Character traits...which one are you?

I guess I am a "reformed" people pleaser. Which isn't to say that I don't enjoy helping people-- just that I no longer try to bend myself into a pretzel shape to do so. And I certainly no longer allow myself to "lose myself" in the process of helping another. One of my Teachers once explained that there's a difference between "being self-less" and "losing self." Perhaps the bottom line is that we have to take are of ourselves, FIRST. Not in a selfish way, but in terms of having a sense of what is OK with us, and what is not. The truth is, we all are different, and we are "a certain way." It's folly to think that everybody is going to like us. In fact, it's probably folly to think that more than 1/10 of the people out there will like us. And maybe we are really better off is we just focus our attention on being fully "ourselves," as a result of which the 10% who are pretty much on the same page, will "naturally" like us. That never USED to be good enough for me, but I am learning that it's probably the healthiest aproach to life.

i think to bee a pleaser it's depend on situation, sometimes we have to be a pleaser so we can accepted in our society,but over pleaser will kill u too, we will lost our respect

i like to take care of things in my own family..and i dont care what everyone tells about me as long as what im doing was good and im not hurting someone in that regard...

I'd like to say that I am a recovering people pleaser. =p I do find myself often going out of my way to do things for people, and in a way it's nice. I like being able to help others, especially when they are wonderful people deserving of help. I love when I can do something to make someone's day, week, month, or lifetime better. On the other hand, I'm starting to learn that there is a difference between being nice and letting everyone walk all over you. If I am doing something for someone that they are perfectly capable of reciprocating, I'm eventually going to stop doing it unless they reciprocate. If they can't, that's different, but I'm tired of having people take advantage of my good nature. Overall, I just try to treat everyone well, and hope they will do the same for me.

People pleaser here. As I get older, I am not as much a peopple pleaser as I have been, but I still do it too much. I am 36 and I am still afraid to tell my parents things that I know will make them mad or disappoint them. I don't like to complain about customer service or anything like that beecauze I don't want to be labeled a "trouble maker". It is stupid and you are right...no matter what you do, there will always be someone that isn't happy with you. I am trying to do better, though.

I'm still quite young, I'm 19 but have come to learn that there isn't a way for you to please everyone. I, for the longest, wanted to please everyone, because I felt "bad" if every person wasn't pleased. But I started to realize, why'd I just do/say that? That wasn't what I felt/wanted. If you TRY to please everyone, in the end, in some fashion or form, YOU won't be happy. Always trying to bend yourself, your actions or what not to what pleases others, isn't always what is best for you.

I am not a people pleaser. I have no problem going out of my way to help someone if they need something, but other than that I dowhat I want to do. The problem with always want to satisfy others is that a) it's a constant slog and b) I don't see how you can truly be happy in yourself. I've very lucky because I know my flaws and I'm ok with them. No one is perfect and I'm pleased with the person that I am..:)

Yeah the phrase is true dear friend some people do want to look for something extra but some just want it fixed as it is...so its not tealy easy to please everybody.in my case...I do want to serve those who require my services,but to please them in the same time.i dont think so..even in my work when all of our clients require attention i do politely tell them that i/we have scheduled clients to attend to...first come first serve basis...if they can wait then i/we'll serve them and they wont regret waiting.

Yes till few days ago i use to believe i am a trouble shooter. but all that was a waste thats what i have realised now when my friends were not satisfied with my work and relationship with them. It was a shock to me that people i leave with, i work with are the one not ot admire that. Instead i have realised that all the things cannot go your way and if it does give a check probably you are in wrong lane.

I am definitely a people pleaser, but it's not that I'm always trying to make them like me, I just want to make sure everyone is happy. I know you're right and we can't make everybody happy all the time, but I sure do try to, sometimes to the extent of putting myself out. I would really like to be able to get out of this habit and learn how to say no once in a while.

I am a people pleaser. I have difficulty in saying no for it bothers me whenever I need to make another person disappointed. I guess this has something to do with my desire to sleep peacefully at night without anything to think or worry about. But sometimes it is inevitable that I say no to prevent further negativities so I really think carefully about what I should do so that I won't have any regrets afterwards.

