Baby shower

If you really think that it will be awful then no I wouldn't go. What I would do is buy a gift and drop it off at the beginning off the shower and explain that for whatever reason you just can't stay. I would be polite and wish her a wonderful shower and all that good stuff, but I don't think that I would subject myself to any of the discomfort that your mother may have caused with the rumors that she started. I think that by showing up for a couple of minutes and eaving a gift with your sister-in-law, should show that you care and wish her no ill feelings. Just my 2 cents worth. Good luck to you and your family, I hope all works out for the best. :)

well they never bothered with you did they...sometimes you get fed up of being too polite..and out with a begging bowl ..i have had my fill of bowing down to family members just to be trashed by them..they will accept your gift but not your presence? not fair is it? sorry but the way i feel now and what i have experienced..if they are like crap to you..ignoring them is the better option..if your mother is putting your sister in law above you then keep a polite distance..you don't have to be rude or nasty..but as they say the rare is dear..when they see you are not running after them and being so submissive..they might turn around and think about their bad actions..if not..then they don't deserve your time..family is people that care..blood is not always enough..

Don't feel bad I have family members the same spread rumors about other family members what can you do but be annoyed. If you think you feel uninvited and uncomfortable I just wouldn't go. So I would say the he** with it.

I thought that this kind of thing was handled. You seem to have wasted your time. I am not sure what else has to happen before you go on with your own life. A card at this point to the sister in law and then you are done. I guess the direct answer would be I would not go. Would be done and have my own party! Hoping only good things in your life and please take care of your and yours!!

I think I would call the sister-in-law and say that you don't want to ruin her shower with the tension that your Mom has caused, so you are going to bow-outof the party. Make arrangements to drop off your card/gift at another time. If you still have a good enough relationship with your sister-in law, maybe you could go to lunch together at another time. But I really don't think you should have to suffer through the shower if you don't want to go.

I am a redheaded Italian and I can tell you I would go and Hold My Head Up High. I would present my gift with all the flourish I could muster and I would talk. I would tell anyone who would listen what my Mother was doing. I would say it loud enough for everyone to hear. I would let my sister-in-law know that I cared for her and her baby and that I wanted to be a part of their lives. I would tell everyone that yes I may have made mistakes but there is anyone who hasn't and if they still didn't want to have anything to do with me that that was their problem to deal with. You can pick your friends but your relatives are yours for the rest of your life.

i do not know what's the matter with your mother, she created a rumor between you and your sister-in-law, that's so sad, because as we know mothers should create a peaceful and harmonius relationship between her children.your mother is different.. but i hope that everything will be alright with you and your family, good day... if you feel like you are going to be out of place in the baby shower, you can drop by and give your gift.

Hmmm this is a tough and preety uncomfortable situation. If I were you I would not go. Did you talk to your sister in law about the rumer and wanted to clear all the confusion? If you did not, you should do that. I am sorry you are in such a situation. I know it is preety awful if someone make a misunderstanding about you. Best of Luck!

They shouldn't be treating you that way. It isn't right. I would have a hard time with that one too. To be honest, I probably wouldn't go, just to avoid problems and arguments.

I think I would go to the shower. And take the lead from your sister. This might be an ideal time to patch things up. If not at least you tried. And then it is really up to your sister to make the next move. I have just noticed you posted this 21 hours ago! What did you do in the end hon? Did it all work out ok?

i would stop by and drop off a small gift like wipes or diapers or a little gift set and say that i have to go and leave. maybe then they will see that your not a bad person, and would make them feel guilty. i know that sounds bad, but hey, what else can you do. at least your not stooping to their level.

That's strange. Leave a message at your sister's phone try to make her understand what you are feeling now. You still don't have to go if you feel like not going, but let her know how you feel and send her a card or small gift for the baby. If you know for sure you haven't done anything bad to your sister and your mom is insane, don't let bad gossip get in between without explanation.

i say that you should definitely say to hell with it. live your own life. and forget about them, one day they'll get a life and realize their mistake. so in the mean time relaxe and enjoy life. it's too short to live it like the way you do.

Hi, this is your sister which you love so by all means GO. We cannot choose our family but we've gotta learn to deal with them. Parents can be nasty but you are the better person if you forgive and forget.

I would go and I would take a gift to the shower , I would give the gift then make an excuse that you have to be somewhere , If you are like me and you don't like to tell lies then really make an appointment to go visit a Friends or someone else and then you can leave the shower , You will then feel better that you had gone , xx

I wouldn't go nor would I even give them the time of day. Why worry about them, when all they are doing is making you look bad in other peoples eyes? I would go on about my business and when they show up or call wondering what happened to you then you let them have it.

I hope you went to the baby shower. why would you not go. family are always trying to get stuff started I would just ingnore it. you should not be mad with your mother wake up with her. you only have one Mother.

Well if I am really Honest I would not go. I can't be doing with things like that. So I would not even bother with any of them, I think it is awful behaviour and I think you should just not bother with them to be honest I am really sorry this is happening to you and I do hope that it will stop soon.

If she has a gift registry that you can purchase online then do that. It would be mailed to her. You could attach a note to the present to explain why you will not be there. If there is not an online gift registry buy it and mail it with a note.

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