Do you think exes should be friends?

That's the impression I get too, that she's insecure. If anyone tried to make me leave my children alone, in favor of their children or themselves, I'd have to tell them and their children to leave. My children are just as important to me as is my step daughter and that's how my husband treats my children.

Thanks for you reply. He had stopped paying child support in 2005, when they got together, he told me his atty told him he didn't need to pay any more because he couldn't afford it as he had her and her two boys living with him. When I asked again in July 2006 (which was a year later) he finally responded with, "you do what you have to do, as I'm prepared to do what I have to do...don't press me..." So, I did, I called my atty and sued him for contempt, he wasn't paying me anything and a few other things from our original divorce agreement. It took 8 months of waiting but I won! (I did offer a settlement, not the full amount because it's about the children, not the money...although the money was needed and helps) Now he will pay me until our youngest graduates high school and for about 43 months after that too.

It had started to feeling like a soap opera, I just decided he's not worth my time any more. I have to focus on my children and the rest of my family. As for talking to him about the children anyway, he won't and hasn't for over a year, answered the phone if it's my home number, my cell phone, or my husband's cell phone. He won't take any calls from the house because he said he didn't want to talk to anyone here...He doesn't even take calls from our children from their own cell phones. So much for talking to him. They do have their step dad in their lives and he's great to them, better than their own dad, especially now that he has written them off, in favor of her and her kids.

I have to agree, children shouldn't be pawns in any relationship. My husband and his ex are like that, they tolerate each other for their daughters sake. Thanks for the post.