Many poeple are driven by the need for approval. They allow the expectations of parents or spouses or children or teachers or friends to control their lives. Many adults are still trying to earn the approval of unpleaable parents. Others are driven by peer pressure, always worried by what others might think. Unfortunately, those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it. I don't know all the keys to success, but one key to failure is to try to please everyone. Being controlled by the opinion of others is a guaranteed way to miss God's purpose for your life. Jesus said, "No one can serve two masters." Nothing matters more that knowing God's purposes for your life, and nothing can compensate for not knowing them -not success, wealth, fame, or pleasure. Without a purpose, life is a motion without meaning, activity without direction, and events without reason. Know God's purpose in your life, then you'll know who u really are.....

Many poeple are driven by the need for approval. They allow the expectations of parents or spouses or children or teachers or friends to control their lives. Many adults are still trying to earn the approval of unpleaable parents. Others are driven by peer pressure, always worried by what others might think. Unfortunately, those who follow the crowd usually get lost in it. I don't know all the keys to success, but one key to failure is to try to please everyone. Being controlled by the opinion of others is a guaranteed way to miss God's purpose for your life. Jesus said, "No one can serve two masters." Nothing matters more that knowing God's purposes for your life, and nothing can compensate for not knowing them -not success, wealth, fame, or pleasure. Without a purpose, life is a motion without meaning, activity without direction, and events without reason. Know God's purpose in your life, then you'll know who u really are.....

Acctualy if you are trying to make everyone like you then you should be acting many athings to others.I mean say if you want a girl to like you then you would be only showing your nice side..And when she knows more of you then she would no about your otherside.So its kinda immpossilbe to make people to like you.And whats easier is to just be yourself.And have people who like your true self than those whom don't like your otherself.This would be helping you a lot and so would it help others.

i can say, it depends on the person i am with. if it's for the benefit of my family and my boyfriend, i'll do everything not just to please them but to make them happy. but ofcourse, there's a limit to everything. if i get hurt, i open up to them rather than smiling as if nothing happens. i do get satisfied, too. i'm the kind of person who's not hard to talk to. but i don't easily give in as well. i practice my freedom of speech. i always ask and ask not because i don't trust you or someone but because i wanna be sure. i don't wanna get into something i might just get hurt in the end. but when i am pleased and satisfied, there's no need for me to ask anymore. i do know lots of people who are very hard to please. infact, some really don't get pleased at all.. and oh, some really "DON'T WANT to get pleased at all." these are people who never believes in everything but themselves. who thinks that they are always superior to anybody. and that they think that they are always right.

I'm not a people pleaser. I'm always going to do what's right and fair. If someone has a problem with that, it's their problem. I think being an only child gave me a lot of confidence in life. Part of that confidence was to realize that what other people think isn't important if you're doing what you believe is right. You don't have to have conflict in your life by doing that, either. I think a lot of people-pleasers are trying to avoid conflict, and that their self-esteem is based on what others think of them. I've never suffered from those particular delusions.

i thk u never please each and everyone to whom u want to please,i mean be polite with everyone don't try to please them.

I have several things about me and most i dont like. I am perfectionist, I have A.D.D. the adult shy kind, I'm shy, sometimes upset easily, people pleaser/addicted to approval, low self esteem, and peace maker. I try to be different, I try to be like others. I also am easily amused and have a morbid sense of humor. At least those I laugh at :))

I don't think i am a people pleaser. Coz I always said everything that comes out of my mind and hurt alot of people. I just can't help it. I don't really care what the other think about me. Some of them think I'am snobby or doesn't want to hang out with. Coz if I don't even know someone or none of my friends introduce me to them I they just doesn't exsist for me. I remember last week one of my preacher daughter came to me and said " HAI " I said " HAI " back to her and continue what I did with my friends and I saw her left. I didn't know who is that so I wont talk.