed....
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8 responses
@sahira (1071)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
For muslims,dowry is necessary and it is not actually a burden,it is compulsory.And men should be the one to provide dowry,if the women has to proven then it would be a traditional crime.
@sahira (1071)
• Philippines
25 Feb 07
i mean for the last sentence,is the women who provide for dowry.
@SONALIKA (573)
• India
5 Apr 07
whether dowry taken or given both are crime.it is a sort of help in form of blessings given by parents to their daugters as girls lawfully were not partners to their brothers in paternal property;hence it was for her financial security.but these days 1) girls are educated 2)have shre in paternal property 3)can earn on their own. so i don't think there is need for dowry custom any more.but the problem is everyone loves easy money coming to their house... there is no answer to human's greed.so girls parents are even forced to this date for the dowry.those who can give should also feel for their social responsibilities as poor people can't. i would say all the brides and grooms should stand for this noble cause, then only some difference can be made
@raisushkr (1398)
• India
26 Feb 07
there r som ppl who ask for dowry and then there r some ppl who give these things to show their status. it is ok if parents give dowry or gifts to the son who is marrying his daughter,but its not good when those persons force a parent to give dowry.
@cap_leo18 (357)
• India
17 Feb 07
I don't think so dowry is a wrong ,if its is affordable. dowry id the payment for their future no for the selling or any purchase.
@tamana (215)
• Pakistan
5 Apr 07
yeah i agree wid u ,it is most common problem in pakistan too. but u knw still i have seen some familes which had never asked 4 dowry here in pakistan. even my own relatives dont ask 4 dowry. but u knw the parents of the girl,always wants to give alot of dowry to their daughter coz they think then our daughter will be given more value in her in laws. let me tell u,one interestimg thing here in pakistan. in province of balochistan, when a girl is going to marry,her parents ask dowry from the parents of boy.and if they cant give the expected things,so the marriage is cancelled. so in balochistan,everybody wants to have a daughter instead of son.coz son is burden on them.
@mdarma (868)
• Singapore
26 Feb 07
I believe that this was pass down from generations and this generatiion is merely taking advantage of it. I believe bridegrooms parenst ask dowry simply saying that they spend lots of $ educating their son. Nowadays birdes are equally educated and are doing well socially. Now they are on the same scale. What is next move for the bridegroom parents.
@darshakk (2141)
• India
17 Feb 07
i think that ppl do it ,the younger generation boz their parents told them to. now when they become older ,they do it bcoz everyone likes money and when money is coming on their doorsteps why wud they deny it!!!!!! this is bad as i feel
@smkwan2007 (1036)
• Hong Kong
17 Feb 07
Yeah, in many Asia countries, it is a traditional custom. When people get married, the would be husband have to give the parents of the bride a large amount of money and the girl's parents give dowry to the family of the would be bridegroom in return. This kind of custom becomes burden to both families because they have to prepare huge sum of money for their young to marry with dignity. In my view this forms burdens to both families involved. Why not just forget all these and simply let the new couple become spouses.